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Posted: 09 December 2010 at 8:45pm |
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Hi all
Does anyone know how to block the use of facebook from a cell phone? my daughter has a xt phone and is constantly on facebook. I would like to be able to moderate the amount of time she has on fb but this is impossible since she can access it from her phone.
She bought the phone with her own money and tops it up with her own money also, so confiscating the phone is a battle...
Anyone have any ideas?
TIA
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kiwi2
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Posted: 09 December 2010 at 8:48pm |
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How old is she? If she is under 13 they will ban her due to being underage?
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Posted: 09 December 2010 at 8:57pm |
FB is free from XT phones, so she can always have access 
You can block FB texting her through her own FB. But this wont prevent her going onto FB.
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Posted: 09 December 2010 at 9:01pm |
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Its free? Gosh how sad......
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Posted: 09 December 2010 at 9:30pm |
She's 14!
Perhaps there is a way to delete the application off her phone...
Ill tell ya....its tricky parenting teenagers now days
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Posted: 09 December 2010 at 9:34pm |
I know you can i'm just trying to work out how to explain it (i don't have an XT so its hard to remember without actually having it in my hand if you know what i mean). I'll come back to you!
Though it would mean stealing your daugthers phone, altering its settings and she'd know that you (or someone else for that matter) had done it and it might end in tears. Also if she's tech savvy she will be able to un-block it pretty quickly anyway.
Sorry, not a helpful post in the end but i'll come back with instructions 
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Posted: 09 December 2010 at 9:39pm |
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thanks bowie.
She does have to leave it out in the kitchen overnight so as long as she hasn't locked it, ill be able to access it.
Grrr, damn facebook!
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Posted: 09 December 2010 at 9:51pm |
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I worked for Vodafone for many years. We'd often have concerned parents coming in asking the same thing.
I'm not sure if Telecom are the same (I assume they are) but internet capability can be removed from that account (pre-paid or monthly account) upon request from the owner of the account.
But since your daughter is the rightful owner of the account and phone I don't know if there's a lot they can do.
Perhaps give Telecom a call and see if there's any parental override, or if they have any advice for you.
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Posted: 09 December 2010 at 10:20pm |
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Nope, i'm useless i'm afraid - tested it out on my brothers phone and it doesnt do a thing for facebook (maybe because the site is free?). Sorry, i thought i had that one sorted...
I would give telecom a buzz, they must get asked that question all the time.
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Posted: 09 December 2010 at 11:24pm |
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I too have a 14 year old as of today and I can sympathise. I have kept the control over the phone though so not sure how you will go about it since she has bought and is paying for the top ups.
I paid for the ph for her birthday and also top it up each month for her. This way I can use it as a discipline tool. When I take it off her I am sure the neighbours think I have severed her right hand from the moaning etc. She gets no pocket money so her phone top up is her pocket money and in fairness she does a lot around the house.
Have you tried talking to her about it. Why you are concerned etc. Maybe her coming up with some limits. I know it sounds crazy but with my daughter I can sometimes get thru to her with a adult conversation. It all depends on the mood etc.
Good luck.
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Posted: 10 December 2010 at 11:35am |
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Just a question....if she had brought a tv with her own money and spent all her time watching it...would you let her? I don't see why a phone should be any different as far as parenting goes, you can still make the rules about usage of things/time spent doing things. And if she doesn't comply then take it off her, tough luck (after having a mature conversation with her about it of course...)
Also maybe worth checking with telecom because despite the fact she is the OWNER of the phone, she is still under 16 and you are her legal guardian so would have thought you would have rights over things still....
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Posted: 10 December 2010 at 12:48pm |
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good point nutella...no i wouldn't let her watch a tv all the time. I had strict rules on her when she first got a phone (her dad bought her one) and I thought all was going ok untill I discovered she had a decoy phone!!!!! I was shocked. The one I knew about was following the rules very well and she was only using it every now and then. When I confronted her on it, she had reacted to the strict rules I had for the ohter one and felt I was showing no trust to her.
The only reason I am concerned is because I don't think it is healthy to be on a gadget all the time.
I think I might try and have a "adult" discussion with her at the start of the new school year and see if we cant get some rules together re the phone.
I would rather let things slide a little and have her being honest with me, than having strict rules and her sneeking behind my back!
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Posted: 10 December 2010 at 1:16pm |
 JD wrote:
I would rather let things slide a little and have her being honest with me, than having strict rules and her sneeking behind my back! |
JUST my opinion, and i should be ignored because i have no idea how hard it is to parent a teenager, and i don't mean it to sound like i'm being a bitch, but are you not going to do the same by sneaking behind her back and blocking the phone?
Are you her 'friend' on facebook, if you are on yourself? Perhaps you could ask to be and then while you wouldnt be able to see who she is chatting to you would be able to see who posts on her wall, what photos of her go up and take it from there - as well as seeing if she is using the phone to facebook during school time.
I'm going to butt out because, like i already said i have no idea - and i hope that didnt sound nasty because its not intended to be at all
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Posted: 10 December 2010 at 2:25pm |
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[QUOTE=JD] When I confronted her on it, she had reacted to the strict rules I had for the ohter one and felt I was showing no trust to her. [QUOTE]
Lol...well she proved that you had good reason NOT to trust her. Ah the joy of teenagers huh. Maybe sitting down with her and discussing why you don't want her on facebook all the time and coming to an agreement on the times might work....
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Posted: 10 December 2010 at 3:54pm |
Aah, gotta love teenagers, I remember being one...
I have no advice except to chime in to say that no matter how fraught it all gets now, she'll most likely look back on it when she's in her 20s and agree you were right. At least, that's pretty much how I feel about most of the battles Mum and I had now 
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Posted: 10 December 2010 at 4:31pm |
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what I would do is to hack her facebook and change her password so only you know it and then you have to log her in. although in reality she will probably just set up a new account/decoy account. telecom may be able to block the website/ap and limit her being able to download apps without your password
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Posted: 10 December 2010 at 9:20pm |
i like amme's answer.
its would my mum would do to me.
this may help understand how/what she is accessing on her phone link to telecom
you can try and get the internet blocked on her phone and then all she will be able to do is a text status update not view, see and modify her facebook and other friends pages.
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Posted: 10 December 2010 at 10:24pm |
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Teenagers, especially teenage girls sound difficult, think I'll go on a trip for a few years when C turns 13...
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Posted: 10 December 2010 at 10:45pm |
I was probably the most wretched teenage girl ever, i made my entire familys life HELL until was about 17, my brother will never forgive me  . I was totally out of control, but at the time i was a poor abused child whos parents were totally unfair and treated me badly.
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Posted: 11 December 2010 at 8:31am |
no offence taken bowie and you're right, it would be doing the same thing, but as the mum, I think I have that right
I have decided its not worth it to try and block facebook because it is just like she is txting anyway.
I have just had a big talk with her and new rules will be put in place for when school goes back (i wanted to give her the holidays to get used to the idea).
THanks for all your comments. Its so tricky with teenagers and since I was such a naughty one, I am probably more suspicious of her.....I know what i did at her age
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