OHbaby! Forums : DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sun, 19 Apr 2026 18:56:03 +0000 Thu, 23 Sep 2010 08:34:02 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=35825 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : Good Advice Vanillabean, I keep...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1159644&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1159644 Author: CrazyCass
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Posted: 23 September 2010 at 8:34am

Good Advice Vanillabean, I keep saying to DF that it'll happen straight away (only because everyone in my family is SUPER firtile).... he keeps reminding me it may not happen straight away. We'v just set a date for my IUD to come out and we'll just stop 'not trying', not sure how long we'll give it before we start charting etc.....

I know a bit about infertility as i'm adopted, to a couple that couldn't have their own children, i was super lucky that they adopted myself and my full blooded sister, and we kept in contact with my birth family which just means i have a HUGE family to contend with

well done on your little one to Vanillabean makes them all a bit more special.]]> Thu, 23 Sep 2010 08:34:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1159644&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1159644 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : I recommend pacing yourself. ...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1159267&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1159267 Author: Vanillabean
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Posted: 22 September 2010 at 5:11pm

I recommend pacing yourself.

I hope you get pg really quickly but its likely it will take a few months at least. In my journey for ttc#1 I got pg five times (miscarried 4 x) and most of those times we only BD once or twice around my fertile time. A lot of the time if you don't get up the duff its because the egg wasn't up to scratch and it doesn't matter how much sperm you shower on it, it won't make any difference.

I think guys often feel pressured to perform and I know my DH got really stressed and turned off by knowing he had to ejaculate or else miss another chance for a baby.

I found the longer you ttc the harder it is to keep things fun and lusty (we ttc'd for almost two and a half years). We dealt with it by making sure we had fun, non-pressured sex at non-fertile times of the month.

Good luck!!]]> Wed, 22 Sep 2010 17:11:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1159267&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1159267 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : Glad you got your wicked way Tiggeriffic...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1159072&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1159072 Author: CrazyCass
Subject: 35825
Posted: 22 September 2010 at 2:00pm

Glad you got your wicked way Tiggeriffic will keep my fingers crossed for you.

NeoshasMummy - guess you would get used to it, makes quality time ]]> Wed, 22 Sep 2010 14:00:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1159072&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1159072 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : CrazyCass wrote:Gosh NeoshasMummy...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1158103&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1158103 Author: NeoshasMummy
Subject: 35825
Posted: 21 September 2010 at 2:34pm

Originally posted by CrazyCass CrazyCass wrote:

Gosh NeoshasMummy - thats ALOT of work time, and not much you time!


LOL he's a car salesman it's always been that way so I have adapted ... slowly. He DJ's at night...... that's the part that gets to me

Glad that things worked out for you Tiggeriffic1


EDIT: spelling

Edited by NeoshasMummy]]> Tue, 21 Sep 2010 14:34:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1158103&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1158103 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : Haha lol it went well last night,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1158032&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1158032 Author: Tiggeriffic1
Subject: 35825
Posted: 21 September 2010 at 1:42pm

Haha lol it went well last night, thanks guys :) we went with the dirty porno and put a blanket in front of the fire :)

Glad this topic can help some of the other fellow babes out there! ]]> Tue, 21 Sep 2010 13:42:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1158032&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1158032 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : I&#039;ve also heard that he should...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157983&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157983 Author: CrazyCass
Subject: 35825
Posted: 21 September 2010 at 1:06pm

I've also heard that he should only *ahem* ejaculate every couple of days so that is more 'concentrated'????

May as well start the day with a bang huh ]]> Tue, 21 Sep 2010 13:06:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157983&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157983 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : Maybe try first thing in the morning...???...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157972&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157972 Author: KarenMae
Subject: 35825
Posted: 21 September 2010 at 12:55pm

Maybe try first thing in the morning...??? That works for us, plus the 'swimmers' are stronger in the morning apparently..... ]]> Tue, 21 Sep 2010 12:55:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157972&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157972 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : I can definitely agree with all...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157930&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157930 Author: Brizzle
Subject: 35825
Posted: 21 September 2010 at 12:23pm

I can definitely agree with all the things said above. I know that my DH feels like I only want to do it when it's 'the right time' and he feels under pressure. Also (sorry TMI) I like to use lube (semen-friendly of course) and he find that actually makes things more difficult so that can be a sticking (lol) point too. We've just cut down the amount though and that has helped. Haven't tried the dirty movies yet though - maybe if TTC goes on much longer, we'll be heading in that direction. ]]> Tue, 21 Sep 2010 12:23:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157930&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157930 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : Gosh NeoshasMummy - thats ALOT...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157910&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157910 Author: CrazyCass
Subject: 35825
Posted: 21 September 2010 at 11:51am

Gosh NeoshasMummy - thats ALOT of work time, and not much you time! ]]> Tue, 21 Sep 2010 11:51:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157910&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157910 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : hope you find some resolve, I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157689&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157689 Author: NeoshasMummy
Subject: 35825
Posted: 21 September 2010 at 8:08am

hope you find some resolve, I might steal some of these ideas too... DF is 32 i'm 21 plus he works 6 days and 2 nights a week so getting his attention can be difficult. I often find that giving him wine works ]]> Tue, 21 Sep 2010 08:08:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157689&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157689 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : Oh awesome you guys are great,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157147&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157147 Author: Tiggeriffic1
Subject: 35825
Posted: 20 September 2010 at 3:28pm

Oh awesome you guys are great, it's nice to know we aren't the only ones! :) I think it's partly the whole thing of planning it whereas before ttc it was just whenever :) we both have the very similar sex drives, I am 27 and he's 30 so age isn't too much if a problem tg!

Good idea or me reading a romance I love romances so that's a very good idea! A bath together is a nice idea too :)

Thanks heaps guys, if we get utd this month it's all owing to you guys!! Haha]]> Mon, 20 Sep 2010 15:28:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157147&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157147 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : Brilee wrote:I also used to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157145&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157145 Author: CrazyCass
Subject: 35825
Posted: 20 September 2010 at 3:26pm

Originally posted by Brilee Brilee wrote:

I also used to have a shower and go into the lounge where he was watching tv and put moistriser on my legs got his attention very quickly lol


OMG! I LOVE it, not TTC just yet but will be trying this out! ]]> Mon, 20 Sep 2010 15:26:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157145&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157145 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : Have some bubbles and maby a bath...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157133&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157133 Author: Brilee
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Posted: 20 September 2010 at 3:10pm

Have some bubbles and maby a bath together? Bubbles always gets me in the mood and will help to relax you too ;-) I also used to have a shower and go into the lounge where he was watching tv and put moistriser on my legs got his attention very quickly lol
Good Luck!!! ]]> Mon, 20 Sep 2010 15:10:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157133&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157133 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : We have this problem too and dirty...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157129&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157129 Author: MrsMJD
Subject: 35825
Posted: 20 September 2010 at 3:06pm

We have this problem too and dirty movies work for us, I also find not getting into trakkies or yoga pants when I get home helps. I try to put on something nice/casual and low cut helps too  . If it's me not in the mood I fine Stephanie Laurens or Julie Garwood help both are great authors with very creative imaginations

]]> Mon, 20 Sep 2010 15:06:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157129&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157129 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : OMG I&#039;m glad I&#039;m not...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157118&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157118 Author: babycrazy
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Posted: 20 September 2010 at 2:57pm

OMG I'm glad I'm not the only one who has this problem lol.

My DH is 11yrs older than me so I'm like emma in that respect. He can definately take a bit more encouraging.

To be honest until recently he hasn't really been on the ttc wagon as much as me so if he's not keen it just doesn't happen (which is also why i'm not pregnant I'd imagine!!) so probably can't help with suggestions. The ones above sound rather good ...might have to give them a try lol. ]]> Mon, 20 Sep 2010 14:57:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157118&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157118 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : Have you tried dress up?it always...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157105&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157105 Author: CrazyCass
Subject: 35825
Posted: 20 September 2010 at 2:42pm

Have you tried dress up?it always works when i'm in the mood & DF isnt
]]> Mon, 20 Sep 2010 14:42:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157105&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157105 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : Cool thanks guys, looks like I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157083&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157083 Author: Tiggeriffic1
Subject: 35825
Posted: 20 September 2010 at 2:22pm

Cool thanks guys, looks like I will be stopping at the video store on the way home! :p]]> Mon, 20 Sep 2010 14:22:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157083&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157083 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : Me and DH have 18 years difference...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157071&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157071 Author: CarleyRose
Subject: 35825
Posted: 20 September 2010 at 2:05pm

Me and DH have 18 years difference between us, its usually him that can't be bothered ( i'm a tiger in the bed room, haha) We found dirty movies helped us aye. ]]> Mon, 20 Sep 2010 14:05:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157071&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157071 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : Good idea thanks didi will pass...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157039&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157039 Author: Tiggeriffic1
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Posted: 20 September 2010 at 1:39pm

Good idea thanks didi will pass that good bit of info along too... ]]> Mon, 20 Sep 2010 13:39:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157039&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157039 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : Hehe I suggested that to him earlier...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157034&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157034 Author: Tiggeriffic1
Subject: 35825
Posted: 20 September 2010 at 1:38pm

Hehe I suggested that to him earlier but that didn't even get much of a reaction!! Poor dh ]]> Mon, 20 Sep 2010 13:38:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157034&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157034 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : I often find if I spend the day...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157033&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157033 Author: didi99
Subject: 35825
Posted: 20 September 2010 at 1:37pm

I often find if I spend the day thinking about it I'm ready to jump DP's bones as soon as I get home.
So maybe, just spend the day remembering that day when you were ...... and he did ....... and how you....... pretty much thinking about all the extra fab times. Also I find if I'm quite tired then I will make sure BDing happens before bedtime, as by that stage I just want to go to sleep (although do make sure you turn the stove off otherwise dinner does get a tad overdone).]]> Mon, 20 Sep 2010 13:37:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157033&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157033 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : Often felt like that. Mainly...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157019&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157019 Author: Flutterby
Subject: 35825
Posted: 20 September 2010 at 1:24pm

Often felt like that. Mainly it was me rather then him. To tell absolute truth watching a dirty movie often helped ]]> Mon, 20 Sep 2010 13:24:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157019&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157019 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : And if yes what did you do to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157005&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157005 Author: Tiggeriffic1
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Posted: 20 September 2010 at 1:08pm

And if yes what did you do to inspire yourselves?! Haha]]> Mon, 20 Sep 2010 13:08:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157005&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157005 <![CDATA[DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol : Has anyone else had this problem?...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157002&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157002 Author: Tiggeriffic1
Subject: 35825
Posted: 20 September 2010 at 1:05pm

Has anyone else had this problem? Lol all in good humor, but we've been bd-ing so much over the last few days in the hope that I ovulated, now I have yesterday and today according to opk and we both so just want a break, it's our second month of ttc but it's rather important to get utd now as my job finishes in June so we'd like to give it a really good shot... Aww man really can't be bothered tonight!

Has anyone else felt like this? Lol]]> Mon, 20 Sep 2010 13:05:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35825&PID=1157002&title=dh-doesnt-feel-like-it-lol#1157002