https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 14 May 2026 03:33:49 +0000 Wed, 17 Mar 2010 19:00:19 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=32314 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32314&PID=971007&title=what-feels-right#971007 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 32314
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 7:00pm

With Wrapping and FF, BF, CIO, CC. then yeah I say do what is right for you and your family.

I use my common sense when it comes to parenting. ]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 19:00:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32314&PID=971007&title=what-feels-right#971007 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32314&PID=970824&title=what-feels-right#970824 Author: lizzle
Subject: 32314
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 4:40pm

I think do what feels right works for more sane level headed people - it's just that nutters keep having kids and hearing that advice too.

although in saying that, sometimes locking the kids in the closet feels oh so right.....(but I don't - they can reach the handle now)]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 16:40:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32314&PID=970824&title=what-feels-right#970824 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32314&PID=970798&title=what-feels-right#970798 Author: SMoody
Subject: 32314
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 4:23pm

I use that quite often. For example everyone knows I feel very strongly that (Dont read further if you have a weak heart or get upset quite quickly)....

Breastfeeding is best for baby. Sorry but science cant get as close to what nature intended and never will be. But I fully agree there is situations where breastfeeding is in fact not the best thing for baby and mother. Like for example say the mom is breastfeeding but she is feel resentful of it. She does not like it one bit and just do it because the milk is better and she wants best for baby. But eventually she is literally going to start "hating" (too strong word but you know what I am trying to say) her child as she is feeding and just want baby off. Where say she decide to rather give it up and bottle feed and while she is doing it she looks at her baby and is calm and relaxed and her child feels that on. I think situation two is better for mother and child.

There is a million things like this. I am against CIO. I cant do it personally. But I know of mothers where it works great. They can be a better parent during the day as their baby start sleeping through a lot sooner for them and they get the sleep the need. I think that is a million times better than a mother that is so sleep deprived and trying to textbook "attachment" parenting and eventually lost the plot and shake her baby in one second of madness.

And for me it is not just about mother and baby. No seriously. I had to echange my parenting with Andrew. He is a different baby afterall and second he is not my only child. I have McKayla as well where she was the only one when she was a bubs. And as hard as it is to believe Grant has a say in all of this as well. Without his support I dont think I could have extended breastfed McKayla past the recommended 2 years, co-slept and put up with more awakenings at night. He is there for me when I need it. (okay fine we have the normal arguments about helping out with housework ect ect but he is really truly there when I am going to drop the ball.)

I see mother and baby for the first year as a unit as such. It has to work for both for it to be a great relationship. A give and take situation.

Okay and that was really really long. Congratulations if you got thus far. ]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 16:23:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32314&PID=970798&title=what-feels-right#970798 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32314&PID=970343&title=what-feels-right#970343 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 32314
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 9:30am

A friend of mine said it to me over switching to FF her daughter, its was what was right for both of them, a full happy baby and a less stressed mum.   

I think it relates to all the opposing 'advise' people seem to feel their right to give you as a mother, strange cause no one ever gives that much unsolicited advise any other time.

What maybe right for you and your child doesn't necessarily work for someone else and their baby.]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 09:30:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32314&PID=970343&title=what-feels-right#970343 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32314&PID=970329&title=what-feels-right#970329 Author: BugTeeny
Subject: 32314
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 9:15am

I agree with HeidisMum.
I think that saying is far too broad.
Common sense is key, I think.

It has it's place, for sure.
eg: "controversial" things such as dummies, or wrapping etc.
They're not for everyone (and every baby), but there are those that swear by those methods if it works.

And while letting her baby scream for hours may have worked for her, it wasn't the best thing for the baby.

Hmm.. it's a good point to ponder, really.
]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 09:15:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32314&PID=970329&title=what-feels-right#970329 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32314&PID=970252&title=what-feels-right#970252 Author: BeLoved
Subject: 32314
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 8:23am

I have used this phrase many times and say it meaning use your common sense and don't do something e.g. let your child scream for hours just because someone told you too, and you don't feel right about it. And also just because some "professional" "book" or "know it all" parent tells you how you "should" do things and it does not feel right to you, then don't do it!

But I guess it is very general and as you said sometimes what feels right for the parent is not necessarily right for the baby.

]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 08:23:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32314&PID=970252&title=what-feels-right#970252 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32314&PID=970238&title=what-feels-right#970238 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 32314
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 8:15am

do what feels right for you and your baby

I hear this so many times in regards to parenting and it really worries me!

Doing what feels right may not always be what is right!

For example the mother (who was talked about on here recently) who thought it felt right to let her young baby scream/cry for hours without comforting them...

Sometimes there is a contradiction in what is right for the mum and what is right for the baby. They dont always equate to the same thing!]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 08:15:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32314&PID=970238&title=what-feels-right#970238