https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 09 Apr 2026 06:50:15 +0000 Thu, 02 Sep 2010 15:50:54 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=35542 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1142291&title=sahm-leisure-time#1142291 Author: jaz
Subject: 35542
Posted: 02 September 2010 at 3:50pm

I get that much leisure time but do have a preschooler with me for most of it. We for go walks, out of coffee/fluffy, visit the playground, read lots of books, play on the floor with trains, blocks etc and if I'm really lucky I get to surf the net or read a book while he plays. It just depends on whether you consider hanging out with young kids leisure time or not. ]]> Thu, 02 Sep 2010 15:50:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1142291&title=sahm-leisure-time#1142291 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141795&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141795 Author: freckle
Subject: 35542
Posted: 02 September 2010 at 6:52am

well Deodora - I guess if the research considered having a root canal as leisure time, work may fall into the same category LOL...
I think the main flaw with the research was in definition. I suspect if they had examined quality or usuable leisure time the results would have been quite different...]]> Thu, 02 Sep 2010 06:52:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141795&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141795 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141786&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141786 Author: deodora
Subject: 35542
Posted: 02 September 2010 at 12:15am

Did they have any comments about mothers who work? I can't imagine that they get much if any during the week. I have a very 'full on' job with little if any down time during an average day. Because I finish at 4.00 so I can collect the baby I don't take lunch breaks. The few hours in the evening 'free' after he goes to bed disappear in a flurry of washing, dishes, cooking , cleaning, bill paying etc and usually a bit more work. All these things plus groceries etc also take up big chunks of the weekend. .
IWhen you are working and away from your child for most of the day it seems very unfair on him to not spend every chance you can with him in the evenings and weekends. ]]> Thu, 02 Sep 2010 00:15:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141786&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141786 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141780&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141780 Author: Richie
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 11:29pm

Yea I'd say I'd probably get close to that. I do most things (including housework) at a fairly 'leisurely rate' so nothing ever really feels like a task.
Isla goes down at 9pm and I go to bed at 11pm so that's 14hrs of 'me' time where I literally do nothingbut cross stitch, watch tele or browse the net. Then there's her naps during the day. Even if it's only 1hr at a time, twice a day, that is still another 14hrs so getting close to 30hrs in total. And that is a minimum. And like AandCsMum said, I count sleep as leisure time! And I get 10hrs a nice so certainly can't complain! ]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 23:29:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141780&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141780 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141775&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141775 Author: kiwisj
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 11:13pm

LOL sleep when I'm not pregnant is a leisure activity to me as well so perhaps I do get more hours than I think

I think baby-free time is definitely close to 40 hrs/week for me but that's not all leisure time. Nap times are the only times I get to pay the bills, sort out our finances and other house stuff (including house back in NZ), do grocery shopping and prepare food etc etc etc. So no housework and yes I can get out without Callum but I don't consider those things leisure activities!

Hanging out on here, reading a book for pleasure, playing sport or having a coffee with a friend or a date with DH - THAT is leisure time to me ]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 23:13:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141775&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141775 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141751&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141751 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 10:42pm

I consider sleep leisure time so that clocks me up!]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 22:42:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141751&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141751 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141708&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141708 Author: emz
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 9:49pm

It depends how you use your time - when I was a SAHM I always did my housework during the day, so nights (7-10.30) were mine. That's 17.5 hours there, plus any naps they had, and then probably half of the weekend (going by sharing duties). So I would say it's fair. I count being with the kids as leisure time during the weekend, as long as you're not scrubbing nappies etc.]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 21:49:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141708&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141708 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141672&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141672 Author: MrsMojo
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 9:22pm

To be fair I didn't have a root canal but I had several dental appointments when DS was newborn and it did feel like a break at the time.]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 21:22:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141672&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141672 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141651&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141651 Author: Delli
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 9:12pm

At first I thought 30-40 hours was way too high. But then I started to add up the individual hours/minutes and it actually works out about right. I do quite a bit of the housework while Jude is up - he "helps" me . Today for my leisure time, I washed my horse for an hour and a bit while Jude slept. Played on the comp for around an hour before doing tea while Jude played on the floor. Tonight I get less leisure time (watching TV/ computer time/ working on hobbies) than usual as DP went to bed early and Jude decided to stay up 'til 8.30pm instead of going to bed around 7pm like he usually does. But I'd usually get around 2-3 hours. So, I'd say I average around four-five hours leisure time a day. 28-35hours per week. Sometimes more, sometimes less. I also count showers to myself as leisure time (and always have even when I didn't have a baby) - I take long showers

Jude did go through a stage of not wanting to play by himself at all so that meant less leisure time (I play with him heaps now but I think it's great that he can play by himself every now and again). And I'm betting it's much harder with two plus children who don't synchronize their naps.

Edited by Delli]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 21:12:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141651&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141651 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141573&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141573 Author: monikah
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 8:36pm

my boys both go to bed around 7 and i go to bed about 12-1 so i guess thats 40 hours a week there not including the odd occasion they both nap at the same time. i go out a lot after they go to bed and hang with friends while DH plays computer games at home. it doesnt take into account things like cleaning, home made baby food, 2 kids in clothe nappies, i go to uni and study really hard at night. keep the house clean etc... if its child free time 40hrs a week that one thing, but leisure time i think not]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 20:36:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141573&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141573 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141453&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141453 Author: 4thtymlucky
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 6:56pm

Depends what you count as leisure time I guess? When I was on leave with bubs I don't think there was any "leisure" time...SAHM's have fulltime jobs so there is no leisure time unless someone else has the wee one's but then we tend to do housework catch up rather than chill out and relax with a good book. Blessings to all our SAHMs ]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 18:56:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141453&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141453 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141375&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141375 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 5:40pm

leisure time? whats that?? lol

I have been lazy of late, but usually Im doing stuff round the house, cleaning and all that guff, Id hardly call that leisure time.
I sure as hell dont get 30-40 hours of it!]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 17:40:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141375&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141375 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141367&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141367 Author: TheKelly
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 5:35pm

'
]haha !!! yes , I remember when I worked at the dentist , I would often say to the women patients "and are you here for a bit of leisure time ? " *wink wink *

haha right! ]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 17:35:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141367&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141367 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141342&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141342 Author: Delli
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 4:59pm

I'd say thats about accurate for me with one 1 year old. But then, I'm super lazy and as I've said before - don't give a crap about housework. I'm expecting that time to decrease with the new baby.

Still less than if I had no children and was working full time though. I'd probably add on another 20 hours at least to that (Because whole weekends used to be free! )]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 16:59:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141342&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141342 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141313&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141313 Author: High9
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 4:31pm

lilfatty wrote: clover - when I had newborn babies .. it felt fantastic to get two hours sleep little own seven. Three hours in a row was bliss .. I could take on the world!

I remember hearing it was 'very tiring' but wondered why people said that because I would get 2 hour stretches and I felt on top of the world!

As for the actual topic of leisure time, that seems like a lot... I wonder what time they get up and what time they go to bed?
I know I get maybe... Hmmm 3 hours in the evening when DD goes to bed and 4 hours over the day so ... That's 49 hours a week when you think about it... ]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 16:31:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141313&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141313 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141295&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141295 Author: luvmylittlies
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 4:11pm

Yeah it depends what you're counting. My gal goes to bed at 7 and I go to bed at 10:30 but in that time I do a quick tidy up of the house, put washing away, express, clean up from dinner. During her sleeps during the day I do sit around a bit but no longer than if I was at morning tea or lunch at work. Also do you count leisure activities with the child? Hmm, but if I do add it up it probably is around 30 hours. But that's if I include stuff I do with DD and I've only got one child who is not even crawling yet. ]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 16:11:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141295&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141295 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141210&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141210 Author: yermasyada
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 3:13pm

Root canal = leisure time LMAO

All depends how you define your own leisure time and everyone will do this differently. I'm lucky to have a wee boy who sleeps through (6.30-7.30) and I go to bed at around 9.30, so I guess that's 21hrs of leisure time just there. Of course I have to make the dinner, tidy up etc during the time also, so do I deduct say 1hr for that? hummmm I catch several moments in the day, where I check my mails etc (although I tend to do most of that while I have the boy on my boob) so I guess all these times add up. Plus at the weekends I don't do housework (just stuff that *has* to be done) so I guess that's mostly relaxing leisure time as a family.

To summarise, I probably have more leisure time than I think.... maybe 30hrs ???]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 15:13:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141210&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141210 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141201&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141201 Author: MyLilSquishy
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 3:03pm

*sigh* leisure time!

maybe i should go get a root canal. ]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 15:03:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141201&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141201 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141191&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141191 Author: fairy1
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 2:59pm

clover wrote: I also read an article today that women with newborns actually do get on average 7 hours sleep and apparently that should be enough. Not that I've been there yet but I'm thinking it isn't 7 hours of solid or quality sleep so that is probably a flaw in their argument.

Im pretty sure medically they said 8-9hrs is best so I dont know how this is quality sleep, especially sicne its broken and I think the 8-9 is suppose to be continous.

Peanut wrote: The research actually stated that leisure time included things like - having a root canal, waiting for a two truck, typing with 2 hands etc. So its actually a crappy research paper and a total crock!

Yeah, I defiantely think the research article is total crock but I wondered what other people thought regarding leisure time.]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 14:59:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141191&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141191 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141177&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141177 Author: clover
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 2:52pm

That was what I thought, I bet the "research" was done by a male, probably a childless one....]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 14:52:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141177&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141177 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141170&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141170 Author: lilfatty
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 2:49pm

clover - when I had newborn babies .. it felt fantastic to get two hours sleep little own seven.

Three hours in a row was bliss .. I could take on the world! ]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 14:49:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141170&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141170 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141166&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141166 Author: kiwisj
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 2:47pm

I have full time live in help and I don't think I have 30-40 hours leisure time a week Unless it is time spent with Callum. Which, while it is fun a lot of the time is still my "job" really.

A root canal is a leisure activity?!?! Crazy people.]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 14:47:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141166&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141166 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141136&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141136 Author: Peanut
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 2:28pm

The research actually stated that leisure time included things like - having a root canal, waiting for a two truck, typing with 2 hands etc. So its actually a crappy research paper and a total crock!]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 14:28:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141136&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141136 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141132&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141132 Author: clover
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 2:24pm

I guess it probably depends what their definition of "leisure" time is..... I didn't see the program, I wonder if the research is online anywhere?

I also read an article today that women with newborns actually do get on average 7 hours sleep and apparently that should be enough. Not that I've been there yet but I'm thinking it isn't 7 hours of solid or quality sleep so that is probably a flaw in their argument.]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 14:24:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141132&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141132 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141129&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141129 Author: kebakat
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 2:23pm

Haven't read the research but 30-40hrs a week leisure time would be fantastic. I certainly don't get that! Maybe if it were a SAHM who has all kids at school you could perhaps get that.

Daniel goes to daycare 3 times a week instead of kindy and I use that time to do housework, workout and then maybe have a bit of rest time after I do each little thing as I'm getting tired being preg]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 14:23:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141129&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141129 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141113&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141113 Author: fairy1
Subject: 35542
Posted: 01 September 2010 at 2:10pm

Im watching the Dr Phil show and he's talking about a research article that came out saying that SAHM's have 30-40 hrs leisure time a week.
Now I was quite surprised to hear this because I thought SAHM's would have less.
So for those of us who are SAHM's what do you think of this research? Agree or diagree and why.]]> Wed, 01 Sep 2010 14:10:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35542&PID=1141113&title=sahm-leisure-time#1141113