TTC and Xmas functions???

or any social function for that matter...

I am just wondering what everyone is doing/telling people during this time? Obviously I don't want to drink eccessively (not that I do normally...but I have never been known for shying away from a bottle of wine..or 2 ) and am just wondering what to say when people notice that I'm not drinking?

its just that time of year too...realised that Hubby and I have some kind of function every weekend til xmas!

any ideas are greatly appreciated

If you are in the TTC stage I'd still have a few, perhaps one or 2 max and be the sober driver and use that as your reason. That way you can still enjoy the night and alcohol before you are actually pregnant without making it too obvious

Even if you are in the 2ww, one or 2 glasses wont do any harm, just dont go on a bender IYKWIM

I'm in the same boat. I'm avoiding alcohol altogether, because I've read some really persuasive research that any amount of alcohol actually affects your chances of conception. I'm sure that's not a problem for most people (lots of people drink and get pregnant... in fact that's why some people get pregnant ) , but mine are so low anyway I'm doing everything I can to increase them.

I'm lucky that I'm usually just a one-or-two glasses type anyway, and at our work functions it's pretty normal for the odd person to not drink for one reason or another, but I'm sure I will be asked. I'm not sure what I'll say yet... hesitant to use the anti-b's line, but might have to resort to it.

I'm a bit of a lush. Last year I drank at Christmas functions. When I found out I was pg I had had 2 or 3 glasses at about 7 functions. I felt pretty bad.
So I'd say maybe have one or two if your pre-ovulation or between OV and possible implantation (6 DPO?). After implantation, I'd avoid it. Obviously, alcohol significantly reduces you chances of getting PG. So none is better. After all, if you want to kill someting living (like bugs on a cut, or a doctor doing an operation) alcohol is what you can use to do this!
Appletize in a wine glass is the most convincing fake wine.

What I do, and what i did when I was in early pregnancy last time and don't want to tell people or explain why I am not drinking, is to just order a glass of wine, and sit on it all night. don't drink it, people don't even notice unless you make a thing about telling people you are not drinking.

Im in the same boat, Ive got my hens night next weekend and Im not a drinker - 1-2 nights a year maybe so I think I'll have a few and just sit on them forever. I can still have a lot of fun me thinks

Most of my work functions are the drinks and nibbles kind, where there's glasses of wine and OJ, and no-one would think twice if you're drinking one not the other, so I'm not too worried about them.

The one I'm worried about is a committee I'm on - we're in the habit of sharing a bottle or so of champagne every year, and it just looks odd to say no, and there's no chance of substituting. I was in the TWW last year and raised eyebrows then by saying 'no thanks'... (gosh, can't believe it's a year since then, if you'd told me then that I'd still be trying now I'd have been a wreck). I guess it's possible I'm on anti-bs two years in a row??

ETA that I know these people very well, we spend a lot of time working together, so trust me, they will suspect something if I don't drink. Oh well, I guess I can just let them suspect.

Edited by Hopes

half coke half raspberry looks like beer.

say your Oj has vodka in it (no one will know unless they take a sip)

if you have to have wine and you DP/DH is with you just tip a little bit of yours into his glass every now and then so that the wine in your glass goes down as if your drinking it.

ummm what else did i do the other night

hmmm cant remember my other tricks right now
I'll be back lol

ohh thanks girls! I like the sober driver idea...it's actually never me so maybe its about my turn anyway :-)

also I am a beer drinker so might give macs light a go.

We have lots of very close (very social!) friends who will notice if I am not drinking...but I guess they will just have suspect whatever they like ;-)

Everything will be soooo much easier when we can all say 'sorry cant drink because we are having a baby!!' :-)

Ask for grape juice instead of wine. No one will know the difference.

As I dont drink (apart from maybe 1 or 2 glasses) a year I don't really get what the big deal is with just saying I'm not drinking tonight