Grr (and a bit of a laugh) at Plunket

So the conversation went a bit like this:

Me: "I'd rather feed him every three hours or so, but lately he's been waking up after 45 minutes, and won't go back to sleep, so I've just got him up and fed him and started again. This means he's getting fed more like every two hourly".

Her: "Oh, you shouldn't go that, make sure you stretch him out to three hours. Take him for a walk or something"

Me: "Ok. That means after he wakes up from a 45-min sleep, I'll stretch him out another hour, then feed him. But after an hour of being up, he'll be tired by that point - so I should feed him and then put him to bed?"

Her: "No, we recommend you do a 'feed / change / play' routine. So you feed him, then he has his up time'

Me: "Ok. So he'll wake up after 45 minutes, I'll stretch him out for another hour, I'll feed him, then I'll give him some more up time to make sure he has a play after his feed. That will probably mean he's awake for a couple of hours, though, is that OK?"

Her: "Well, no, at his age he should only be up for an hour and a half max."

Me: "Oh. Well the only way to avoid that and still keep the feed / change / play routine is to feed him a bit earlier..."

Her: "No, he shouldn't be fed sooner than three hours after the last one..."

Seems there just isn't a solution (My plan is to keep muddling along in a similar manner to what I've been doing...)

hahaha, what's your problem, makes perfect sense to me

LOL Hopes - you have to stick to the rules even if they make no sense whatsoever

haha I've had similar conversations with my PN, too. She's lovely and has awesome advice, but sometimes they need to loosen up a little and realise not all babies are the same

Mason, for the last month or two, has been a 45minute napper. But I just fit food and play in around it however he indicates. Generally he feeds every 3 hours, but sometimes it's a feed every 90 minutes.
Really, you just have to do what works for you and baby

Hahahaha i love that

Its funny because BFing your baby is so different to bottle feeds. I always demand feed DD.

And no the last thing you want is an overtired baby

hahh my 12 month old goes anywhere form 1-4 hours between beastfeeds and he is on solids too

Lol Plunket are awesome aren't they!
Sometimes I just didn't tell them what I was doing. Easier not to get into discussions about why I wasn't following their way of doing things

I always found it so silly how at the beginning they are so 'you MUST feed on demand' and then at some stage (I'm not sure when the cut off was lol) they change their tune to 'you MUST feed every x hours, or x times a day'.

I take what plunket says with a grain of salt!

Ive always muddled along to my own lil routine and thats worked for us.

kebakat wrote: Don't ya love plunket. I got told off for changing his nappy before I put him to bed each time because I didn't wanna risk it leaking and that being a reason to wake him up. I was informed that a nappy should be able to hold 1L of fluid so I said to her by that reasoning I should only be going through one nappy a day then since hes drinking less than that... yeah ok

wtf and what about nappy rash gee my son gets a clean nappy before I put him down for his sleep unless I have just and does she realise how much 1 litre actually is..it would mean that the nappy was soaked which IMO the nappy has been on far too long

kebakat wrote: Don't ya love plunket. I got told off for changing his nappy before I put him to bed each time because I didn't wanna risk it leaking and that being a reason to wake him up. I was informed that a nappy should be able to hold 1L of fluid so I said to her by that reasoning I should only be going through one nappy a day then since hes drinking less than that... yeah ok

what an odd thing for plunket to say. Why would you put them to sleep in a wet nappy? surely its much more comfortable to sleep in a clean nappy and then they may sleep longer as well. Silly plunket.

 

I actually quite like my nurse- she seems pretty relaxed and didn't seem at all bothered that Tom still doesn't eat much (or any) solids and wakes multiple times in the night. I was expecting a bit of lecture, so it made a nice change.