https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 02 May 2026 18:31:23 +0000 Sat, 12 May 2007 08:33:16 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=7349 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=144196&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#144196 Author: lizzle
Subject: 7349
Posted: 12 May 2007 at 8:33am

You know you are fluent when you think and dream in the second language...I always try to think in Japanese when I study - note I said "try"...OT something chronic]]> Sat, 12 May 2007 08:33:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=144196&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#144196 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=144157&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#144157 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 7349
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 11:50pm

I have always wondered for people who learn a second language do they think in the first language and speak the second or do they think in whatever language they are speaking.

I really hope everything works out for you Janine.]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 23:50:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=144157&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#144157 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=144036&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#144036 Author: james
Subject: 7349
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 5:47pm

dont worry emma so did i ]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 17:47:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=144036&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#144036 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=143957&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#143957 Author: Maya
Subject: 7349
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 3:04pm

I know this is going to sound really dumb but when I was younger I thought that everyone THOUGHT in English but SPOKE in different languages ]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 15:04:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=143957&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#143957 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=143732&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#143732 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 7349
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 9:34am

lol!!! crying in chinese, I have tears from laughing!!]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 09:34:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=143732&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#143732 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=143644&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#143644 Author: mum2paris
Subject: 7349
Posted: 11 May 2007 at 12:12am

some people.. are, just too hard to put into words.]]> Fri, 11 May 2007 00:12:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=143644&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#143644 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=142975&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#142975 Author: Maya
Subject: 7349
Posted: 10 May 2007 at 9:00am

I've had people ask me whether they're identical, and when I say yes they're like, "Oh, so a boy and a girl". Yes. They are identical. But they are different genders

My personal fave is when they are all dressed in pink and I get "oh, so two boys then?" I've been know to be particularly evil and say "yes, two boys, their names are Mercedes and Sienna" and watch them try to figure that one out

Sorry. OT. ]]> Thu, 10 May 2007 09:00:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=142975&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#142975 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=142938&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#142938 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 7349
Posted: 10 May 2007 at 7:04am

mum2paris wrote: lol i love when we get parents in with girl boy twins and one of the relatives asks us.. "so are they identical?" it's like, noo, they're a boy and girl... "yes, but are they identical?" argh!!

Next time tell them they are identical and you really struggle to tell them apart....see how long they take to work out their stupidity.....mind you some people never do ]]> Thu, 10 May 2007 07:04:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=142938&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#142938 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=142928&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#142928 Author: mum2paris
Subject: 7349
Posted: 10 May 2007 at 12:26am

lol i love when we get parents in with girl boy twins and one of the relatives asks us.. "so are they identical?" it's like, noo, they're a boy and girl... "yes, but are they identical?" argh!!

that and we once had someone ask if babies cry in chinese.. lol.. (ok, so off the subject) but yes we get interesting questions.

]]> Thu, 10 May 2007 00:26:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=142928&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#142928 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=142880&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#142880 Author: lizzle
Subject: 7349
Posted: 09 May 2007 at 9:43pm

now THATS soething to tell them when they get bigger]]> Wed, 09 May 2007 21:43:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=142880&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#142880 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=142753&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#142753 Author: Maya
Subject: 7349
Posted: 09 May 2007 at 7:45pm

No. No it's not. I would shoot myself.

My girls are identical tho, so they're a freak of nature rather than genetic.]]> Wed, 09 May 2007 19:45:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=142753&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#142753 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=142748&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#142748 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 7349
Posted: 09 May 2007 at 7:41pm

haaaaaahahaha]]> Wed, 09 May 2007 19:41:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=142748&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#142748 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=142730&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#142730 Author: lizzle
Subject: 7349
Posted: 09 May 2007 at 7:17pm

just think, could nbe 4 & 5 Emma. they say the chances of having twins again is pretty high..]]> Wed, 09 May 2007 19:17:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=142730&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#142730 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=142685&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#142685 Author: Maya
Subject: 7349
Posted: 09 May 2007 at 6:34pm

Oh I'll get my own way - it's just a matter of when ]]> Wed, 09 May 2007 18:34:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=142685&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#142685 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=142237&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#142237 Author: nuttymama
Subject: 7349
Posted: 09 May 2007 at 6:57am

We decided after Jayden that he was the last, but by the time he was 6 months I had that nagging feeling that we weren't done so I know where you are coming from. It took a lot of convincing DH as he thought I had lost the plot, but I just knew I was supposed to have another one. Hubbys biggest concern is that I would always want another one!

So after a few years he gave in and we had No3 and I can gladly say that I now feel totally content and feel that my family is complete. The nagging sensations have gone and I think babies are cute but I no longer get that ache when I see mothers with them. Abby is now over two and I don't regret deciding not to have any more.

So good luck Janine I sincerely hope you get your No4 you to Emma.]]> Wed, 09 May 2007 06:57:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=142237&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#142237 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=141897&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#141897 Author: busymum
Subject: 7349
Posted: 08 May 2007 at 12:16pm

I thought this might be the case for you Janine. I hope you do get your #4 sometime. Don't feel bad about it seeming like you "want to replace #3", it's not like that at all. Krystiana was not a replacement for my #3, she's separate and I still sometimes wonder what #3 would have been like etc, but I also know that if I had had #3 then I couldn't have had Krystiana.

Gosh what a jumble, I know what you're saying although my DH doesn't feel "finished" so I'm not dealing with that side of it.]]> Tue, 08 May 2007 12:16:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=141897&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#141897 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=141889&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#141889 Author: 11111
Subject: 7349
Posted: 08 May 2007 at 12:03pm

I have not really read much of hte post's, but I get what you mean about the jsut knowing you are not done yet.  load's of people ask so you going to have anymore?  I promptly answer with a yes of course.    Any chick i hope you get hat yo ureally desire.  I think you and Mike are great parent's.   And like you say you have such beautiful children.]]> Tue, 08 May 2007 12:03:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=141889&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#141889 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=141874&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#141874 Author: mum2paris
Subject: 7349
Posted: 08 May 2007 at 11:44am

it's funny how you just get that feeling.    I always used to go by my dream i had just before i got preg with paris, where there were two little kids playing, one actually the splitting image of paris but i thinkt he hair was blondish more, but had the curls and the big blue eyes and all. the other one that was playing i always thought was a boy.. lol going by that ayja shouls have been a boy. so maybe things aren't quite what they seemed. but i always went by that, i always thought 2. until now, until the vasectomy when i realised that i didn't just want two. scary thing is, however much i wanted it, even before i had that scan the first time, i somehow couldn't see us at the end of the 9 months with a baby.. i just felt so different and not right like i knew somehow it wouldn't happen.    but i can somehow see now, us planning and trying and having that #3/4 baby..

weird]]> Tue, 08 May 2007 11:44:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=141874&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#141874 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=141859&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#141859 Author: Maya
Subject: 7349
Posted: 08 May 2007 at 11:29am

I worry sometimes that I'll never be "done", that I'll just keep producing and producing until I can't anymore (yes I know I said I never wanted to be pregnant again but...) but a friend of mine who just had #4 (she lost bub # 3 to SIDS at 6 1/2 mths ) says she never felt done after #3, but now with #4 she looks at her and knows absolutely that she doesn't want/need anymore, and she's at peace with her family as it is. So I hope I come to that one day too. ]]> Tue, 08 May 2007 11:29:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=141859&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#141859 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=141851&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#141851 Author: my2angels
Subject: 7349
Posted: 08 May 2007 at 11:12am

I said to hubby the other day that i just didnt feel finished with the whole baby thing and he said 'what do you mean you dont feel finished, how do you feel finished' I guess its a female thing. Ive always only every wanted two children and now i have my two im just not so sure, he however is happy as things are and the thought to have another doesnt even cross his mind.

Fingers crossed you get the answer you want!]]> Tue, 08 May 2007 11:12:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=141851&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#141851 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=141819&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#141819 Author: mum2paris
Subject: 7349
Posted: 08 May 2007 at 10:22am

I can see things from his side too, two is managable, easier etc, our girls are great.   I just know from my side, that this isn't going to go away. it's going to keep eating at me, hence why i thought "if i don't ask i'll never know"

I know paris would be a great older sister, she has shown me that. She is so concerned still for baby, it has really upheaved her this whole thing. She asked me the other night that if our baby is an angel in heaven who tucks it in at night? that was a curly one.]]> Tue, 08 May 2007 10:22:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=141819&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#141819 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=141812&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#141812 Author: Maya
Subject: 7349
Posted: 08 May 2007 at 10:14am

I can kind of relate to where you're coming from. I'd like one more, not any time really soon, but at some point in the next few years, but Willie is adamant that he is done. And I can see his side of it, he's older, has older kids already etc. etc. but still the longing is there. Maybe I'll get over it as the babies get older, maybe I'll be able to convince him to have just one more, who knows?

Best of luck with whatever you decide to do, I hope that you and Mike are able to work thru things and come to an understanding whichever way things go.]]> Tue, 08 May 2007 10:14:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=141812&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#141812 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=141804&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#141804 Author: mum2paris
Subject: 7349
Posted: 08 May 2007 at 10:03am

Most of you will have been following our happenings anyway, with the failed vasectomy etc.

Having this pregnancy, had made me realise how very very much i did want a 3rd, and i thought it had made mike realise how very much he really didn't.

but i could not keep it any longer, i asked him last night, seriously, if the thought was that unbearable.

we had a bit of a chat, he had been getting used to the idea of it "because i had to, it was a reality" however i remindedhim, our girls are wonderful, we are good parents, we have beautiful babies and that i was putting it to him that it had made me realise i did want one more, i feel we have more to give, i always felt like there was another baby out there waiting for us, when i found out i was preg i just felt so much more peaceful, i knew that i did not want any more after this one, our family would be complete... then it all turned to custard. I am back to that feeling of "we're not quite finished" I don't want to try and replace our baby we have just lost, and i don't think anything will take that hurt away. I just know that for us, i don't want the gap to be too large, and it would have to be in the next year and a half.   

So i told him all this, and put it to him that who was to say that by the time i had had two "normal" cycles after this that his swimmers wouldn't have given up the ghost and finally gone away, but i let him know my thoughts.

HAve left it this morning, he was deep in thought last night, when i asked him what he was thinking about he reluctantly said that he was actually thinking about the whole idea.

Am not crossing fingers, but being realistic.

Will give him time, see what the reports etc say about this, and go from there. In reality i think i would prob say to him that give it a go until christmas, and if it's a no go in that time (usually preg 1st go, so if it took that long i'd know it wasn't meant to be i guess) then would flag it. if the same thing as this happened again, that would be another sign.

I'm just not ready to give up, we have another out there waiting for us, i know there is.

so after saying i'm not crossing my fingers.. well, i guess i am. lol]]> Tue, 08 May 2007 10:03:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7349&PID=141804&title=ok-so-i-put-it-out-there#141804