OHbaby! Forums : what would you do in this situation? https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 19 May 2026 02:10:11 +0000 Fri, 13 Jul 2007 22:16:03 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=9064 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[what would you do in this situation? : susieq wrote: Charli I have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=179631&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#179631 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 9064
Posted: 13 July 2007 at 10:16pm

Originally posted by susieq susieq wrote:


Charli I have heard as being short for Charlize as a girls name


or maybe not short for anything....just charli ]]> Fri, 13 Jul 2007 22:16:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=179631&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#179631 <![CDATA[what would you do in this situation? : i would of said something to the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=179181&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#179181 Author: AnnC
Subject: 9064
Posted: 13 July 2007 at 3:02pm

i would of said something to the kid if the mother wasn't, although I read that she did but ignored when it was done again. I am all for ignoring the bed behaviour but there is a time and a place and not at the mercy of other children. So what imo and what I would of done is said in the nicest possible way to the kid that its not nice and it hurts Lucy and aww poor lucy and pick up lucy so that the mother sees its not ok. Because sometimes ppl don't care if their kid gets 'bullied' by another child as long as its not extremly hurting (does that make sense??) ie: rhyley had play date with two 'older' girls, there were times where he got toys taken off him by force some times and times where he nearly got hit with toys as they are walking he is not' Now it didn't bother me as he has to learn that some times things like that happens, but I did interveen when he was very happy with his little book and one of the girls took it off him, he looked very sad so I just said to the little girl - now Niamh give it back to Rhyley cause he was playing with it and swapped another toy' both kids happy,
now although they weren't hitting him I still took it upon myself to do the 'telling'off but very nicely cause really they are only just learning and a 1 year old can not realise that what they are doing is 'bad behaviour' they have to be taught.
Anyway thats my two cents worth I hope it made sense?! ]]> Fri, 13 Jul 2007 15:02:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=179181&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#179181 <![CDATA[what would you do in this situation? : No from the beginning post Charli...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=179135&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#179135 Author: susieq
Subject: 9064
Posted: 13 July 2007 at 2:00pm

No from the beginning post Charli is a girl not a boy as Annie mentioned her mum told her no
Charli I have heard as being short for Charlize as a girls name]]> Fri, 13 Jul 2007 14:00:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=179135&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#179135 <![CDATA[what would you do in this situation? : Yes busymum right on the button... I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=179069&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#179069 Author: Guests
Subject: 9064
Posted: 13 July 2007 at 12:23pm

Yes busymum right on the button...

I don't think he is a bully, but he definately is a boy!!!!!

 

]]> Fri, 13 Jul 2007 12:23:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=179069&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#179069 <![CDATA[what would you do in this situation? : Maya was thankfully never very...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=179066&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#179066 Author: Maya
Subject: 9064
Posted: 13 July 2007 at 12:20pm

Maya was thankfully never very rough, but I am having this with the gremlins at the moment. Mercedes seems to think that Sienna's sole purpose for existing is to be poked/pulled/scratched/smacked. It's not deliberate I don't think, more of a case of her being fascinated with how her sister 'works'. I just make sure that I don't put Sienna in arms reach, and if they start getting too close I move them apart again. I don't want to intervene too much as I don't want to teach Sienna to be a sooky, but at the same time don't want to teach Mercedes that it's ok to be a bully wench.
If it was someone else's kid I'd probably move mine still, I'm not a fan of telling other people's kids off, altho I'd probably also have a word to the mum and say "hey, can you sort your kid out please".]]> Fri, 13 Jul 2007 12:20:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=179066&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#179066 <![CDATA[what would you do in this situation? : ditto liz....i always tell jack...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178995&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178995 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 9064
Posted: 13 July 2007 at 10:38am

ditto liz....i always tell jack to apologise when he gets abit rough and tell him it's not nice.
but if someone elses kid does that to mine without saying anything, i think i would say 'no, that's not a nice thing to do' and take my kid away.
but it depends on the situation as to whether i'd say anything. ]]> Fri, 13 Jul 2007 10:38:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178995&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178995 <![CDATA[what would you do in this situation? : i have said this before, but i...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178884&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178884 Author: lizzle
Subject: 9064
Posted: 13 July 2007 at 6:58am

i have said this before, but i don't mind rough behaviour as I know it is usually just the age. what gets me angry is the lack of any remark from the parent. i know when Jake hits other kids or pushes them (which thank goodness happens les and less nowadays) I always will make him apologise and stuff. the mother or father's reaction is what will anger (or please) me.]]> Fri, 13 Jul 2007 06:58:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178884&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178884 <![CDATA[what would you do in this situation? : I hate it when other mums don&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178781&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178781 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 9064
Posted: 12 July 2007 at 10:08pm

I hate it when other mums don't seem to do enough to stop their childs behaviour. Jack can be a bit rough at playgroup but I always remove him from the situation.]]> Thu, 12 Jul 2007 22:08:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178781&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178781 <![CDATA[what would you do in this situation? : I agree with what everyone else...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178736&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178736 Author: jamesmum
Subject: 9064
Posted: 12 July 2007 at 9:37pm

I agree with what everyone else has said and moved your bubs away, I would have done the same.]]> Thu, 12 Jul 2007 21:37:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178736&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178736 <![CDATA[what would you do in this situation? : I would have done the exact same...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178614&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178614 Author: floss
Subject: 9064
Posted: 12 July 2007 at 7:45pm

I would have done the exact same as you but also told the other child that it is not nice to hit or push and use gentle hands, we are trying to teach Sienna all about gentle hands at the moment as she can get a bit rough I don't think that she means to but I figure the earlier I start the better it will be.]]> Thu, 12 Jul 2007 19:45:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178614&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178614 <![CDATA[what would you do in this situation? : amy wrote:I also agree with...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178606&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178606 Author: busymum
Subject: 9064
Posted: 12 July 2007 at 7:37pm

Originally posted by amy amy wrote:

I also agree with the above, say no and move DD away.


My boy has been labelled a "bully" but to me he is exploring his boudaries. ONCE (yes once) he pushed a girl and she cried.

In the future I will always use a firm NO and move him away from the situation until he knows better.




a 12mo should not be called a bully! I wonder if he's a bit rougher, being a boy, and the namer has a girl.]]> Thu, 12 Jul 2007 19:37:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178606&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178606 <![CDATA[what would you do in this situation? : at our last coffee group ella...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178521&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178521 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 9064
Posted: 12 July 2007 at 5:15pm

at our last coffee group ella was given a bumbo to sit in - but the little boy who is 1 knew it was his...well he pushed ella a bit, his mum intervened and i was grateful but she told me to just tell him off etc if he got too rough...i didnt want to do that - thats her job...so i picked up ella as well!

Id leave it to them to discipline their kids...and us to ours...]]> Thu, 12 Jul 2007 17:15:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178521&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178521 <![CDATA[what would you do in this situation? : I also agree with the above, say...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178490&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178490 Author: Guests
Subject: 9064
Posted: 12 July 2007 at 4:33pm

I also agree with the above, say no and move DD away.

My boy has been labelled a "bully" but to me he is exploring his boudaries. ONCE (yes once) he pushed a girl and she cried.

In the future I will always use a firm NO and move him away from the situation until he knows better.

 

]]> Thu, 12 Jul 2007 16:33:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178490&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178490 <![CDATA[what would you do in this situation? : I agree with Busymum, I would...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178483&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178483 Author: Gwen_
Subject: 9064
Posted: 12 July 2007 at 4:23pm

I agree with Busymum, I would just say "no" and move Lucy away or distract the other bubba]]> Thu, 12 Jul 2007 16:23:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178483&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178483 <![CDATA[what would you do in this situation? : There is a wee boy in my coffee...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178482&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178482 Author: my2angels
Subject: 9064
Posted: 12 July 2007 at 4:22pm

There is a wee boy in my coffee group who is obsessed with hair and keeps pulling all the wee girls hair. His mother is really good and tells him off and will take him away but really at that age even 'no' can be a joke, they tend to laugh when told off and there isnt really much you can do. I agree I would have taken the child away and depending on how close you are maybe you can say something. i know we all tell this wee boy no and take his hand away etc.. but there really isnt much you can do.

I was at chipmunks about a month ago and Addison was standing against the ball pool and a wee boy around the same age wandered over, grabbed a handfull of her hair and pulled her to the ground. Took me and his mum to try and get his hand unclenched and let her go. My poor baby was screaming and the mother was obviously embarrased and didnt stop apologising. Its just the age unfortunately]]> Thu, 12 Jul 2007 16:22:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178482&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178482 <![CDATA[what would you do in this situation? : If a parent seems to be ignoring...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178470&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178470 Author: busymum
Subject: 9064
Posted: 12 July 2007 at 4:05pm

If a parent seems to be ignoring or not noticing I will sometimes move their hand away or tell them no - but I'm probably quite 'gentle' in my approach. If I was the other mother in this situation I would have actually moved my child out of reach of your bubba. 1yos don't really have much clue, they don't mean to hurt and they don't really understand 'no' too well. So it's a tricky one, but moving your DD out of the way seemed to be the best thing you could have done.]]> Thu, 12 Jul 2007 16:05:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178470&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178470 <![CDATA[what would you do in this situation? : Hi, Lucy and I had a play date...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178463&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178463 Author: AnnieB
Subject: 9064
Posted: 12 July 2007 at 3:54pm

Hi,
Lucy and I had a play date today and both girls were sitting playing and out of no where charli turns around and hits lucy, Charli's only 1 so a bit older then Lucy, but her mum just told charli don't do that. What does she do? everytime her mums back is turn bam hits lucy again,I picked Lucy up as she was crying but the mum just seem to ignore her daughters behavior. My question is did you think its ok to tell someones child off for that kinda behavior if the parents are ignoring it?]]> Thu, 12 Jul 2007 15:54:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9064&PID=178463&title=what-would-you-do-in-this-situation#178463