OHbaby! Forums : Telling people you are TTC https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 20 Apr 2026 01:37:19 +0000 Mon, 04 Oct 2010 10:11:42 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=33491 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : First baby, didn&#039;t tell anyone...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1168782&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1168782 Author: Sez26
Subject: 33491
Posted: 04 October 2010 at 10:11am

First baby, didn't tell anyone until we conceived and then told family immediately and friends after 1 trimester. TTC now and I've told only one friend - she put me on the spot, and I ended up telling her. Wish I hadn't because there's now one more person that has to be told every month when we don't conceive. It's hard enough having to give your partner the bad news.

Then again... got AF this morning and just feel like crying all day and wish that I could just phone my sister and mum and have a vent. Maybe I will tell them...?

Personal choice really what ever feels right for you and your partner.]]> Mon, 04 Oct 2010 10:11:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1168782&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1168782 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : When we were TTC I told some close...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1168107&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1168107 Author: snugglebug
Subject: 33491
Posted: 03 October 2010 at 9:13am

When we were TTC I told some close friends, my Mum and my cousin, but then it just got out there and people were asking me constantly are you pregnant yet? And seeing as it took 9 months I got tired of the questions and became a bit defensive.

I think next time I won't tell anyone. It's a personal choice but yeah it can be a bit complicated when it doesn't happen as quickly as you'd expect.

Now Im pregnant I'm open with people about how long in took so that they can either be prepared that when they try it doesn't always happen overnight (I thought it would) or that they can not feel bad if it took long for them. ]]> Sun, 03 Oct 2010 09:13:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1168107&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1168107 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : I&#039;ve been really open about...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1167102&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1167102 Author: BabyRixon
Subject: 33491
Posted: 01 October 2010 at 4:46pm

I've been really open about TTC. Now I'm sick of people asking "are you UTD yet?" which is silly because all it shows is that they care ]]> Fri, 01 Oct 2010 16:46:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1167102&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1167102 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : I&#039;ve lost track of who does...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1159281&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1159281 Author: babycrazy
Subject: 33491
Posted: 22 September 2010 at 5:40pm

I've lost track of who does and doesn't know! I have quite a bit circle of people who I consider close friends and some of us are trying at the same time. It was nearly 6mths of ttc before my mum found out (she was so excited!). DH's family also knows.
If it comes up in conversation I just say I'm working on it (lots of people know I want kids but DH was reluctant) and let people take what they like from that. ]]> Wed, 22 Sep 2010 17:40:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1159281&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1159281 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : I pretty much tell everyone that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1159262&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1159262 Author: Vanillabean
Subject: 33491
Posted: 22 September 2010 at 5:01pm

I pretty much tell everyone that we are planning to start TTC#2 soon. I guess I feel that I want to be open about the troubles I had TTC#1 so that people are exposed to the idea that when or if you have a baby is not something that you really have that much control over.]]> Wed, 22 Sep 2010 17:01:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1159262&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1159262 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : UI&#039;ve told a couple of close...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1159129&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1159129 Author: CrazyCass
Subject: 33491
Posted: 22 September 2010 at 2:44pm

UI've told a couple of close friends, and a workmate. We've decided to not tell our families till after the 12 week mark. My poor cousin feel Preggo then had a MC the weekend after, it was the worst thing for my Aunty having to ring round and tell everyone (not to mention how my cousin felt!)

I know my mum esp will be hurt, but luckily for me I live a 3 hour drive away, she never rings & I can be pretty vague on the phone. She doesnt like my DF family much so she never asks about grandkids!

Plus my younger sister is preg with No.2 so everyone around us is super focused on her again which suits us just fine. ]]> Wed, 22 Sep 2010 14:44:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1159129&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1159129 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : i told lots of people mainly cos...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1061637&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1061637 Author: SnuggleBear
Subject: 33491
Posted: 13 June 2010 at 11:15am

i told lots of people mainly cos i thought TTC would be a clinch!! ha! what a mistake!...the longer it took us the more antsy and hurt i would get at well-meaning inquiries by friends....next time we're keeping it very hush hush...well except for OB ladies ]]> Sun, 13 Jun 2010 11:15:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1061637&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1061637 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : Our close friends and family know,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1060092&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1060092 Author: CarleyRose
Subject: 33491
Posted: 11 June 2010 at 12:53pm

Our close friends and family know, i think it was easier them knowing than asking us questions all the time, "when are you two going to have children!" It gets harder and really frustrating when they ask us that, and it wasn't once...it was all the time!]]> Fri, 11 Jun 2010 12:53:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1060092&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1060092 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : I have a few fertility issues,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1056582&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1056582 Author: astral_monkey
Subject: 33491
Posted: 08 June 2010 at 2:39pm

I have a few fertility issues, which mean conception is not a guarantee and if we do get pregnant there's an increased risk of miscarriage and other things going wrong.

So far I've told a friend (who has a similar condition), my mum and one of my sisters (the nosiest). I wouldn't be surprised if my other two sisters and dad knew, but we're not telling DH's family yet.

We've also decided if/when we get pregnant we're going to hold off telling them until the 12 week mark (due to risk of MC etc). I'm a little worried my MIL will be hurt that we're not telling her. DH says she will be okay as long as we explain why we waited to tell them.

I just can't deal with the questions, and DH's ENTIRE family knowing (he's got a huge family, who are all really close and know each others business). They've all been asking how far away kids are since we got engaged and none will be surprised when it actually happens, but in the meantime I'd rather brush their queries off with a vague "one day" or "we're still practicing" than explain the inner-workings of my fertility issues.]]> Tue, 08 Jun 2010 14:39:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1056582&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1056582 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : Yeah I told heaps of people, didn&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1052009&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1052009 Author: Nutella
Subject: 33491
Posted: 03 June 2010 at 2:06pm

Yeah I told heaps of people, didn't see any reason to hide it, we were trying for 18 months and it helped to have the support of everyone.

I also agree with trying4no1 about helping out others who are now trying...it is so much easier to be open and honest about these things so that you don't feel so alone out there!

]]> Thu, 03 Jun 2010 14:06:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1052009&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1052009 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : Hi Ladies I&#039;ve been TTC for...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1051216&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1051216 Author: 2_ns_lol
Subject: 33491
Posted: 02 June 2010 at 8:00pm

Hi Ladies
I've been TTC for nearly 4 years now. I have been very open with my friends & family about your journey right from word go.
I unfortunately have had a lot of trouble TTC, but in some ways this has helped a few of my friends. Since I have been so open about our journey & struggles, I have been able to help some friends while they have began the infertiltiy journey.
When I found out I was "infertile" I didn't know anyone who had personally been through IVF etc, so being in these forums helped a huge amount!
Good luck & baby dust to you all ]]> Wed, 02 Jun 2010 20:00:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1051216&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1051216 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : We&#039;re the same, not telling...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1038153&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1038153 Author: _Lou_
Subject: 33491
Posted: 22 May 2010 at 8:24pm

We're the same, not telling a lot of people, can't be bothered dealing with all the questions! Its amazing as we only got married 7 weeks ago, and people LOVE to ask as soon as we got married! At this stage we are lucky just saying we want to be married and enjoy "us" time for a bit (although we are TTC!) and most people just accept that ]]> Sat, 22 May 2010 20:24:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1038153&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1038153 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : We haven&#039;t told anyone....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1037521&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1037521 Author: Blondes_Away
Subject: 33491
Posted: 22 May 2010 at 7:05am

We haven't told anyone. It will lead on to all sorts of other questions that we're not prepared to give an answer to yet (i.e. when are you coming home?).

It's nice to be on OB & be able to share the TTC experience without the hassles!]]> Sat, 22 May 2010 07:05:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1037521&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1037521 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : my mum knows and my best friends...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1037459&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1037459 Author: TheKelly
Subject: 33491
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 10:30pm

my mum knows and my best friends know ,they are C and Ty's godmums and have been through me through the good and the bad , I need them to know cos I'll need their support just as ive always done if the journey is a hard one ]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 22:30:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1037459&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1037459 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : just wanted to add my 2 cents,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1037345&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1037345 Author: ALittleLoopy
Subject: 33491
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 8:44pm

just wanted to add my 2 cents, we told our parents we were trying as im really close to my mum and we live on the same property as the IL's and rent cheap a cottage on it from them and wanted to make sure they knew what the future held and that sort of thing, i also told my very best friend as i knew these people would support me when i felt down at the end of every BFN....now my BFF is throwing me the best baby shower i could ask for and will most likely be her god mother no that she knows this yet, but shes already an honourary aunty! other than this though no body knew till we were actually preggo]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 20:44:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1037345&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1037345 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : I&#039;d rather no one new. I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1037303&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1037303 Author: mummymonster
Subject: 33491
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 8:07pm

I'd rather no one new.
I was sprung by a dear but too-many-questions friend. She asked, and clearly I left too much of a pause, and well. . ..
Now she asks me every week or so how it's going.
]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 20:07:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1037303&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1037303 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : Yep, I&#039;m the same as you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1035876&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1035876 Author: whitewave
Subject: 33491
Posted: 20 May 2010 at 10:02pm

Yep, I'm the same as you - I haven't told family, only friends on Ohbaby know. Although I don't think my family will be surprised when I do get pregnant! ]]> Thu, 20 May 2010 22:02:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1035876&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1035876 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : I usually just say we can&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1033411&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1033411 Author: clover
Subject: 33491
Posted: 19 May 2010 at 12:27pm

I usually just say we can't afford it. People can't really argue with that (it isn't true but they don't know that!)]]> Wed, 19 May 2010 12:27:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1033411&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1033411 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : I&#039;m 33 so saying &#034;one...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1033349&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1033349 Author: GuestGuest
Subject: 33491
Posted: 19 May 2010 at 11:45am

I'm 33 so saying "one day" or "we are thinking about it" doesn't work for me anymore because I get the response "well don't wait too long, you're not getting any younger" ]]> Wed, 19 May 2010 11:45:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1033349&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1033349 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : I told my mum we&#039;re gonna...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1033035&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1033035 Author: rachelsea
Subject: 33491
Posted: 19 May 2010 at 7:54am

I told my mum we're gonna start trying in September, just coz I was bursting with excitement when we decided and had to tell someone
First time, mine and DH's mums knew and a few friends.]]> Wed, 19 May 2010 07:54:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1033035&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1033035 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : we are only just starting TTC...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1033022&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1033022 Author: Panda289
Subject: 33491
Posted: 19 May 2010 at 7:23am

we are only just starting TTC but i don't plan on telling anyone for now because we are young and if it takes a while i might not handle the pressure from people constantly asking if we are pregnant yet because they assume that we would get pregnant straight away..
so for now i will just talk to you girls ]]> Wed, 19 May 2010 07:23:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1033022&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1033022 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : When I was trying in Nov last...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1032956&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1032956 Author: lil_lease
Subject: 33491
Posted: 18 May 2010 at 11:33pm

When I was trying in Nov last year I didnt tell anyone. My DF and I kept it really hush hush.]]> Tue, 18 May 2010 23:33:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1032956&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1032956 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : I only told my very close friends...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1032952&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1032952 Author: WestiesGirl
Subject: 33491
Posted: 18 May 2010 at 11:32pm

I only told my very close friends that care and wouldnt bug me about it. And when people asked us we also said 'one day' ]]> Tue, 18 May 2010 23:32:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1032952&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1032952 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : I havent told anyone and dont...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1032702&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1032702 Author: _H_
Subject: 33491
Posted: 18 May 2010 at 8:09pm

I havent told anyone and dont want to but DP wants tell his best mate we are TTC. only 1 person knows i have had my IUD taken out (one of my best mates but he doesnt want to ask anymore about 'female' things lol)

like bumblebee when asked about kids i just say one day........]]> Tue, 18 May 2010 20:09:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1032702&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1032702 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : Yea im the same as ladybee, have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1032575&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1032575 Author: bumblebee
Subject: 33491
Posted: 18 May 2010 at 6:39pm

Yea im the same as ladybee, have only told one girl at work, and when people ask when we are gonna have babbies i just say one day then change the subject too ]]> Tue, 18 May 2010 18:39:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1032575&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1032575 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : Only told one close friend who...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1032512&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1032512 Author: LadyBee
Subject: 33491
Posted: 18 May 2010 at 6:05pm

Only told one close friend who was TTC at the time aswell, except from that no one knows but I guess they all assume.
If they ask I just casually brush them off and change subjects quick - so all you ohbaby girls are super special knowing my little secret ]]> Tue, 18 May 2010 18:05:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1032512&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1032512 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : Yes, I have told most people apart...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1032450&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1032450 Author: GuestGuest
Subject: 33491
Posted: 18 May 2010 at 5:31pm

Yes, I have told most people apart from the ones who I know would be annoying about it and ask about it all the time - like our parents! ]]> Tue, 18 May 2010 17:31:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1032450&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1032450 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : I haven&#039;t needed to tell...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1032402&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1032402 Author: MrsMJD
Subject: 33491
Posted: 18 May 2010 at 5:03pm

I haven't needed to tell people, they have all assumed it on their own lol. I've wanted kids for ages and once DH and I got married in feb last year they have all been expecting an announcement. We have confirmed to a few people that we are trying. mostly friends and my family, DH's mum hasn't had it confirmed cause she would have an OPINION and it would be different for both him and me . Love her to bits but seriously!

]]> Tue, 18 May 2010 17:03:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1032402&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1032402 <![CDATA[Telling people you are TTC : Have you told people?? Family...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1032380&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1032380 Author: _SMS_
Subject: 33491
Posted: 18 May 2010 at 4:51pm

Have you told people?? Family & friends etc.

No one knows i am TTC apart from friends who are on Oh Baby. I dont really want people to know but its good having a few people i can talk to irl if need be.

]]> Tue, 18 May 2010 16:51:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33491&PID=1032380&title=telling-people-you-are-ttc#1032380