https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sun, 10 May 2026 14:04:19 +0000 Sat, 09 Jun 2012 22:41:35 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=41920 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5801646&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5801646 Author: MelW
Subject: 41920
Posted: 09 June 2012 at 10:41pm

Gosh Ceres thats terrible! ]]> Sat, 09 Jun 2012 22:41:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5801646&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5801646 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5801295&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5801295 Author: Ceres
Subject: 41920
Posted: 07 June 2012 at 12:20pm

Oh Weetie, that would have stung .

Some of these are just shocking, I know people always want to 'say something', and have a tendency to try to fix things .. but still (!)

I think the worst I've had is from my ex SIL, 'some people aren't meant to have children, it's natures way' ..

And, after taking 2.5 years to conceive DD, when pregnant with her were told over and over that having a baby 'fixes' things and it will happen easily the second time. Yeah right! ]]> Thu, 07 Jun 2012 12:20:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5801295&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5801295 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5801292&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5801292 Author: IVFGirl1111
Subject: 41920
Posted: 07 June 2012 at 12:13pm

Aww weetie, that would have been so hurtful!]]> Thu, 07 Jun 2012 12:13:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5801292&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5801292 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5801245&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5801245 Author: weetie
Subject: 41920
Posted: 07 June 2012 at 8:07am

my worst comment was from my own father. I showed him and my mum a couple of blankets I had made for 'baby' (keeping myself positive and occupied) To which he said "but you guys can't even figure how to make a baby anymore". I know he thought he was funny but omg ......]]> Thu, 07 Jun 2012 08:07:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5801245&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5801245 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5801235&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5801235 Author: Mintyfresh
Subject: 41920
Posted: 06 June 2012 at 11:46pm

It won't be an easy road you know - from my MIL the day after my ectopic was removed.

I understand she probably thought hard about what to say, and there is a reason why there is a 5 year gap between DH and BIL, but that was the last thing I needed to hear at the time, and I feel like it has come true.

In general my work mates and friends don't comment nearly as much as the men I used to work with. Most of our friends know about at least one of our losses - you don't lose four babies in the same year that most of your friends have their babies without word making it's way through the grapevine.]]> Wed, 06 Jun 2012 23:46:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5801235&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5801235 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5801122&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5801122 Author: Orca1
Subject: 41920
Posted: 06 June 2012 at 1:30pm

It is amazing what people will say. I am tired of being told mabye if DH and I get away for a weekend or go on holiday - a change of scenery might make all the difference!

My first IVF round I had my inlaws staying with us which wasn't the best timing. I got a lot of info for my MIL to read so she could understand what was happening but she declined, instead she decided to stick with the uninformed information a friend had given her who knew someone that knew someone that had done IVF and their experience was the worst ever!!! ]]> Wed, 06 Jun 2012 13:30:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5801122&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5801122 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5801067&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5801067 Author: MelW
Subject: 41920
Posted: 06 June 2012 at 12:12am

Took us 2 years to conceive DD, I git sck of hearing "my husband just had to look at me and I was pregnant!"- thanks for that!
"When are you going to start having children?)- the ones that didnt know I was on fertility treatment which we didnt publicise.
Now we are struggling with number 2 its "you better hurry up! You dont want a huge age gap!"
Aaaarrrggghhh!]]> Wed, 06 Jun 2012 00:12:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5801067&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5801067 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5796369&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5796369 Author: dazzz
Subject: 41920
Posted: 06 May 2012 at 7:25pm

WTF @ the personal trainers comment. Jeepers, some people!!

We have MFI too, and the amount of times I've heard 'it only takes one'... ]]> Sun, 06 May 2012 19:25:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5796369&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5796369 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5795839&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5795839 Author: kelzie_rose
Subject: 41920
Posted: 02 May 2012 at 7:48pm

"Try harder."

Sorry, you weren't there through all the trying! You don't know how hard we tried! Shush your mush!]]> Wed, 02 May 2012 19:48:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5795839&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5795839 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5794705&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5794705 Author: Hopes
Subject: 41920
Posted: 25 April 2012 at 8:16am

Haha, awesome. Because the sperm acts differently depending on how attractive your hubby views you at the time, kenneme ]]> Wed, 25 Apr 2012 08:16:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5794705&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5794705 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5794670&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5794670 Author: Trying4#2
Subject: 41920
Posted: 24 April 2012 at 7:10pm

While TTC #1 we had the "just relax" After 2.5 years it drove me nuts. We were signed up for IVF. i focased that whole cycle leading up to IVF. then a day before starting got our BFP. My GP was like "told you, you needed to relax" arrrrgh so am with you on that one. My BIL made the comment "I hear having s*x makes babies". I cried after that comment]]> Tue, 24 Apr 2012 19:10:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5794670&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5794670 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5794623&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5794623 Author: IVFGirl1111
Subject: 41920
Posted: 24 April 2012 at 11:47am

I SOOOOOO hear you!!!]]> Tue, 24 Apr 2012 11:47:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5794623&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5794623 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5793821&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5793821 Author: Caronz
Subject: 41920
Posted: 19 April 2012 at 8:56am

I swear the next person who tells me to "just relax and it will happen" I will thump!
we have MFI too and after 5 years, It aint happening!!!
]]> Thu, 19 Apr 2012 08:56:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5793821&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5793821 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5793811&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5793811 Author: Red
Subject: 41920
Posted: 19 April 2012 at 7:42am

Sorry to hear some people are being so ignorant! I don't think anybody can really comment unless they have been in your situation. Gosh, don't think I would be going to that gym anymore.]]> Thu, 19 Apr 2012 07:42:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5793811&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5793811 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5793786&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5793786 Author: Sag76
Subject: 41920
Posted: 18 April 2012 at 8:45pm

Lol Kenneme! totally hear you!

]]> Wed, 18 Apr 2012 20:45:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5793786&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5793786 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5793744&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5793744 Author: kenneme
Subject: 41920
Posted: 18 April 2012 at 6:32pm

Yeah that gets my goat too! ]]> Wed, 18 Apr 2012 18:32:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5793744&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5793744 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5793728&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5793728 Author: weetie
Subject: 41920
Posted: 18 April 2012 at 6:07pm

My personal hate at the moment ... "if its meant to be ....."   ]]> Wed, 18 Apr 2012 18:07:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5793728&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5793728 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5793685&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5793685 Author: kenneme
Subject: 41920
Posted: 18 April 2012 at 3:47pm

What do you get sick of hearing? I am sick of people saying things like...

"If you just relax and don't think about it..."


"My neighbour tried to get pregnant for years then they adopted and voila! They got pregnant naturally because they weren't thinking about it"

"If you stop stressing it will happen"

This from a Personal Trainer I spoke to today..
"I have some clients who lost weight and their husbands found them more attractive and they got pregnant naturally without having to do IVF"

GRRRRRR. Sorry to vent. We have male factor infertility so none of the above applies. ]]> Wed, 18 Apr 2012 15:47:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41920&PID=5793685&title=if-anyone-else-says-one-more-time#5793685