https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 04 Apr 2026 09:08:08 +0000 Mon, 07 May 2012 13:01:32 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=41984 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41984&PID=5796462&title=having-number-5#5796462 Author: tictacjunkie
Subject: 41984
Posted: 07 May 2012 at 1:01pm

I have some days when I don't "cope" so I bundle kids into van and go for a drive, or I walk out door to go for some "me" time as soon as Dh gets home from work. Or I just sit outside on the doorstep with a coffee for 10mins while the kids sort themselves out inside. But thankfully now that youngest is 18mths those days happen less often, once they get older and are a bit more independent you start to feel human again.
I have some fantastic friends/neighbours that I can share the load with, we look after each others kids for 15-20min supermarket runs, vacuum/clean up at each others houses when we pop over for coffee etc, trying to share the load rather than add to it.
I think key to our "success" as a bigger family is that dh and I work as a team, not against each other, we do our best to decide how we're going to handle something before it crops up. We're flexible/adaptable in our parenting and yet we also have very clear boundaries/rules, we do our best to be consistent, and try to be fair with discipline.
You can only do your best after all!
It's also very rewarding when something you've worked at comes right, eg last week DD8y and dd6y settled down to do their homework as it's become something they enjoy doing together, it used to be something I'd nag about every evening, Ds10y saw them doing theirs and remembered to do his too and dd3y plonked herself down with a book with them because she wanted to be involved. So I had 4 out of 5 working quietly and co-operatively and I hadn't had to growl once, it was awesome![:D] ]]> Mon, 07 May 2012 13:01:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41984&PID=5796462&title=having-number-5#5796462 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41984&PID=5796365&title=having-number-5#5796365 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 41984
Posted: 06 May 2012 at 7:17pm

I would love to know how you ladies cope with big families. We have 3 and sometimes I think I would love #4 (in a few years!) but other days I don't think I would cope. I love my boys but sometimes they do my head in! They are very talkative and active and messy and I just feel shattered most days - and DD will be joining them soon! I love them but wonder if I could cope with 1 more, but also think that I want 1 more . Plus I have PND so wonder if it is fair to have another]]> Sun, 06 May 2012 19:17:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41984&PID=5796365&title=having-number-5#5796365 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41984&PID=5796110&title=having-number-5#5796110 Author: tictacjunkie
Subject: 41984
Posted: 04 May 2012 at 1:51pm

I have five, number 6 still under consideration.]]> Fri, 04 May 2012 13:51:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41984&PID=5796110&title=having-number-5#5796110 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41984&PID=5796031&title=having-number-5#5796031 Author: Maya
Subject: 41984
Posted: 03 May 2012 at 10:42pm

I'm having #5 next month ]]> Thu, 03 May 2012 22:42:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41984&PID=5796031&title=having-number-5#5796031 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41984&PID=5795868&title=having-number-5#5795868 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 41984
Posted: 02 May 2012 at 10:38pm

crazymum in March 12 has just had #11

]]> Wed, 02 May 2012 22:38:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41984&PID=5795868&title=having-number-5#5795868 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41984&PID=5795847&title=having-number-5#5795847 Author: chicky05
Subject: 41984
Posted: 02 May 2012 at 8:36pm

So i not been around for a very long time but i am looking for mum's who have big families]]> Wed, 02 May 2012 20:36:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41984&PID=5795847&title=having-number-5#5795847