OHbaby! Forums : What ’dumb’ thing..... https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sun, 05 Apr 2026 11:18:13 +0000 Wed, 21 Jul 2010 12:35:09 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=34820 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : A friend of DPs asked me why I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1105004&title=what-dumb-thing#1105004 Author: High9
Subject: 34820
Posted: 21 July 2010 at 12:35pm

A friend of DPs asked me why I was still with him and why I liked/loved him. When I think about it, yes I could do it alone no problem, but I wouldn't get a break so not sure if I would cope. But even then I don't really get a break now so...

Women, imo are strong! And like someone else said, there is a reason why women give birth. We're capable of anything. ]]> Wed, 21 Jul 2010 12:35:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1105004&title=what-dumb-thing#1105004 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : Go you girls having the courage...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104827&title=what-dumb-thing#1104827 Author: crafty1
Subject: 34820
Posted: 21 July 2010 at 10:23am

Go you girls having the courage to go it alone when your baby's daddy wasn't up to scratch. Must be such a tough choice and bloody hard being solo parent. I'm always telling dh that i am never leaving him cos i couldn't do it alone! And if he leaves me, he'd better take the kids too lol!

My mum left my dad when i was 2 as he was a violent alki and thank god she did. ]]> Wed, 21 Jul 2010 10:23:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104827&title=what-dumb-thing#1104827 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : Lil_Nic9 wrote: TheKelly...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104770&title=what-dumb-thing#1104770 Author: Babe
Subject: 34820
Posted: 21 July 2010 at 9:42am

Originally posted by Lil_Nic9 Lil_Nic9 wrote:

Originally posted by TheKelly TheKelly wrote:

Julz, better to be raised in a happy household with one parent who loves you , than in an unhappy house with 2 unhappy parents who don't care much about you at all .
Its him whos missing out , and its his loss .


So what I am trying to say is, try not to feel guilty Julz, so long as she is happy and you are happy is the main thing, it's his loss completely.


Yeah its hard feeling so guilty over the whole 'no bio dad' thing but in the end I had to be abit brutal with myself. I know that if I stayed where I was my son would be brought up in a dysfunct household where negative behaviour was portrayed to him everyday and the chances of him taking on those behaviours, plus developing a warped sense of how women should be treated, were huge!! My child trusts me to give him the best start and to provide the tools for him to become a mature, well-rounded, positive and loving adult who can confidently face the world and have a succesful family of his own in the future (the very far distant future!!!!) and being parented just by me, a happy and healthy mummy, makes that much more of a reality than giving him a father who he could quite possibly end up hating anyway. In the end I decided that was what mattered!
ETA hes obviously now got a wonderful father figure in my DP who Jake adores - blood means nothing, love and commitment are the foundations for a wonderful parental relationship!

Anyway I think that was a little OT but now I've written it I don't want to just delete it so here ya go

Edited by Babe]]> Wed, 21 Jul 2010 09:42:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104770&title=what-dumb-thing#1104770 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : TheKelly wrote:Julz, better...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104723&title=what-dumb-thing#1104723 Author: High9
Subject: 34820
Posted: 21 July 2010 at 9:09am

Originally posted by TheKelly TheKelly wrote:

Julz, better to be raised in a happy household with one parent who loves you , than in an unhappy house with 2 unhappy parents who don't care much about you at all .
Its him whos missing out , and its his loss .


Agree, my family never like my DP as he 'never tried' in school etc, and that was a 'big deal' from my family where every one went to Uni and got good degrees but here I am pregnant at 19 in my first year of Uni and DP failed his first year and dropped out to play computer games! *shame!* And they kept telling me to leave him but I knew we were happy, perhaps in dream land? Who knows? but DD is happy, we're happy and now DP is passing his new degree with a B+ average and my family have finally 'accepted' him. But I have always told them, the main thing is Lily's happiness and health, followed by mine.
My family also though that DP would lose interest in her, but he hasn't and they can't believe his love for her.

So what I am trying to say is, try not to feel guilty Julz, so long as she is happy and you are happy is the main thing, it's his loss completely.

My father walked out when I was under a year, never saw him until I was 15 ad he decided he wanted a relationship and told me all this crap that "He sent presents yearly, letters, wanted to come visit" - but he never did. Even now, I am the one who has to make an effort for us to meet up so what's the point.

And I try not to feel guilty either because Lily is happy and healthy and growing at a rate of knots so clearly I am doing something right!

Another thing I have started feeling guilty about is people whose baby's sleep through the night, I knew not all babies do, I didn't until I was past 6 months, but lately DD has started waking 4-5 times a night rather than her usually 1-3 times and I used to feed her but now I try anything to get her to sleep without a feed, especially if it's an hour after her last feed. In the end I feed her but I feel so guilty about trying to distract her!! ]]> Wed, 21 Jul 2010 09:09:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104723&title=what-dumb-thing#1104723 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : on another note the thing i feel...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104654&title=what-dumb-thing#1104654 Author: james
Subject: 34820
Posted: 21 July 2010 at 7:49am

on another note the thing i feel most guilty about and i have never told anyone this but it is that i got pregnant to an a**hole that doesnt care about his daughter . I feel soooo guilty that my daughter will never have a good relationship with her natural father because he quite simpley does not care about her and it is my fault as i chose to be with that man at the time and altho i was not expecting to get pregnant to him and i knew our relationship wasnt going anywhere and i knew he was a horrible person on many levels i still had sex with him and im mature enough to know what can result out of sex , even if protection was used .  I know im a good mum and i try my best but it still doesnt take away the guilt that i wish my child could have two natural parents that love and care about her and that are together .

[/QUOTE] DITTIO]]> Wed, 21 Jul 2010 07:49:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104654&title=what-dumb-thing#1104654 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : I feel guilty that its such an...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104643&title=what-dumb-thing#1104643 Author: Babe
Subject: 34820
Posted: 21 July 2010 at 7:32am

I feel guilty that its such an effort to BF. Probably every day atm I'm talking (read bawling my eyes out) to DP about whether I should give up or not. I feel really guilty coz he was a total booby baby but I really pushed the bottle coz I was so exhausted and freaking about PND and within 6 weeks I'm finding the BFing so difficult. I feel silly coz it makes me sob like a baby to consider giving up but the thought of not having to subject my poor nipples to the cold every few hours is soooo appealing!! I have decided that if I'm not totally confident and happy to give it up then I should perservere coz otherwise I'll beat myself up over it. I feel silly too coz I had no problem putting Jake on the bottle (though he was never able to latch by himself and I pumped or used nipple shields for just over 6 weeks) and thought I'd have no problems if I had to make that decision with Tyler.

I feel guilty that I expect too much of Jake when hes still really a baby himself. I feel extra guilty when hes being difficult and I flashback to his biological dad and get all angry and distressed at Jake because of it.

hmmm lol sounds more like a confession of hidden sins ]]> Wed, 21 Jul 2010 07:32:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104643&title=what-dumb-thing#1104643 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : Wow looks like we&#039;re a guilty...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104641&title=what-dumb-thing#1104641 Author: Emmecat
Subject: 34820
Posted: 21 July 2010 at 7:30am

Wow looks like we're a guilty bunch...with no need to be!!

To those asking(sorry brain a bit mushy to remember names lol), Clodagh is vegetarian because I am a long term vegetarian and so is DF (more or less).

And yes I *know* she can go straight onto cows milk but she has quite bad excema which seems to be exacerbated by 'straight' dairy (at this stage), plus we're not big dairy eaters anyway. The formula is dairy based but it remains to be seen if we use it as at this stage she certainly seems to prefer soy milk or rice milk.

]]> Wed, 21 Jul 2010 07:30:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104641&title=what-dumb-thing#1104641 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : I feel guilty that I wish DS would...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104623&title=what-dumb-thing#1104623 Author: kiwikid
Subject: 34820
Posted: 21 July 2010 at 12:32am

I feel guilty that I wish DS would hurry up and learn to play on his own, I'm so frustrated at constantly having to be his entertainment or if I'm not then I get hounded for teeeveeee.

I feel a bit guilty that I was well and truly ready to give up BFing at 17mths and that I didnt really take the time to say goodbye to that part of our relationship even tho DS was okay about it within a couple of days.

I feel guilty that I forget he is only just two (or will be in a couple of weeks) and I might expect too much of him at times.

I feel guilty that I'm very seriously not even seriously considering trying for a VBAC with next baby, the more I think about it the more appealing an elective c section is ]]> Wed, 21 Jul 2010 00:32:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104623&title=what-dumb-thing#1104623 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : My friend breastfed for a week,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104620&title=what-dumb-thing#1104620 Author: TheKelly
Subject: 34820
Posted: 21 July 2010 at 12:02am

My friend breastfed for a week, then gave up , it was too painful and people gave her such a hard time, she felt so so guilty , 2 weeks later she was dead from an undetected bloodclot that started in labor (no wonder it was so painful to breastfeed )
all that time spent feeling guilty , all that time wasted caring what other people thought of her .... I try to remember her every time I think Im doing the worlds worst job as a mother , stop being hard on myself , im doing the best I can , and thats all anyone can do ]]> Wed, 21 Jul 2010 00:02:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104620&title=what-dumb-thing#1104620 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : I try not to feel guilty too often,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104615&title=what-dumb-thing#1104615 Author: WestiesGirl
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 11:27pm

I try not to feel guilty too often, as mums we are already too hard on ourselves as it is and we all try our best, which is all that matters really!

But... Dh and I had maccas one day at the mall for lunch and we gave Jackson some chips We got all sorts of looks and steers from people.

]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 23:27:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104615&title=what-dumb-thing#1104615 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : The dumbest thing I felt guilty...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104613&title=what-dumb-thing#1104613 Author: Chickoin
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 11:07pm

The dumbest thing I felt guilty about was feeding Jody meat.
I am not a vegetarian, nor is DH, or any family. But I thought "what if Jody wants to be a vegetarian?? Will she hate me for feeding animals to her when she was a baby?"]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 23:07:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104613&title=what-dumb-thing#1104613 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : That my child went in an ambulance...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104586&title=what-dumb-thing#1104586 Author: Aprilfools
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 10:21pm

That my child went in an ambulance before he can even say the word. That we thought he was better and then suddenly he wasn't.
That I didn't shove the wonky mole Drs otoscope in her ear when she got impatient with my child.
That when I snapped at wonky mole Dr I only gave her a half serve of what she was ordering.

And some days, I gotta say, for the way I dressed him ]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 22:21:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104586&title=what-dumb-thing#1104586 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : Julz, better to be raised in a...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104571&title=what-dumb-thing#1104571 Author: TheKelly
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 10:01pm

Julz, better to be raised in a happy household with one parent who loves you , than in an unhappy house with 2 unhappy parents who don't care much about you at all .
Its him whos missing out , and its his loss .]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 22:01:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104571&title=what-dumb-thing#1104571 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : Not much to go on as yet, but...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104556&title=what-dumb-thing#1104556 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 9:47pm

Not much to go on as yet, but I always feel guilty when I start sounding like my Mother. ]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 21:47:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104556&title=what-dumb-thing#1104556 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : Snappy wrote:I feel guilty...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104534&title=what-dumb-thing#1104534 Author: _SMS_
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 9:05pm

Originally posted by Snappy Snappy wrote:

I feel guilty about absolutely everything. The very latest is the fact that i gave DD signature range bread for her lunch, rather than the last two pieces of vogels      , because i wanted it for my toast in the morning. Then i beat myself up for putting myself first, even though she probably couldn't give two hoots what bread she had. Crazy!!


That made me laugh, i never give dd our 'nice' bread, she always gets the cheap stuff, that way i dont care if it gets wasted.

]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 21:05:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104534&title=what-dumb-thing#1104534 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : Mothers are STARS every min of...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104533&title=what-dumb-thing#1104533 Author: LouD
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 9:00pm

Mothers are STARS every min of every day of every week!!!!!]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 21:00:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104533&title=what-dumb-thing#1104533 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : ****i retract what i say about...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104524&title=what-dumb-thing#1104524 Author: julz85
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 8:51pm

**** i retract what i say about a drug free labour , i did have some gas but because it had absolutly no affect on me whatsover ( it relived no pain and only made me vomit) i dont count it as pain releif during labour lol but i guess i should count that i had it , as it is drugs .... no way id have it again tho.

 

And i agree with Kelly - anyone that goes through labour is a star no matter what they had . in the end all that counts is that baby is safe .

on another note the thing i feel most guilty about and i have never told anyone this but it is that i got pregnant to an a**hole that doesnt care about his daughter . I feel soooo guilty that my daughter will never have a good relationship with her natural father because he quite simpley does not care about her and it is my fault as i chose to be with that man at the time and altho i was not expecting to get pregnant to him and i knew our relationship wasnt going anywhere and i knew he was a horrible person on many levels i still had sex with him and im mature enough to know what can result out of sex , even if protection was used .  I know im a good mum and i try my best but it still doesnt take away the guilt that i wish my child could have two natural parents that love and care about her and that are together .



Edited by julz]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 20:51:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104524&title=what-dumb-thing#1104524 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : sorry I don&#039;t have anything...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104520&title=what-dumb-thing#1104520 Author: Renee & Lauren
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 8:48pm

sorry I don't have anything to feel guilty about that I can think of - well apart from maybe I should had asked for more help from my MW on the bf when DD was born.

As for formula Emme - you know you should be able to use cows milk now if you want to.. we started DD on cows milk at 12 mths. Or is your DD lactose intolerant...]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 20:48:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104520&title=what-dumb-thing#1104520 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : I feel guilty about stopping breast...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104517&title=what-dumb-thing#1104517 Author: BriAndOlisMum
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 8:46pm

I feel guilty about stopping breast feeding but he just wasn't getting enough out of me and wasn't growing. ]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 20:46:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104517&title=what-dumb-thing#1104517 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : I feel guilty about absolutely...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104506&title=what-dumb-thing#1104506 Author: Snappy
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 8:39pm

I feel guilty about absolutely everything. The very latest is the fact that i gave DD signature range bread for her lunch, rather than the last two pieces of vogels      , because i wanted it for my toast in the morning. Then i beat myself up for putting myself first, even though she probably couldn't give two hoots what bread she had. Crazy!!]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 20:39:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104506&title=what-dumb-thing#1104506 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : Haha I know it&#039;s weird to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104499&title=what-dumb-thing#1104499 Author: Delli
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 8:30pm

Haha I know it's weird to feel guilty about that - especially someone like me who thinks that progress (as in medical progress, change in society etc) is usually a GOOD thing, so I should be all about the epidural, gas and pethidene. And yet I do feel guilty... Strange. Lol, I don't make sense huh.]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 20:30:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104499&title=what-dumb-thing#1104499 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : Hell, I DON T feel guilty about...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104482&title=what-dumb-thing#1104482 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 8:21pm

Hell, I DON T feel guilty about using gas, pethadine AND the epidural during my labour, I still got my little boy out of it and he was perfect

I agree Kelly

]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 20:21:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104482&title=what-dumb-thing#1104482 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : Delli wrote:I feel guilty about...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104472&title=what-dumb-thing#1104472 Author: TheKelly
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 8:15pm

Originally posted by Delli Delli wrote:

I feel guilty about using gas in labour. I didn't need anything else which I know I should be proud about but still wish I had the bragging rights of a completely drug free birth.


using only gas is something to be proud of .
Personally i've of the opinion that ANYONE who goes through labour, in whatever way , epidural , c section , no drugs , is a star , there is a reason why women do it , and not men ]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 20:15:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104472&title=what-dumb-thing#1104472 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : . ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104449&title=what-dumb-thing#1104449 Author: NewPhoenix
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 8:02pm

.]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 20:02:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104449&title=what-dumb-thing#1104449 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : I feel guilty about using gas...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104437&title=what-dumb-thing#1104437 Author: Delli
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 7:55pm

I feel guilty about using gas in labour. I didn't need anything else which I know I should be proud about but still wish I had the bragging rights of a completely drug free birth. ]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 19:55:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104437&title=what-dumb-thing#1104437 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : I DON&#039;T feel guilty for stopping...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104414&title=what-dumb-thing#1104414 Author: TheKelly
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 7:41pm

I DON'T feel guilty for stopping bf'ing Ty

I DON'T feel guilty for wanting an epidural with this baby , when I had two all natural, no pain relief births before and know I can do it without any pain relief again , I just don't want to

I DO feel guilty that my daughter is struggling in maths and english tho ]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 19:41:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104414&title=what-dumb-thing#1104414 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : Going back to work 2 days a week...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104385&title=what-dumb-thing#1104385 Author: fire_engine
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 7:20pm

Going back to work 2 days a week when Dan was 7 months, even though he loves his carer (cries everytime we drive past cos he wants to go and play ) and I needed it for my MH. ]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 19:20:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104385&title=what-dumb-thing#1104385 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : Bizzy- yeah I know they don&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104379&title=what-dumb-thing#1104379 Author: Emmecat
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 7:11pm

Bizzy- yeah I know they don't 'need' formula...but I worry cos she's vegetarian and fussy as anything atm (not worried about her being the former, I just mean I'm worried cos she's the former AND fussy lol).... so thought I'd try formula.

Tayz ((hugs)) hun. That must've been so damn hard for you. It's really difficult when you're not supported in your decisions.  

Julz -omg mucho kudos to you having a drug free birth hun. I'd be so proud!

Having said that, I also had an epi Lil Nic and it was wonderful hehe

A&C- lol I'm the same with chocolate ....and with the butting heads thing

]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 19:11:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104379&title=what-dumb-thing#1104379 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : I felt guilty about having an...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104372&title=what-dumb-thing#1104372 Author: High9
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 7:02pm

I felt guilty about having an epidural during my birth, even though my birth was perfect! And I kept an open mind too. I went almost 24 hours without one then was 7cm for a few hours and then started to think negatively so got an epi. I feel bad as it wore off after an hour and I felt everything as didn't top it up, but makes me feel bad for being a 'wimp' for that one hour! - How silly! ]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 19:02:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104372&title=what-dumb-thing#1104372 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : I feel really guilty about anything...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104367&title=what-dumb-thing#1104367 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 34820
Posted: 20 July 2010 at 6:58pm

I feel really guilty about anything that goes in my mouth ie the chocolate this morning

I feel really guilty because it's my stupid genetics.

I feel guilty that I didn't do many exciting things with A in the holidays cause we had made a decision to not go anywhere re ticker below.

Every night I feel guilty that we've butted heads during the day. ]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 18:58:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104367&title=what-dumb-thing#1104367 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : hmmm might sound silly but i felt...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104365&title=what-dumb-thing#1104365 Author: julz85
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Posted: 20 July 2010 at 6:56pm

hmmm might sound silly but i felt guilty that i was able to have a natural drug free birth last year. No other woman in my family has had one ( they all had cesereans ) . my sister didnt even come see me at the hospital after i had Amelia and i wonderd why as we are close , she told me later on that she was fuming with jelousy that i got to have a natural birth . It had never even crossed my mind that someone would be jelous of that. and then earlier this year she had her second baby and yet again had to have a ceserean so i really did feel guilty . ]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 18:56:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104365&title=what-dumb-thing#1104365 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : Dont feel bad Emmecat. You have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104361&title=what-dumb-thing#1104361 Author: _SMS_
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Posted: 20 July 2010 at 6:53pm

Dont feel bad Emmecat. You have done so well BFing this long, as well as BFing while pregnant. I sure couldnt do it, you should be proud!!

One thing i really feel bad about & would never make that mistake again is giving up breastfeeding. I stopped when Taylah was 8 1/2 months. The reason i stopped is because so many people kept telling me i should & it looks wrong etc. At the time i didnt really know any people who BF beyond that age.

It annoys me so much, everytime id give dd a bottle it would make me mad. Not that i have anything against bottle feeding mums its just that i knew my breasts worked, Taylah loved being a boobie baby ]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 18:53:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104361&title=what-dumb-thing#1104361 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : OT but you know you dont have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104357&title=what-dumb-thing#1104357 Author: Bizzy
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Posted: 20 July 2010 at 6:50pm

OT but you know you dont have to replace it with formula at this age... she can have normal milk instead and water. my first child stopped bf at 14 mths old by which stage he was only on one feed a day and he never had formula or a bottle.

]]> Tue, 20 Jul 2010 18:50:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104357&title=what-dumb-thing#1104357 <![CDATA[What ’dumb’ thing..... : ....have you felt guilty about...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34820&PID=1104351&title=what-dumb-thing#1104351 Author: Emmecat
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Posted: 20 July 2010 at 6:45pm

....have you felt guilty about whilst mothering your children? You know, the sort of thing you probably wouldn't judge a friend on if they compained to you about it but you judge yourself on?

It's a bit of a continuation from the other thread about motherhood and lying....

so he goes my (latest) one:

Today I bought formula for the first time.  I cannot tell you how (stupidly) guilty I felt about that. We haven't even used it yet but just the fact I purchased it when I have a pair of perfectly working breasts that could feed my baby.... uurgh I feel stink.

 However those perfectly working breasts are taking a hammering during this pg from Clodagh's feeding and I'm now extremely unsure if she's getting much satisfaction from my supply and  worried she is waking up hungry at night and not settling after BF...

So for that and numerous other reasons I am gonna replace one BF a day with formula.

*guilt*

That's my stupid thing....you?

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