not sleeping in bassinet during the day?

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When DD2 was that age she wouldn't sleep in her basinette during the day either (actually she didn't love it at night either lol). She wanted to be around me all the time I think and I couldn't stand letting her cry... so in the end I would wrap her up nice and tight and she'd sleep in one of those big circle pillows in the lounge so she could hear me fluffing around worked well for us... she co-slept with us more than not at night so that may explain why she wasn't keen on the basinette.

With Jake we worked on the principal of 1 minute crying for every week old he was.

We would try and settle him without picking him up. Pat him and sing to him. Sometimes I would even sit on the floor next him til he was calm then leave him to it. If he wouldnt settle then a cuddle he got

Sometimes it just wouldnt work and he would get put in the sling...

Anthea have you got a bouncer or something that she could sleep in during the day out in the lounge so that she can be close to you? Or could you move the bassinette into the lounge during the day? Jack wouldn't sleep in the bassinette during the day when he was a baby but would at night, he would sleep in the sling though. We ended up buying a hammock and he slept well in that during the day. Maybe you could look at getting one, I think you can even hire them.

I have never let the boys cry themselves to sleep, but then everyone is different. Apparently sleep associations don't develop until about 4mths so personally I wouldn't worry about putting her down asleep at the moment, with Ben I just do what works at the moment

Linzy wrote: Apparently sleep associations don't develop until about 4mths so personally I wouldn't worry about putting her down asleep at the moment, with Ben I just do what works at the moment

I agree with Linzy, she is a bit too young to be developing bad habits.

I soooo know where you are coming from on the shower thing. My DD would do the same thing, and I was getting so frustrated about not getting to do anything!! So I just ended up feeding her when she woke up in the morning, playing a wee bit, then putting her in the bouncer in the bathroom while I have a shower, or in the kitchen while I did the dishes etc. Then she was usually tired enough to go to sleep.
But then again, I always rock her to sleep, and play a music tape so if she wakes up the music is there.
So for her, the sleep associations are starting to be, rocked to sleep, put down, then music is there if she wakes up.

Your DD will try change her routine numerous times throughout her life, ie you wouldn't try and have her on the same routine when she is two, as you have her on now etc... I think as long as you have a wee bit of flexibility, then it won't seem so much of a big deal if she starts having (what you interpret to be) nightmare mornings/afternoons...

I hope that helps, I've rambled a bit I think...

Anthea wrote: bubs just won sleep in her bassinete during the day - ill put her down and shell just wake 5 mins later in a huge grump then takes ages to settle again. at night she's really good and often goes straight back to sleep - so i think she just knows during the day ill just put her in her wrap and she can be close - but its driving me madd not being able to get stuff done like cleaning and cooking or having a shower while shes asleep.

At 2 or 3 months old Mika went through a spell where all of the sudden she refused to lie in the bassinet, or the hammock or the pram during the day. Even for walksshe didn't want to be in the pram. This lasted for 3 weeks. (She slept well at night during this time). During these weeks she used to sleep in the mobywrap.
After 3 weeks I tried putting her in the pram and no problem. Then the hammock and the bed followed soon.
I know it is frustrating, I used to crave a shower too. But I too believe that crying it out is not good for babies. If I put myself in a baby's place I can see why sometimes they just want to have close contact with mum or dad.
Hang in there.

HippyMama wrote: Pinky McKay has written some great articles on sleep relating to little babies, and the effects that letting them "cry it out" at a young age can have, that I would definitely recommend reading.

Finally I have found someone else who likes Pinky McKay, I think everyone I have spoken to about her thinks she is too soft or radical. I have a couple of her books but would like to read anything else she has. Where did you find the link to the article?

I found the link in a bit of a convoluted way, through a fan page on Facebook for a webpage that sells different slings (Aussie based I think) but also has a blog... I think the page on FB is called Babes in Arms. They have a lot of attachment parenting articles in general but quite a few by Pinky. If you want any more details PM me and I'll find some time later to dig up the right links etc.