OHbaby! Forums : having a 3rd https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 12 May 2026 12:50:46 +0000 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 17:50:38 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=32358 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[having a 3rd : DP only wanted 2 children (which...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=974629&title=having-a-3rd#974629 Author: ?Lolly?
Subject: 32358
Posted: 21 March 2010 at 5:50pm

DP only wanted 2 children (which mean's we would have only have had one biological child between us as he raises Ethan as his own) how ever we got a 2 for 1 special, which is good because I always wanted three children =oD ]]> Sun, 21 Mar 2010 17:50:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=974629&title=having-a-3rd#974629 <![CDATA[having a 3rd : DH was fairly sure 2 was enough...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=974522&title=having-a-3rd#974522 Author: EmDee
Subject: 32358
Posted: 21 March 2010 at 3:20pm

DH was fairly sure 2 was enough and now that our whoopsie is on the way he told me the other day that he, 'hasn't ruled out another'! Which is actually kind of cool as I'd been thinking of a fourth recently too! ]]> Sun, 21 Mar 2010 15:20:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=974522&title=having-a-3rd#974522 <![CDATA[having a 3rd : No, I mean that one is the 3rd...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973868&title=having-a-3rd#973868 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 32358
Posted: 20 March 2010 at 3:12pm

No, I mean that one is the 3rd and last ]]> Sat, 20 Mar 2010 15:12:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973868&title=having-a-3rd#973868 <![CDATA[having a 3rd : lurker, do you mean one more after...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973787&title=having-a-3rd#973787 Author: susieq
Subject: 32358
Posted: 20 March 2010 at 11:58am

lurker,
do you mean one more after the one you are going to ttc for from June kelly(caitlynsmygirl)]]> Sat, 20 Mar 2010 11:58:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973787&title=having-a-3rd#973787 <![CDATA[having a 3rd : funnily enough it is always my...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973771&title=having-a-3rd#973771 Author: NovemberMum
Subject: 32358
Posted: 20 March 2010 at 11:26am

funnily enough it is always my husband who brings up the subject of 3 children..he says "so 2 is enough" then next thing he says "so do you really want a 3rd" I basically tell him that I dont want to be pregnant now (would be a 12 or so month gap if I was and that for me is way too close)

I told him if we were to have a 3rd Id ideally like a 3 year age gap between Lucas and #3 least that way Megan will be at school and Lucas will be a bit more independent.

he jokingly said I want a 3rd because I want another girl..lol I told him well I may not get another girl :P I would be happy with whatever I had :)]]> Sat, 20 Mar 2010 11:26:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973771&title=having-a-3rd#973771 <![CDATA[having a 3rd : Men are funny aren&#039;t they...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973744&title=having-a-3rd#973744 Author: Cassie
Subject: 32358
Posted: 20 March 2010 at 10:49am

Men are funny aren't they Kate?

Chickielou the accidents that are really accidents are best, I could never have done 'accidentally on purpose' though heaps of people suggested it! It got so worked up when I found out I was because I thought he was going to flip but he was fine! There really is no predicting how a bloke will respond to a situation. ]]> Sat, 20 Mar 2010 10:49:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973744&title=having-a-3rd#973744 <![CDATA[having a 3rd : DH was adamant we were only having...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973731&title=having-a-3rd#973731 Author: minik8e
Subject: 32358
Posted: 20 March 2010 at 10:25am

DH was adamant we were only having 2 children, he never wanted more (was going to have the snip after the 2nd was born), then we found out we were having twins. We will be TTCing next year, and both of us are hoping for twins again, so 4 kids. If we only have a singleton he doesn't want to actually TTC a 4th though...]]> Sat, 20 Mar 2010 10:25:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973731&title=having-a-3rd#973731 <![CDATA[having a 3rd : Kali1 - my DH is wanting to get...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973645&title=having-a-3rd#973645 Author: LouD
Subject: 32358
Posted: 20 March 2010 at 7:28am

Kali1 - my DH is wanting to get snip but im leaving it up to him to organise etc........and Im leaving the rest up to chance and still taking every precaution not to get pregnant but if one happen accidentally (and both me and DH would be aware of any accidents i wouldnt do it on purpose sneakily IYGWIM)........So i kinda hope that i will be telling the same story one day down the track......]]> Sat, 20 Mar 2010 07:28:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973645&title=having-a-3rd#973645 <![CDATA[having a 3rd : I wanted a 3rd child in the family,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973639&title=having-a-3rd#973639 Author: Cassie
Subject: 32358
Posted: 20 March 2010 at 7:18am

I wanted a 3rd child in the family, DH was adamant 2 was enough - I got knocked up out of pure luck and chance (was taking all the precautions) and he's come around to it so quickly that I'm pretty sure I could have convinced him to have another further down the track anyways - men can definitely change their minds! He was even looking at getting the snip to avoid another baby (though he is definitely doing that after this one arrives now...)]]> Sat, 20 Mar 2010 07:18:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973639&title=having-a-3rd#973639 <![CDATA[having a 3rd : Yes mine said only 2 and I bugged...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973626&title=having-a-3rd#973626 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 32358
Posted: 20 March 2010 at 2:46am

Yes mine said only 2 and I bugged him for a while to have the 3rd. Now I have had some major surgery he wants to have a 3rd and now I have said no.

]]> Sat, 20 Mar 2010 02:46:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973626&title=having-a-3rd#973626 <![CDATA[having a 3rd : I&#039;m debating this with myself...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973508&title=having-a-3rd#973508 Author: wellsini
Subject: 32358
Posted: 19 March 2010 at 9:03pm

I'm debating this with myself - we have two gorgeous girls and i'd love more. Unfortunately DH going through chemo and he doesn't think its fair to put another child through all the uncertainty with him ... i figure that it will be hard but at least we'd all have each other so the more the merrier ... but then i can see his point of view and I just don't know! Argh I hate making decisions!]]> Fri, 19 Mar 2010 21:03:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973508&title=having-a-3rd#973508 <![CDATA[having a 3rd : DP was adamant that 1 was enough...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973174&title=having-a-3rd#973174 Author: Babykatnz
Subject: 32358
Posted: 19 March 2010 at 4:16pm

DP was adamant that 1 was enough for him (DS is not his biologically, and he missed the first 2 years)... but hes backed off after seeing how much fun Jaelyn is, and is happy to have one more, I was one of 2 for most of my childhood (little brother didnt arrive until I was 16) And I would have liked another sibling to hang out with when my sister was being a PITA lol!

Essentially we are looking at the classic 2.5 kids and the whte picket fence lol (except ours is brown )]]> Fri, 19 Mar 2010 16:16:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973174&title=having-a-3rd#973174 <![CDATA[having a 3rd : My DH always said he only wanted...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973159&title=having-a-3rd#973159 Author: MamaT
Subject: 32358
Posted: 19 March 2010 at 4:03pm

My DH always said he only wanted one, but he is now warming to the idea of another. Give me a year and I'm sure he'll be really keen to try for a second.

I was one of 3 originally and then 5 when my Mum remarried, no-one was ever left out in our family either (and I'm a middle child)

]]> Fri, 19 Mar 2010 16:03:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973159&title=having-a-3rd#973159 <![CDATA[having a 3rd : My DH wanted 3 and now hes saying...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973002&title=having-a-3rd#973002 Author: Nikki
Subject: 32358
Posted: 19 March 2010 at 1:51pm

My DH wanted 3 and now hes saying two is enough.   I wanted two, then 3 and now I'm thinking its too hard to have another. We have been changing our minds constantly but are pretty sure we'll stop at 2 now. (hehe, 95% sure anyway)]]> Fri, 19 Mar 2010 13:51:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=973002&title=having-a-3rd#973002 <![CDATA[having a 3rd : im one of three, none of us ever...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=972908&title=having-a-3rd#972908 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 32358
Posted: 19 March 2010 at 12:53pm

im one of three, none of us ever got left out .
Was good ,if I got sick of one sibling, I could go bug the other one .
And yeah , DH originally said just 2 kids, now hes saying one more ]]> Fri, 19 Mar 2010 12:53:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=972908&title=having-a-3rd#972908 <![CDATA[having a 3rd : Mine only wanted 1 - absolutely...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=972739&title=having-a-3rd#972739 Author: xLUCKYx
Subject: 32358
Posted: 19 March 2010 at 10:53am

Mine only wanted 1 - absolutely no more at all. But then he decided he wanted another pretty soon after we had Gabrielle - I was UTD again when she was 6 months. For now we have our hands very full with our two but when they are older we will probably have another one. I know I could twist his arm lol.]]> Fri, 19 Mar 2010 10:53:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=972739&title=having-a-3rd#972739 <![CDATA[having a 3rd : My partner at one point just wanted...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=972633&title=having-a-3rd#972633 Author: ooEvaoo
Subject: 32358
Posted: 19 March 2010 at 9:34am

My partner at one point just wanted 2...but we've come to an agreement of around

3-4. So they do change their minds lol.

]]> Fri, 19 Mar 2010 09:34:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=972633&title=having-a-3rd#972633 <![CDATA[having a 3rd : Kinda off subject, but i keep...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=972481&title=having-a-3rd#972481 Author: LouD
Subject: 32358
Posted: 19 March 2010 at 1:36am

Kinda off subject, but i keep umming and ahhing about another altho technically my 4th but since my eldest lives with his dad and is a teenager it would be like 3.......and I just cant get past the whole 3s a crowd thing. I like the dynamics even numbers gives. where as the odd thing means that someone is going to get left out. Esp when you already have one of each flavour.......so you will always end up with two and then one that will be left out.........i know plenty of people have 3 but i just wonder how FAIR it really is on the odd one out or the middle child.........I grew up with 4 of us, and we got paired up in two eldest and two youngest (atlho technically i was closer to the eldest by 1yr and the youngest was 4yrs my junior which i thought was unfair).......but it was 2 girls and two boys also so we could pair up like that also............

Anyway I know i wont get past DH on having another one anyway so i shouldnt worry myself with details.............but thats just my out loud thinking for you, which doesnt answer your question in any way shape or form........but at least you have one reply ]]> Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:36:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=972481&title=having-a-3rd#972481 <![CDATA[having a 3rd : did anyones DP/DH say that 2 was...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=972478&title=having-a-3rd#972478 Author: NovemberMum
Subject: 32358
Posted: 19 March 2010 at 1:04am

did anyones DP/DH say that 2 was definitely enough even though you had considered having a 3rd then ended up changing their mind and wanting a 3rd says a few years later?]]> Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:04:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32358&PID=972478&title=having-a-3rd#972478