baby shower

I agree Sheza

Here's another question ... do you invite only women to the baby shower (traditional) or guys as well?? I know most would probably not be interested but maybe male family members?

The Brits are not that keen on Baby Showers for the most part so it must be an American tradition. I understand the basic ettiquette is that you dont organise it yourself, its females only, food and drink and games are laid on and I think its normally for first babies but I could be wrong.

Then again we kiwi's are pretty good at putting our own stamp on things so I wouldnt be overly worried about most of those 'traditions'.

If you did organise it yourself I'd probably go with Your Presence is the only Present I need type of invite and just secretly hope everyone ignores you hee hee You could always call it a Pre Baby Gathering and do a BBQ or something so the Boys can come along and be comfortable too knowing its not just a girly thing.

As for that American forum person well seems to me she got way more than she deserved, I would bet money on her being a bitter person in life in general and that's why no one was bothered to spoil her.

Bobbie wrote: Yeah I meant to say register???? I didn't know you could have a baby shower register. They sure do take these things seriously in the States.

Registers seem to be more popular now days here, I think Baby Factory do them and there are websites as well. I think the people that attended mine just asked my SIL if there was anything that I needed. I don't have a large extended family so quite a few of my SIL's family came, her aunts and Grandmother which was lovely. One of the best presnts I got was a cardy, hat and blanket SIL's grandmother had knitted

We only had girls. DH, Dad and my brother's went to SIL's parents to watch the Warriors and ended up having a shower of sorts! Dad when to KMart and put together a "Man Baby Kit" for DH. It was a yellow bucket and in it he put things like pegs and wrote on it "Sh*t really stinks", kitchen tongs labelled "No 1s" and No 2s" etc etc. They all had a good laugh!

DH and I have been invited to a baby shower with both males and females. Unfortunately we couldn't attend but I think that it is more common now

When i was pregnant i was the first of my friends to have a baby so none of us really knew what a baby shower involved, I just had some close friends over and we basically had a get together, main baby related thing i did was get them all to write a message to Caitlyn in a book I bought

Since then i've gone to other baby showers and there are heaps of baby games you can play , and heaps of ways of doing it,eg a lunchtime type affair with the girls, or if you want your DP/DF/DH to be involved in the shower you could have it more as a bbq thing in the evening.

Oh yeah and since i didnt show till i was about 30 weeks I had it at 32 i think , otherwise my friends would have probably accused me of just getting chubby and not being pregnant at all

Sounds like baby showers are pretty open to interpretation here in NZ so that is good. I just want a really laid back girls evening I think. My flatmate is more excited than I but she is keen to run with that idea.