https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 09 Apr 2026 01:23:25 +0000 Wed, 02 Jun 2010 00:47:00 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=33704 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1050263&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1050263 Author: mamanee
Subject: 33704
Posted: 02 June 2010 at 12:47am

melnel wrote: My house is always a mess, that way when i do tidy DH is always impressed... I set the standards low LOL

Hahahaha, this is so what I do!   I always get thanked by my DP for even doing a bit of tidying. ]]> Wed, 02 Jun 2010 00:47:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1050263&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1050263 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1050257&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1050257 Author: TheKelly
Subject: 33704
Posted: 02 June 2010 at 12:23am

put them somewhere safe , for Ty its his cot , better they get upset and cry while you walk away , than you risk really losing it .
Then walk to the other end of the house, put the tv up loud , or music, or go outside, or have a shower, anything that relaxes you , count to ten , or 20 , then when you feel really ready , go back in

The idea about the washing is a good one, I would do that , but unfortunately , I can't seem to find the washing line .... ]]> Wed, 02 Jun 2010 00:23:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1050257&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1050257 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1050219&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1050219 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 33704
Posted: 01 June 2010 at 10:25pm

They go in their beds until Ive calmed down.

]]> Tue, 01 Jun 2010 22:25:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1050219&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1050219 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1050180&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1050180 Author: Nikki
Subject: 33704
Posted: 01 June 2010 at 9:33pm

I never put Jake in his cot (didn't want bad associations with it as he was a good sleeper), but I did leave him down the front half of the house a few times, and shut the door then walk slowly to the other end of the house and go to the loo, breathe for a few seconds then come back and give him a big hug. Or put him in the "me too" when he wsa little with a snack and go to my room for a minute to calm down. I found sometimes just sitting down on the ground and playing with him for a while (not trying to get anything done) on those days helped.

Just wait til hes an older toddler - then he'll really make you mad!! lol!]]> Tue, 01 Jun 2010 21:33:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1050180&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1050180 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1048299&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1048299 Author: mummyofprinces
Subject: 33704
Posted: 31 May 2010 at 1:21pm

I put Jake in his cot, shut his door and have a hot shower. By the time I get out he has usually calmed down and is playing the cot and I am relaxed...

My house is always a mess, that way when i do tidy DH is always impressed... I set the standards low LOL]]> Mon, 31 May 2010 13:21:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1048299&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1048299 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1048004&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1048004 Author: SquishysMum
Subject: 33704
Posted: 31 May 2010 at 10:13am

It's SO good to see other mums feel this way - our 'helpful' flatmate (who's 7 yr old comes to stay in the holidays) told me I just shouldn't get angry at all!

I put DD in her cot, come downstairs and turn up the music until I've calmed down again, or go up to the letterbox. Better to have her scream than me losing the plot. ]]> Mon, 31 May 2010 10:13:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1048004&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1048004 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1047941&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1047941 Author: RuthyH
Subject: 33704
Posted: 31 May 2010 at 9:48am

Thanks for all the good advice. I feel bad leaving him in his cot when he's crying and upset but worth a try, hopefully it will help me that much better able to cope with him. Feels good to hear other mums saying they get that way too! ]]> Mon, 31 May 2010 09:48:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1047941&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1047941 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1047750&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1047750 Author: Lexidore
Subject: 33704
Posted: 30 May 2010 at 10:58pm

I've found putting her in her cot walking to the other end of the house maybe slamming the front door a little, walking outside and having a good scream pretty helpful,then going in telling her I love her and trying again. I have also now gotten to the point that if she starts crying because I put her in her cot, then I take her out put her on her playmat and let her have a kick... thats because she rarely cries in her cot anymore so its a bit of prevention of getting angry really...]]> Sun, 30 May 2010 22:58:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1047750&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1047750 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1047737&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1047737 Author: rocmummy
Subject: 33704
Posted: 30 May 2010 at 10:32pm

Yip, i agree with all the above.

In my experience...and it was tough, i put her in cot, and i took a breather. Sometimes she needed a good cry out and i needed time out. Nothing like fresh air and exercise.

All the best! ]]> Sun, 30 May 2010 22:32:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1047737&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1047737 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045844&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045844 Author: E&L+1
Subject: 33704
Posted: 28 May 2010 at 7:27pm

All good advice but have to share a story about Mum's getting angry.

When I was about 2 and my little brother was a NB I would wait until he was asleep and then get into mischeif/annoy mum until she was angry and she yelled. Then I would laugh. One day I ruined my fun by saying "It's funny when your angry mummy"

My Mum learnt to count to 10 and if that failed shut me in my room for a bit so she could calm down. I'm not looking forward to that but at least I'll have some ways to deal with it!]]> Fri, 28 May 2010 19:27:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045844&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045844 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045775&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045775 Author: LJsmum
Subject: 33704
Posted: 28 May 2010 at 6:48pm

I turn the radio up and dance! Or go outside and check for mail.]]> Fri, 28 May 2010 18:48:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045775&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045775 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045734&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045734 Author: BugTeeny
Subject: 33704
Posted: 28 May 2010 at 6:15pm

It's hard, huh?

I second everyone elses advice.
I would just plop Hannah in her cot, while reassuring her that Mummy will be back in a few minutes, and made sure she had things to play with.
I would make myself a cuppa, drink a few mouthfuls then go back into her room with it and sit and chat while I drank the rest.
Usually by then I was in a better frame of mind, she was a little bit calmer and we'd start over again.
]]> Fri, 28 May 2010 18:15:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045734&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045734 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045707&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045707 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 33704
Posted: 28 May 2010 at 5:49pm

I do what Bizzy does.

With A & her non sleeping at night & screaming, occasionally I'd go sit in the car with a glass of wine & listen to the music in peace if DH wasn't home.

I've found thought that second time around my reasoning & calm is much more thank god. eta: maybe it's cause I'm at home more & less stressed?

Edited by AandCsmum]]> Fri, 28 May 2010 17:49:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045707&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045707 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045683&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045683 Author: Paws
Subject: 33704
Posted: 28 May 2010 at 5:29pm

Rescue Remedy and popping him down, walking away, deep breaths and regroup. Then maybe some more Rescue Remedy! ]]> Fri, 28 May 2010 17:29:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045683&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045683 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045672&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045672 Author: 1st_Time_Preggies
Subject: 33704
Posted: 28 May 2010 at 5:16pm

Some great tips! I am very frustrated today because my DS won't sleep even though he is TIRED and in turn that makes him GRUMPY, which in turn makes for a grumpy mum! :-)]]> Fri, 28 May 2010 17:16:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045672&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045672 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045496&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045496 Author: RinTinTin
Subject: 33704
Posted: 28 May 2010 at 3:09pm

Yeah I put Mac down on his playmat or in his cot and go outside somewhere.
Luckily he doesn't make me angry very often but I am sure our time will come.]]> Fri, 28 May 2010 15:09:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045496&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045496 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045382&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045382 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 33704
Posted: 28 May 2010 at 1:50pm

my mother told me to leave them somewhere safe inside and go out and hang the washing or walk slowly to the letterbox.]]> Fri, 28 May 2010 13:50:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045382&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045382 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045218&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045218 Author: caraMel
Subject: 33704
Posted: 28 May 2010 at 12:16pm

There is a great little article by Nigel Latta in the latest Littlies magazine about parents losing it. I couldn't seem to find it on the website but you can grab a copy free at Pumpkin Patch stores and kindergartens if that helps.

One thing I try to keep in mind is not to take it personally and to keep it in perspective.
Sometimes just ignoring the mess and giving the kids a bit of one on one makes a world of difference and cleaning up after they've gone to bed is much easier anyway.
Sometimes I need to go and hide in the bathroom for 5 minutes to clear my head before I can gain that perspective though!



]]> Fri, 28 May 2010 12:16:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045218&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045218 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045163&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045163 Author: kezza2112
Subject: 33704
Posted: 28 May 2010 at 11:32am

EXERCISE!!!! Makes you feel so much better...put him in buggy and head out...even if its raining. Put on a coat, rug up and you will feel 10 x better upon return :) ]]> Fri, 28 May 2010 11:32:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045163&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045163 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045141&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045141 Author: minik8e
Subject: 33704
Posted: 28 May 2010 at 11:12am

I put them down somewhere - usually in their cot - and leave them to have a milo/play a game/have a shower. It gives me time to settle down and then I can go from there. ]]> Fri, 28 May 2010 11:12:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045141&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045141 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045132&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045132 Author: RuthyH
Subject: 33704
Posted: 28 May 2010 at 11:05am

Ok I'm sure we've all been there - theyr'e really grizzly, they won't nap, they won't eat, they're clinging to one leg, the house is a tip and hubby will be home soon, you're seething angry and you want to scream the house down but the logical part of you wants to hold it together - you know they're just a baby, they're not trying to upset you etc. I want to model good behaviour for my son but yesterday I yelled at him, was aggressive with him (just a bit rough nothing bad), walked away from him and was frankly rather childish but what can you do when you feel that way? Any tips or ideas? How can you be angry responsibly? We're only human after all....]]> Fri, 28 May 2010 11:05:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33704&PID=1045132&title=what-to-do-when-youre-really-angry#1045132