OHbaby! Forums : What would you do differently next time? https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 01:52:39 +0000 Sat, 21 Aug 2010 20:04:53 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=35300 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : Hmm now being 6 months pregnant...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1132070&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1132070 Author: mcshort
Subject: 35300
Posted: 21 August 2010 at 8:04pm

Hmm now being 6 months pregnant this is totally in my headspace! What do I plan to do differently?

- tell people to eff off if they think we're ridiculous for using the 5 Ss (happiest baby on the block - Godsent!!) or baby sign
- when baby is sleeping, sleep more!
- take more deep breaths and go for walks regardless of the weather
- listen to my mother more. Particularly when she tells me (after trying and trying and failing with the advice I got from a Karitane nurse who meant well) "YOU do what YOU think is right" - who'd've thought my mother was so wonderful at encouraging me to use my intuition!

However what I'd do the same:
- bassinette in our room til 6 months (because it worked for us, no disrespect to those who can't stand it of course!)
- plenty of cuddles (especially skin-to-skin in the early days)
- persevere with breastfeeding and celebrate it!
- swaddling for sleep in the early months
- sing!
- thank people when they give me advice

I'm sure I could go on...]]> Sat, 21 Aug 2010 20:04:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1132070&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1132070 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : Next time baby will be planned...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1129492&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1129492 Author: Jelly
Subject: 35300
Posted: 18 August 2010 at 3:07pm

Next time baby will be planned and I won't be worrying that we haven't got everything / won't be ready!

Ooh and baby will have it's own bloody room, which I will have lots of fun decorating, redecorating, rearranging and playing with to satisfy my nesting.

I'll also try to only have one pram which does everything, rather than 3 which all have very different uses.

I'll try harder to breastfeed right from the word go and avoid the guilt and the what ifs that I have now.]]> Wed, 18 Aug 2010 15:07:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1129492&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1129492 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : I like what we&#039;ve done with...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1129487&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1129487 Author: Delli
Subject: 35300
Posted: 18 August 2010 at 3:01pm

I like what we've done with Jude so far, we are very go-with-the-flow-ish. Have no regrets and think we have made mostly right decisions along the way so not sure how much I will do differently. Perhaps wear the new bubs a bit more I guess, I didn't have a Moby wrap until Jude was around 10 weeks old. ]]> Wed, 18 Aug 2010 15:01:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1129487&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1129487 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : what would I do ? nothing different...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1129484&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1129484 Author: TheKelly
Subject: 35300
Posted: 18 August 2010 at 2:55pm

what would I do ? nothing different , how i've been with Ty, relaxed, knowing that it goes so fast and in the long run a lot what seems so important at the time , really matters squat .

The only thing im doing differently this time , is having an epidural haha ]]> Wed, 18 Aug 2010 14:55:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1129484&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1129484 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : This is a great topic! This time...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1129340&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1129340 Author: SpecialK
Subject: 35300
Posted: 18 August 2010 at 12:40pm

This is a great topic!

This time round I will:

-not take any cr@p from midwives (e..g it's your fault for not being able to BF because you pushed him out wrong and had an epidural)
- know that formula isn't evil and won't feel guilty if bub needs the odd top up
- be more relaxed about house work, not try to be superwoman, and accept all offers of help rather than trying to do everything myself! ]]> Wed, 18 Aug 2010 12:40:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1129340&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1129340 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : Ooh, I&#039;d stop working earlier...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1129325&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1129325 Author: MrsH
Subject: 35300
Posted: 18 August 2010 at 12:25pm

Ooh, I'd stop working earlier too in an effort to avoid the early signs of PET which ultimately had me induced.]]> Wed, 18 Aug 2010 12:25:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1129325&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1129325 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : haha all good Lily is into grabbing...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1129110&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1129110 Author: High9
Subject: 35300
Posted: 18 August 2010 at 9:03am

haha all good Lily is into grabbing the cats as they go past! they don't seem to mind her pulling their hair out!]]> Wed, 18 Aug 2010 09:03:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1129110&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1129110 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : Lil_Nic9 wrote: Emmecat wrote:But...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1129035&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1129035 Author: Emmecat
Subject: 35300
Posted: 18 August 2010 at 7:32am

Originally posted by Lil_Nic9 Lil_Nic9 wrote:

Originally posted by Emmecat Emmecat wrote:

But hey at the end of the day we do our best given what we know and understand at the time....so as Dr Phil would say, when you know better, you do better . I think I've managed to raise a bright, healthy, gregarious and charming baby girl so can't have stuffed up too badly!!


I met you and your wee girl today and she is just lovely! You've done a brilliant job and I had heard of her sleeping before in another thread!

Aaaaww thanks Nicky Clodagh is lovely although sorry she wanted to pat Lily hard lol, she likes babies and cats at the moment hehe

]]> Wed, 18 Aug 2010 07:32:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1129035&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1129035 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : Presuming I can breastfeed again,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1129032&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1129032 Author: JessDub
Subject: 35300
Posted: 18 August 2010 at 7:30am

Presuming I can breastfeed again, No2 will be getting a late bottle of formula from Daddy.

DS did not sleep for any long length of time until he started taking formula milk at 6.5 months. Then he slept through night all night once he was fully weaned from me and on the bottle at 8 months.

I know all kids are different and that DS was a big hungry boy but that formula filled him up and it didnt break him.

Edited by JessDub]]> Wed, 18 Aug 2010 07:30:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1129032&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1129032 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : I made a very conscoius decison...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1129009&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1129009 Author: Kellz
Subject: 35300
Posted: 18 August 2010 at 6:50am

I made a very conscoius decison to have a wonderful natural birth with #2, and put a lot of effort into achieving this.
I also have found Im more confident with they way we choose to do stuff, and dont Q our decisons as much, or feel the need to defend them as much. It has a lot to do with Aiden being #2, but also him being an easier baby - with #1 everyone offered us all sorts of conflicting advise cos she was so unsettled for so long, and cos nothing worked, I always felt I was doing something wrong, so was never confident in my parenting abilities.
This time I have realised that all babies are diff, and just cos someone elses baby is doing something "better" doesnt mean Im doing something wrong - Ive realised that so much of what babies are like comes down to their personality, even at a very young age!

If we have #3 I would research more into not pushing during labour, as even tho I had a completely natural birth,my body took at least 6 weeks to start really recovering from the pushing.
]]> Wed, 18 Aug 2010 06:50:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1129009&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1129009 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : SMoody wrote: But second time...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128993&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128993 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 11:18pm

Originally posted by SMoody SMoody wrote:


But second time around the biggest change is that I don't feel the need to defend the choices that we are making where with McKayla I had to keep on explaining what and why we are doing it and got very defensive. This time I do'nt even inform. If someone ask I say and if they are not willing to accept it then I just leave it. Their problem not mine.


This is a big thing I've felt has changed with me as well. I just do, I don't question.

Interesting how everyone has said relax more.

One thing I loved being pointed out to me this time, and I'm a pretty cruisy person, was to enjoy the 4th trimester. I guess I did this more than before I knew that Cooper is my last so I wanted to really enjoy those special moments with him.

I didn't set out to change anything, maybe it's cause my kids were so far apart. Actually I did. I said that I was taking a year off minimum. Best thing I ever did

eta : cause some weird sh*t was typed...I have no idea where it came from!

Edited by AandCsmum]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 23:18:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128993&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128993 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : Hopefully the next baby will be...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128942&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128942 Author: whitewave
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 9:43pm

Hopefully the next baby will be a brilliant sleeper! But if not, I'll go with the flow and do what works for us, and not worry about why my baby doesn't "follow the rules"!
]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 21:43:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128942&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128942 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : I would take the opportunity to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128929&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128929 Author: MrsH
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 9:25pm

I would take the opportunity to go out more when bubs is quite small. I stayed at home alot and got a bit of cabin fever. I also feel that I wasted my Maternity Leave. Plus, they're so easy to take out at that age.

I wasn't too anal with the sleeping but I would try and get DS into a routine and would get pissed off when DH wouldn't 'adhere' to it as well (as i'd "worked so hard").

I'll also do alot more baby-wearing.]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 21:25:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128929&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128929 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : I will swaddle and use the happiest...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128906&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128906 Author: Disco
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 8:53pm

I will swaddle and use the happiest baby on the block tips. But on the whole I won't per sue the holy grail of sleep.

I will do my best to get a good sleep pattern but if it doesn't work I won't beat myself up about it and I won't let anyone else make me feel bad that my baby doesn't sleep through the night. The competition to have the best sleeper is one I won't be playing :)

On the whole I will just relax and try and take it in my stride and not stress. But I will get more help so that I can get more sleep and not get myself in the horrendous sleep deprived state I was in before.

Apart from that I think I've done a good job so far :)

disco:)

]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 20:53:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128906&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128906 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : Next time... I think the only...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128898&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128898 Author: Kalimirella
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 8:43pm

Next time...

I think the only thing i would do is be more relaxed about housework but atm that is hard seeing as we live with MIL/FIL hehe I'm meant to be the live in housekeeper (I'm pretty bad at it too!)

I'm happy in that I have been pretty relaxed and let her sleep on me and co-slept for a couple of weeks (which didn't work for us but was god as she had a cold and really snuffly nose from week 1 to week 4)

I would push harder to make sure my war wounds and general fatigue (which is still terrible and she is sleeping 7pm to 7am) is treated/ looked into for a reason earlier.

And I'm enjoying my lovely little girl to the max!!!!!!!!]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 20:43:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128898&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128898 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : Next time I would: listen to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128843&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128843 Author: nathansmummy
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 7:54pm

Next time I would:

listen to my gut about my midwife and not be afraid to change

discuss the whole birth thing so everyone is clear about what is important to me

not push for an induction (what was I thinking!!??)

ask for help and support a lot earlier from wherever I could

arrange an au pair for the first 3mths if I could

arrange time for myself earlier on

In terms of my parenting decisions - I am really happy with all the decisions I've made and he's responded really well. No babies are easy or perfect but he's pretty good so fingers crossed next time I'm just as lucky!]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 19:54:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128843&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128843 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : Emmecat wrote:But hey at the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128823&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128823 Author: High9
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 7:25pm

Originally posted by Emmecat Emmecat wrote:

But hey at the end of the day we do our best given what we know and understand at the time....so as Dr Phil would say, when you know better, you do better . I think I've managed to raise a bright, healthy, gregarious and charming baby girl so can't have stuffed up too badly!!


I met you and your wee girl today and she is just lovely! You've done a brilliant job and I had heard of her sleeping before in another thread! ]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 19:25:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128823&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128823 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : Mrs_B wrote: Linzy wrote:d...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128807&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128807 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 7:05pm

Originally posted by Mrs_B Mrs_B wrote:

Originally posted by Linzy Linzy wrote:

d also feel like I missed some things as life revolved around his non sleep. I think it helped contribute to my PND


Ditto Can I ask, did you get PND with Ben?

I think I had PND from when Jack was born/little but it wasn't officially diagnosed until Ben was about 4wks old.
I came from a job where I knew what I was doing, confident in my ability and organised. I then became a SAHM to Jack who never read the books and didn't do what babies were "supposed" to do. I was so worried about what I "should" be doing because he didn't seem to be doing all the things that my CG babies were doing i.e. sleeping! I lost confidence in myself.
This time I have tried to be a bit more relaxed and go with the flow, it works sometimes!]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 19:05:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128807&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128807 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : KitKat wrote:Use birth control!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128803&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128803 Author: Emmecat
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 7:00pm

Originally posted by KitKat KitKat wrote:

Use birth control! lol...   nah sorry

But seriously.

LMAO

Um- I would relax a bit more about the sleeping thing too, as it's a well known fact Clodagh does not rate sleep that highly . HOWEVER, having said that, I am still happy with not using CIO or CC...all I will change next time (please god make the next one a better sleeper though hehe), is to just chill out a bit more about them not sleeping if it comes to that IYKWIM?

I would also rest more (unlikely to be able to do that with 2 though), and trust my instincts a little more. I'd also try to take a bit more time with DF in a romantic way cos it's been very easy to 'just' become Mummy and Daddy rather than friends and lovers.

But hey at the end of the day we do our best given what we know and understand at the time....so as Dr Phil would say, when you know better, you do better . I think I've managed to raise a bright, healthy, gregarious and charming baby girl so can't have stuffed up too badly!!

]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 19:00:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128803&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128803 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : Use birth control! lol...nah...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128784&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128784 Author: KitKat
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 6:45pm

Use birth control! lol...   nah sorry

But seriously. ]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 18:45:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128784&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128784 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : Ds was a 45min sleeper as well....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128467&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128467 Author: Flutterby
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 1:37pm

Ds was a 45min sleeper as well. Even though I tried halfheartdly to get him into a routine I just gave up in the end and did what worked for us, even if that meant feeding to sleep, or co-sleeping.

Next time I am going to swaddle from the start and since I will have the queen bed to myself this time I think I will co-sleep for a couple of months, it just makes it so much easier during the night. But above all I am just going to go with the flow and follow my instincts. And I am also going to wear baby for as long as I can, mainly because I think it'll be easier when out and about with my toddler.]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 13:37:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128467&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128467 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : Pretty much everything! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128463&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128463 Author: 1st_Time_Preggies
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 1:35pm

Pretty much everything! ]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 13:35:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128463&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128463 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : I followed my heart with everything...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128451&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128451 Author: High9
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 1:25pm

I followed my heart with everything almost and I am completely happy with how things have gone so will do the same next time EXCEPT...

Swaddling, dd was happy to be unswaddled but I was told it was better for her sleeping if I swaddled her so I did and now she refuses to sleep any other way and if she unwraps herself well... Re wrapping and swaddling time.

Starting solids, getting a lot of pressure to Not start before 6 months but start by 6 months no later... WTH does that mean?! DD had just started to go from waking 3 times a night to once and we finally started solids, she was happy with out them (she was almost 6 months) and it screwed everything up and she's not waking about 4+ times a night!

I like craftys advice and I just go with everything DD does, accept it and enjoy them, they grow so fast, no point getting upset about not sleeping, etc! ]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 13:25:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128451&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128451 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : I mostly raised my first born...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128434&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128434 Author: SMoody
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 1:15pm

I mostly raised my first born (McKayla) (till this point) the way that I wanted too. There is a few things that I let slide that I shouldn't in regards with family etc.

But second time around the biggest change is that I don't feel the need to defend the choices that we are making where with McKayla I had to keep on explaining what and why we are doing it and got very defensive. This time I do'nt even inform. If someone ask I say and if they are not willing to accept it then I just leave it. Their problem not mine.

]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 13:15:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128434&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128434 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : haha, me and my friend were talking...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128413&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128413 Author: stefany3
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 12:58pm

haha, me and my friend were talking about how things will be different with #2, ie. letting them sleep on you a bit more often and having those special moments, even though they create 'bad habits'.
I was also saying to DH 2 days ago that Isaac has been a good sleeper thru the night, and mostly during the day, and I did it by the book with a 'strict' routine. But at the end of the day, we didnt have to do anything drastic to get him to sleep thru, so I think he was naturally good, and the next kid could be a nightmare - but I hope not
I still intend to be fairly 'by the book' though, just in case! But when baby is little I might be a bit more flexible and go with the flow. ]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 12:58:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128413&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128413 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : i had a great sleeper first time...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128381&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128381 Author: crafty1
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 12:25pm

i had a great sleeper first time and did all the 'right' things so was fairly confident number 2 would be ok too.

haha. the gods must have been laughing.

DS2 is not the worlds best sleeper and i can see how easy it would be to make that your life. I chose not to and just accept that most days 45 mins is as good as it gets so go with that and just carry on. I do sometimes try and extend naps if it suits our routine etc and i think he really needs it and nowadays i have some success with this.

My advice would be to accept the child you get and not get too hung up on what you can't change. Some kids need more sleep and some need less and there's precious little you can do to influence them either way - esp in the early days.

I often hold DS2 to sleep if he needs a second 45min to make a longer nap - never did with DS1 - but when i do it is a choice i make so i sit down and enjoy watching him sleep and read a book etc.

tbh having a short napper has been a godsend as it means we can still go out to DS1's playgroups etc as DS2 sleeps just as well out in pram/capsule/sling/my arms as at home in bed. A friend had a great second sleeper and she is stuck in the house cos he's sleeping 2-3 hours and her toddler is climbing the walls with boredom. ]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 12:25:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128381&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128381 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : Linzy wrote:d also feel like...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128378&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128378 Author: Mrs_B
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 12:24pm

Originally posted by Linzy Linzy wrote:

d also feel like I missed some things as life revolved around his non sleep. I think it helped contribute to my PND


Ditto Can I ask, did you get PND with Ben?]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 12:24:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128378&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128378 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : I didn&#039;t do things by the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128360&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128360 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 12:10pm

I didn't do things by the book with Jack but I did have a crap sleeper and also feel like I missed some things as life revolved around his non sleep. I think it helped contribute to my PND

I have been a little more relaxed with Ben regarding sleep and other things]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 12:10:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128360&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128360 <![CDATA[What would you do differently next time? : Was having this discussion with...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128332&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128332 Author: Mrs_B
Subject: 35300
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 11:41am

Was having this discussion with a friend of mine who has just had her 2nd child just got me thinking...

I did everything by the book re: sleeping and still ended up with a crap sleeper who at 15mths has just started sleeping through the night finally! I spend so much time and energy on trying to get him to sleep that I don't think I took the time to enjoy him. I never let him fall asleep on me because "that creates bad habits". My whole life revolved around his (non!) sleep times.

Next time I think I will relax a little and go with the flow a lot more.

ETA - my approach to sleep would be the main thing I would do differently but was wondering about other things as well not just sleep


Edited by Mrs_B]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 11:41:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35300&PID=1128332&title=what-would-you-do-differently-next-time#1128332