OHbaby! Forums : Need a little bit of reassurance... https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 04 Apr 2026 12:51:45 +0000 Wed, 18 Aug 2010 11:54:08 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=35305 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Need a little bit of reassurance... : Here&#039;s another thought...10-12...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1129289&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1129289 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 35305
Posted: 18 August 2010 at 11:54am

Here's another thought...10-12 hours without the reassurance that Mummy or Daddy are still near is a VERY long time in a baby's eyes.]]> Wed, 18 Aug 2010 11:54:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1129289&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1129289 <![CDATA[Need a little bit of reassurance... : Gardengirl wrote:And apparently,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1129167&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1129167 Author: Nutella
Subject: 35305
Posted: 18 August 2010 at 9:58am

Originally posted by Gardengirl Gardengirl wrote:

And apparently, when the 'experts' talk about babies that sleep through the night they are talking about babies that sleep for a stretch of 5 hours.


Really? How funny, guess that means DS sleeps through the night but his mummy doesn't lol! I always imagined that the sleeping through the night was the 10-12 hour stretches so now do I get to be a smug mummy saying he sleeps through hehe.]]> Wed, 18 Aug 2010 09:58:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1129167&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1129167 <![CDATA[Need a little bit of reassurance... : nathansmummy wrote:One idea...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128904&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128904 Author: Gardengirl
Subject: 35305
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 8:51pm

Originally posted by nathansmummy nathansmummy wrote:

One idea that worked for me is waking him and feeding him at around 10pm/11pm. If you do that, it's likely he'll sleep through till 7am which is the equivalent of "sleeping through the night" at least at this stage!


It's possible but DS ( about to turn 1) has been half waking for a dreamfeed around 10pm ish for months, but it's only recently that he will then sleep through till 7am and even now not every night.

And, even on the nights that he does "sleep through" I hear him wake up and cry for a while often around 4/5am. So really, the only reason that I can say that sometimes he now sleeps through is down to the fact that he has recently learnt to resettle himself and he wasn't even close to doing that at 6 months.

1sttimepreggies, you said that you decided to accept your wee one waking before, and that's what I do. I am a very firm believer that just because a baby 'can' sleep through doesn't for one minute mean that they 'should' and certainly not because other peoples babies supposedly do. Babies wake, children wake, adults wake. Babies wake for a whole host of reasons, maybe teeth, maybe hunger or thirst, maybe they just need a cuddle.

And apparently, when the 'experts' talk about babies that sleep through the night they are talking about babies that sleep for a stretch of 5 hours.

Honestly, I think it's perfectly normal what you're experiencing, try not to let other people put you under pressure.

DH summed it up nicely for me one time recently when he said "well I'm 42 and I still don't sleep through every night".]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 20:51:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128904&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128904 <![CDATA[Need a little bit of reassurance... : Ok, I think the general idea is...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128903&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128903 Author: Kalimirella
Subject: 35305
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 8:50pm

Ok, I think the general idea is if its not bothering YOU don't fix it!

However if it is bothering you because you need the sleep, maybe try feeding him more milk during the day (I know I know easy for me to say...) I don't know what sort of feeder you have but if he is the greedy gulp it down sort, maybe try having the 4 or so hourly during the day with 2 closer together b4 he goes to sleep and 2 closer together after wakeup. This works for us but hey all babies are different.
You could try slow weaning overnight.
Basicly time how long he usually feeds at night, then start cutting it in half, if he doesn't protest (or not much) and you get down to 2 mins or less you can be fairly sure hes not really that hungry. If thats the case just continue cutting in half then get to just a cuddle then patting etc. No guarentees, this worked for us but again, babies are sooo different and your little one sounds quite stubborn and wants what HE wants.

I wish you good luck.

ETA, changed the pronouns to get it right, too used to writing about girls (our april thread is very lopsided that way lol)

Edited by Kalimirella]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 20:50:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128903&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128903 <![CDATA[Need a little bit of reassurance... : TheKelly wrote:Ignore your...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128817&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128817 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 35305
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 7:20pm

Originally posted by TheKelly TheKelly wrote:

Ignore your coffee group and plunket , they are just making you worry unnecessarily

And are your coffee group telling the truth or do they just say their baby is sleeping through as they don't want to be the only one whose baby doesn't?

Neither of my boys sleep through. Jack is 3yrs and only occasionally sleeps through, it is a very rare occasion though.

From what I have read it is more common for babies to wake in the night than we are led to believe.
As a friend said to me, if it isn't a problem for you then it isn't a problem!]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 19:20:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128817&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128817 <![CDATA[Need a little bit of reassurance... : oh gosh , my boy has nights at...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128663&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128663 Author: TheKelly
Subject: 35305
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 4:35pm

oh gosh , my boy has nights at nearly 14 months where he STILL doesn't sleep all the way through .
Ignore your coffee group and plunket , they are just making you worry unnecessarily ]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 16:35:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128663&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128663 <![CDATA[Need a little bit of reassurance... : My boy is still waking anywhere...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128661&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128661 Author: MamaT
Subject: 35305
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 4:34pm

My boy is still waking anywhere from 2-6 times a night. Usually about 3-4 times. So yes it is normal. They are only still so young but it won't be a permanent thing.

One thing I've learnt is not compare one baby to the next, they are all so different. Just be thankful that all it takes is is a quick feed and back to bed

]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 16:34:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128661&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128661 <![CDATA[Need a little bit of reassurance... : I&#039;ve been told feeding regularly...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128637&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128637 Author: High9
Subject: 35305
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 4:15pm

I've been told feeding regularly during the day can help them sleep through, not sure how true it is for everyone but feeding 2-3 hourly during the day. ]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 16:15:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128637&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128637 <![CDATA[Need a little bit of reassurance... : One idea that worked for me is...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128627&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128627 Author: nathansmummy
Subject: 35305
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 4:05pm

One idea that worked for me is waking him and feeding him at around 10pm/11pm. If you do that, it's likely he'll sleep through till 7am which is the equivalent of "sleeping through the night" at least at this stage! It took me a week for this dreamfeed to work for me (he still woke up later in the night) but eventually the waking lengthened out and he didn't wake till 7am. You could give it a go for a week and see if it works for you???]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 16:05:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128627&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128627 <![CDATA[Need a little bit of reassurance... : When my DS was 6 months old, he...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128583&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128583 Author: naysgirl
Subject: 35305
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 3:20pm

When my DS was 6 months old, he was waking once a night for a feed (anywhere between 3am and 5am). I just figured that he was still growing and developing heaps so he still needed milk at night.
He hasn't slept through since about 4 months old and has just started waking twice a night for the past week. I have always thought that I wouldn't worry about it until he is fully established on solids but we will see when the time comes.

As the others have said, just focus on your wee man and what he is doing and try to worry what other babies are doing.]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 15:20:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128583&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128583 <![CDATA[Need a little bit of reassurance... : No sleep thru here till 8 months....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128525&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128525 Author: millymollymandy
Subject: 35305
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 2:27pm

No sleep thru here till 8 months. I could have fixed sooner, but had to be ready to do what needed to be done. Was well established on solids and did a DF at 10 pm. Doesn't wake for feed (mostly, so I count it as sleeping thru).]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 14:27:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128525&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128525 <![CDATA[Need a little bit of reassurance... : Yip then there is the wakefulness...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128494&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128494 Author: Nutella
Subject: 35305
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 2:02pm

Yip then there is the wakefulness coz they are learning something new, and then a growth spurt blah blah blah....it is so not worth stressing over if you ask me. As long as you are coping with the waking ]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 14:02:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128494&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128494 <![CDATA[Need a little bit of reassurance... : nope not sleeping through here...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128493&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128493 Author: crafty1
Subject: 35305
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 2:01pm

nope not sleeping through here either. well not consistently. i feed him if he wakes hungry otherwise i let him cry back to sleep. He often wakes about 12 or 1am and then his cry is a tired one, lasts a few mins and he's out again. Then anytime between 3-6 he wants a feed. i treat all those as night feeds.

Are you feeding 4 hrly yet? that might be why he is cutting down the day feeds. If you go longer between feeds they should increase again. ]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 14:01:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128493&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128493 <![CDATA[Need a little bit of reassurance... : He is only six months old. Don&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128486&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128486 Author: first
Subject: 35305
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 1:55pm

He is only six months old. Don't worry lots a babies don't sleep through at that age. My boy didn't sleep through until he was somewhere over 9months old and even then it was hit and miss.
My boy also never slept well when getting teeth or for about six weeks before teeth arrived.
Just do what works for you. Don't listen to what everyone elses baby is doing.]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 13:55:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128486&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128486 <![CDATA[Need a little bit of reassurance... : I wouldn&#039;t worry unless you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128485&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128485 Author: Nutella
Subject: 35305
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 1:54pm

I wouldn't worry unless you need the sleep. My DS still wakes and I couldn't care less if other babies sleep through and to be honest probably half the people at the coffee group are exagerating how perfect their baby is.

And what do they mean by sleeping through anyway...might mean baby has a dream feed at 11 and then wakes at 6am...which is only 7 hours in a row haha, not exactly a 10 hour sleep in one go.

Most of the ladies in the Dec 09 group still have babies waking at night.

Does that make you feel better lol!]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 13:54:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128485&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128485 <![CDATA[Need a little bit of reassurance... : Daniel didn&#039;t sleep through...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128484&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128484 Author: kebakat
Subject: 35305
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 1:53pm

Daniel didn't sleep through on a continuous basis until about the 9-10 month mark]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 13:53:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128484&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128484 <![CDATA[Need a little bit of reassurance... : My son is 6 months old and still...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128477&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128477 Author: 1st_Time_Preggies
Subject: 35305
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 1:47pm

My son is 6 months old and still not sleeping through the night    I used to stress about it something chronic, but then about a month ago, I decided just to accept it, and since he only woke once a night (differing times, anywhere between 10pm and 5am!) and was back to sleep within 20 minutes it isn't really that bad.

However after talking to plunket and my coffee group, I am starting to feel like I should be doing something to help him sleep through?

He has started taking less milk during the days (fully bf) and last night woke twice so I am worried he is making up for it at night.

He is not really interested in solids, and certainly not puree so we are sort of trying baby led weaning which means he isn't eating much in the way of food.

I don't think I could let him CIO (in fact, I think he is so stubborn he would scream the whole night), have tried other methods to settle him but basically when he is hungry, only food will pacify him. If I go in to try and cuddle him or shhh/pat him etc he just gets hysterical. Same with a dummy.

Although I am always looking for advice, I am also just looking for reassurance that other people's six month old bubbas are still waking, that it is "okay" to still be feeding him, and perhaps even that he will grow out of it of his own accord! ]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 13:47:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35305&PID=1128477&title=need-a-little-bit-of-reassurance#1128477