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Alianasmummy
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Topic: Egg doner info wanted Posted: 03 October 2008 at 8:32am |
Im not 100% yet and im yet to talk to my DH about it but i am seriously considering donating some of my eggs.
Is there any one out there that has done it and how was it for you? Do you keep in contact or is there no emotional connection to the child? How traumatic is the whole process on your body and mind?
I havent contacted a clinic yet, im still just putting my feelers out there with it, but it has always been something that i have wanted to do.
i seem to be super fertile and despite taking contraception i still get pregnant
I know how many people out there are struggling to get pregnant and a donor is their only option besides adoption. I would love to be able to help someone in this way.
i dont know how my DH will react, although he is pretty cruzy about things but this might be a bit much for him.
Anyone going through this at the moment, i dont even know how common it is to donate, all i know is there are a lot of adds in the back of Treasures and Littiles and I nearly cry reading them every time.
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Posted: 03 October 2008 at 9:26am |
I don't know anything about it, so I can't help, sorry!
But I just wanted to say how great I think it is that you want to do this - not to mention selfless
I always hear of guys donating sperm, but it's not often I hear about women donating their eggs.
Good luck to you
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Posted: 03 October 2008 at 9:34am |
Good on you! I always thought it was something I would too after I've finishing breeding myself as well... but you have to go through all the hormone injections etc for an IVF cycle and after witnessing how moody and irritable my SIL got when going through IVF I'm not sure I (or my DH!) would be happy with that part of it.
There's some information on it at the Fertility Associates website here. Good luck if you decide to go through with it!
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Posted: 03 October 2008 at 10:36am |
What a wonderful thing. Go on to the IVF forum and read some of the conversations we had with a very selfless women who donated her eggs. We talked her through the IVF with us and I think it helped you may be even able to PM her. Sorry I can't remember her name with out checking back to the forum but I think it was something like mumof2??
Hope this helps and I'm sure it would be one of the most rewarding things to do it life.
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Posted: 03 October 2008 at 2:08pm |
will be watching this thread as i'm thinking of donating eggs too. i've been extremely lucky to conceive first night despite having PCOS and endo, so i'd love to help other ladies
just not sure on what you have to put your body through
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Posted: 03 October 2008 at 2:20pm |
I know, thats what im worried about.. i get such BAD morning sickness so im ultra sensitive to hormone imbalances. I suppose a few weeks of being sick is worth it for the thought of giving someone something so special though.
I will talk to DH tonight and gauge his thoughts on it. He handled my moods when i was pregnant well enough so maybe im not too bad.
Why is it that guys get all the easy stuff in life?? No periods, pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, and if they want to donate they have fun doing it!!!  All they need to do is put up with our complaining about it all
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Posted: 03 October 2008 at 2:46pm |
jack_&_charli wrote:
just not sure on what you have to put your body through |
that makes me sound really selfish!! i hope you all know what i meant
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Posted: 03 October 2008 at 3:07pm |
of course i know what you meant  , dont worry about it. its a HUGE thing to do but there are definite down sides to it. its not being selfish at all thinking about how it will affect your body
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Posted: 03 October 2008 at 8:22pm |
We have started the process, we have had blood tests (to check we have no nasty bugs) and have had to meet with a social worker, doctor and different nurses at the fertility clinic.
We havent started the actual donation of eggs yet - its quite a long process, but the information that they have given me is the same as for an IVF cycle.
The way I look at it, is that it is a small time in my life and I can hopefully give another women a lifetime of happiness!
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Posted: 04 October 2008 at 8:46am |
wow thats awsome. Where abouts do you do it? We live a couple of hours out of Nelson so it could get fiddly.
I talked to DH last night and he supports me 100%.
Who did you contact initially?
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Posted: 04 October 2008 at 9:08am |
i wonder if there are many couples out there that would keep in touch with the donor........i'd love to stay in contact with them and know how the child is growing
i've decided to talk properly to DH tonight about it. have mentioned it to him and he was 'whatever you want to do love' but wasn't really listening. i don't think he thought i was serious
would like to get the ball rolling after christmas
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Posted: 04 October 2008 at 9:16am |
we could start an egg donors thread! and keep up with how everything is going, support and all that. wel probably need it. we could even possibly talk to potential recipients of the eggs.
I dint know about the keeping in contact... i think i would but its up to the family, they might not want to tell the child until they are older or not at all.
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Posted: 04 October 2008 at 9:17am |
that came out wrong.
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Posted: 04 October 2008 at 9:37am |
hehe i know what you meant. i don't mind if they don't tell the child about how they were conceived, that's their choice. i could just be a friend of the family or an 'aunty' IYKWIM?
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Posted: 06 October 2008 at 4:46pm |
Ladies you are all awesome.
I'm sure I can answer some of your questions from the IVF side of things. You donate your eggs with a clinic and if your in Nelson then Wellington would probably be the closest one.
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Posted: 07 October 2008 at 11:48am |
my friend is looking at ivf and HAS to have an egg donor (she doesn't have any of her own) So THANK YOU on behalf of her , cause without people like you she wouldn't be able to have kids (without adoption that is)
One of my other friends did the donoting side of it 0 twice, said the 2nd time was worse than the first. First couple have had their baby and its around1 now - they have choosen not to keep in contact with my friend. 2nd ones have been great keeping her up tp date and they go twins. Let her know when they were born etc..... Although my friend never expecting anything.
I do know they prefer you to have finished have your own children... oh and when on the drugs - stay away from your Dh/dp LOL... super fertile apparently LOL
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Posted: 09 January 2012 at 9:13am |
Hi. I know this was in 2008 but I am looking for an egg donor and wondered if you are still interested in doing this. I know this is a very long shot but it's worth a try. I can tall you all about what is involved as I have been there before so if you are still considering this I would really like to catch up.Thanks
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Posted: 10 January 2012 at 4:00pm |
Whereabouts in NZ are you? I think you have to have a donor from your area for practicality of it.
I am going through the process in Auckland.
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