Finding out the sex? should I?

Hi,
I have recently had my 19 week scan and thought that I had seen a little willy! (3 times throughout the scan) too low down for cord I think. My Hubby also thought he saw one at our 12 week scan, obviously it was "massive!"......
Anyhow we have taken to calling it he, not deliberately, it has just turned out that way.
I was not asked by scanning lady if I would like to know the sex and we went on our way.
I am worried now that because we both think it is a boy, I have boy like wife tale symptoms also that if it is not I will be really shocked in the delivery room.

We would be more than happy with either after suffering a few MC last year but are worried that we may get used to the idea of one sex.

Please let me know your thoughts on finding out the sex? does it help you to bond with your unborn child more knowing and planning for the right sex?

to answer your question no i dont think so.............with the first bub we didnt want to know but we kept saying he and i was 90% sure it was but would be happy either way.........and it was a boy...............this time she asked me but was really sure but said it could be a girl............we really want a girl so we can have one of each and i wont be able to have anymore kids...............but now since she was really sure im not holding my breath and keep telling myself chances are its a boy..........so im not disappointed........i think honestly near that time you have a mummy feeling anyway...........but i dont think the bonding thing is any different..................congrates and best of luck with the rest of yor pregnancy.............i hope you come back and let us know what it is

Thanks for the responces girls

I am not worried about the bonding thing, I have always wanted children and am loving every minute of my pregnancy so far, its more that it maybe a shock after a long (hopefully not!) labour thinking it is one or the other. Like I say I don't mind either way just trying not to call it "he" and more "it"! if "it" is a "she"!!!!!!!!

Some women I know who have found out have named them say they developed more of a relationship with them before they were born, also helping them through labour.

I still like the idea of leaving it as a surprise but will talk it through with hub! Thanks.xx

For me first time around, I really liked knowing as it did help both DH and I bond with Jack. Plus I always peeked in my Xmas presents etc so obviously I'm far too impatient for surprises

But think of it this way - the sex is not going to change, whether you know now or when 'it' is born doesn't really matter and if you think it's a boy, then you'll either get a shock at the scan or a shock at the birth if it's not.

We have 2 reasons we're finding out this time - 1) we both think it's a girl but don't want to get our hopes up as one of each would be cool so want to know, and 2) we don't have much money so if it IS a girl, we need a lot of time to sell boys stuff in order to buy girls stuff and I'd rather not be doing that with a toddler and a newborn