Were all your babies alike?

I'm nearly ready to take the plunge into the madness of another baby, but given my first baby has been very challenging, I'm more than a little hesitant, and I'd like some idea of my chances of getting another one like her!

So, if one of your babies had reflux, did they all? And as bad?

Did they have similar sleep patterns and start sleeping long stretches at similar ages?

Were they generally similar in attitude?

Thanks muchly

Alex is only like 2 weeks old but so far hes very very different from Daniel.

Daniel didn't wanna feed at all, BF was a total battle every feed. Alex is a piglet with no issues whatsoever.

Daniel was a mega screamer, wake up and scream for food. Alex just chills out, he only ever cries if hes uncomfy from wind or if you expose his feet of all things lol

Daniel was all over the place with feeding/sleeping as in no routine that he made. Alex is like clockwork so far.

Alex just seems like a much more laid back baby than Daniel was. I'm not complaining

My second is WAY more chilled than my first! My first has a big personality, was challenging from day one, my second is only 2 weeks old but is very different already!

I had a bit of trouble getting her back to sleep the other night, like it took 10 mins rather than straight back - was telling my mum she cracked up and asked me did she actually cry! Great question cause she hardly ever does...

So yep very different kids!

Thanks ladies, nice to know it might be easier next time. And you raise a good point Monikah - that I already know how to deal with many of her issues so even if the next one is as bad I'll cope better.

Thanks Hopes I'll definitely be breeding again, it's more a matter of when. I guess I have to expect the next one to be another shocker just in case, and then be pleasantly surprised if it's not.

My 2 were completely different.  IMO having a challenging 1st child is far better than having a chilled first baby and a challenging 2nd.  As Monikah pointed out you'll already be prepared with coping strategies, I was so if DS had been as hard as DD was I would have been ok.  The fact that he was so easy was a bonus.

I can't comment on on my situation as only have the 1, but just going on hearing from what my mum has told me of the differences between myself and my 2 sisters, my oldest sister was fairly good but on the go. My middle sister was hard work (in my mum's words), cried all the time, hardly ever slept, alot more sensitive and then I was a textbook baby, slep through from an early age and was very laidback.

I think if you have a tough ride with your first you will be more prepared for it second time around. Im a bit worried as DS is pretty good, sleep wise, did have reflux early on but that has passed so I'm hoping that whenever babe no 2 happens, that we won't be thrown a curveball with a tougher baby.

Yip I'm sorta hoping that they'll be different in some ways but also think I'll be better prepared as it won't be such a learning curve as the first and I'm going to try and be more relaxed and just have to go with the flow of what the two little ones require.

I think you'll be fine with two and a fantastic mum to both of them T_Rex.

MrsMojo wrote: My 2 were completely different.  IMO having a challenging 1st child is far better than having a chilled first baby and a challenging 2nd.

Yes!!!! There is hope for me then?! lol

please please please please let this next one sleep better than the first did.......does!

I'm slightly different, in that my two are the same age...but they're still very different!!! Jade is quite a demanding, attention seeking child who will give kisses and cuddles away to anyone who wants them....Amber is more reserved, but very cheeky.

It goes to show that it really is nature over nurture, because there hasn't been any difference between them in how the girls are raised...

So, if one of your babies had reflux, did they all? And as bad?

Did they have similar sleep patterns and start sleeping long stretches at similar ages?

Were they generally similar in attitude?

no reflux thankfully... sorry haven't read replies but i have heard there is a high chance of susequent babies having it if your first did..

no to similar sleep patterns... (mine are 2 yrs 4 days apart) and no 1 slept three hours at a time and didnt need to be fed in the night from 5-6 months and only needed dummy replacement...

number two slept 45 mins a time in day time from birth till 5 months and now normal 1.5 hours or so.. and still wakes to be fed twice a night though he self settles which is great.

and no they are totally different...partly cause I'm more relaxed and Liam has been around more people but Ethan gets upset easy and takes a while to warm up Liam loves anyone and everything..both have awesome sense of humour though :) but yeah they are quite different..