Sleep - Am I expecting too much?

Firstly I know that I am lucky, from 8 weeks old Heidi sleeps approx 9 - 11 hours at night with no dream feed. Normally down at 8ish and awake between 6 & 7.

It is the day sleeps that we are stuggling with. When she wakes in the morning I bring her into our bed and she feeds (BF) then we read 2 stories always the same ones and she has started to do a bit of talking/cooing so we do that for a bit and then she goes back down approx 45mins to and hour later mostly we dont have too much trouble here and she sleeps for anything from 1.5 hours to 3 hours. Then next awake time (she wakes up happy) she has her losec (this is once daily as she has silent reflux) I feed her in the lounge and we do tummy time and she lies under her activity gym thing, but when we go to go back down for a nap she loses the plot and this is the same for each naptime after this. It can take over an hour to get her to go to sleep and then it may only last 1/2 an hour till she wakes crying, and this progressively gets worse during the day also. She actually screams a lot of the time and getting her out of bed does not always make it stop, she does not seem to have wind, is not hungry and after awhile she calms down, but then will lose the plot again if I put her down (we always put her down awake)

I dont know if she is overtired or is she not tired at all??? Am I expecting her to do too much sleeping?

She is swaddled (in a miracle blanket with her feet out as she is too long), and in a safety sleep, sleeps in her own cot, in her own room, her cot is slightly elevated (for the reflux) we have started putting her in a sleeping bag as she always kicks the covers off, she has a dummy but does not seem to wake when she she spits it out, we have black out curtains but it is not completely dark during the day just dim.

I just feel maybe I am asking too much expecting her to sleep well during the day when she sleeps so well at night. We have a very predictable routine before nighttime which I think helps. Does anyone have any suggestions for a routine before daytime naps? Does anyone else have/had babies that scream not cry when they go down for daytime sleeps??

Sorry for the long post, any suggestions/help is much appreciated.

Hey Debs

I have just been sent a copy from someone else on here so will get onto reading it. We pretty must do the EASY approach too. Thanks so much!

Thanks busymum

Maybe heading to Plunket is a good idea as I dont think I know the tired signs at all. I have a thermometer in her room so if its above approx 24c I just have her wrapped and in the safety sleep & no covers. Have only used the sleeping bag the last 2 days as its been a lot colder in Auckland and even then I have not used covers. I hope its not to hot for her.

I dont have any experience with reflux but I do have a routine with nap times that I implemented at about 6/8 weeks and it works a treat. Hayden sleeps 7 to 7 with usuall a 4 or 5am feed, he is six mths and has done that pattern since 3mths, would be nice if it were longer but its not too bad. In the mornings he likes low key and a fairly quick turn around to back in bed, less than an hour when he was under 12 weeks but now 1.5hrs, sleeps 2 hrs, then up 2 hrs, down 2 hrs, then up til bed time. He has always done 2 day sleeps, should have been 3 but would never settle for it in his bed, will have another nap if we go for a walk in the late afternoon.

Every nap I take him up to his room, put him on the change table and check for a poop only change if dirty, then take him to the window and pull blind down and close curtain, then put him in his sleeping bag, pick him up sway side to side, sing Twinkle Twinkle Little Star then hum it, kiss on forehead, down in cot, safe t sleep strapped on and leave the room.

He will be yawning his head off by the time i finish the humming but awake and happy. I think its because he knows what is happening, he knows sleep is expected and is just the right amount of tired.

Bubs could be too hot, the miracle blanket and a body suit is all probably all she needs if the temp above 18 degrees.