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OHbaby! Forums : Ist birthdays https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 16 May 2026 09:15:06 +0000 Sun, 28 Mar 2010 12:51:46 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=32247 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : If you want to torture yourself,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=981866&title=ist-birthdays#981866 Author: anon
Subject: 32247
Posted: 28 March 2010 at 12:51pm

If you want to torture yourself, read the whole 9 pages from beginning to end. Apart from a few amusing moments by those who have given up on the conversation, the rest of it is pure circles that get worse and worse.... Got that song in my head though...

Huttlady I think you need to take the advice you want, leave the advice you don't want to take and get on with it instead stressing yourself silly the whole year leading up to it! Just try and relax a bit and let go of the things you don't have control over. Don't make yourself miserable - it really doesn't have to be such a big deal.

Edited by newlywed]]> Sun, 28 Mar 2010 12:51:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=981866&title=ist-birthdays#981866 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : I got given two tops for my son...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=981241&title=ist-birthdays#981241 Author: plus2
Subject: 32247
Posted: 27 March 2010 at 12:34pm

I got given two tops for my son which were clearly for a girl. The person who gave it made an effort to give a gift and visit when he was born. My son will never wear it but I thanked her very much and made a comment on how lovely the colour was. It was far more important that she thought of us and wanted to give something to my son than what the actual present was. I will re-gift them to someone who has a little girl as it would be nice for someone to get some use out of them. However, the sentiment of her giving the gift will never be lost and is greatly appreciated. This is what gift giving and receiving is all about. Remember the old saying "it's better to give than to receive"??? Have a wee think about what that means and what if means for the gift giver.]]> Sat, 27 Mar 2010 12:34:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=981241&title=ist-birthdays#981241 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Hutt lady, are you seriously posting...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=981239&title=ist-birthdays#981239 Author: plus2
Subject: 32247
Posted: 27 March 2010 at 12:28pm

Hutt lady, are you seriously posting this or is this a wind up???

I think it's incredibly rude to tell people what to buy your child as a gift. You invite people to a party to help you celebrate the amazing first year of your child's life, it's not a present grab. If people bring you a GIFT ( gift definition, noun 1. something given to show friendship, affection, support, etc.; present) you should always graciously accept it and make a kind comment. How can you tell some one what they should give you or your child? It's a kind gesture on someone's behalf and not a way to save you money and buy your child things that you cant afford or haven't brought yet.

That said, I think you are putting way too much energy in to stressing about a child's one year old birthday party. It is supposed to be about fun and celebration and sharing it with others. Think about the sentiment of the party and stay focused on that rather than all the if, buts and maybes. Enjoy it, it will never happen again and it's a time of happiness. ]]> Sat, 27 Mar 2010 12:28:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=981239&title=ist-birthdays#981239 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Whats your sons name? Is there...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=976436&title=ist-birthdays#976436 Author: Hunnybunny
Subject: 32247
Posted: 23 March 2010 at 9:46am

Whats your sons name? Is there a chance he could have been mistaken for being a girl?

EG Alex, theres so many male and female Alex's, if they found out he was Alex, they might have presumed its a girl without thinking about it?

I also agree with freckles last post ^^]]> Tue, 23 Mar 2010 09:46:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=976436&title=ist-birthdays#976436 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : my advice would be to RELAX! it's...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=976288&title=ist-birthdays#976288 Author: freckle
Subject: 32247
Posted: 23 March 2010 at 6:25am

my advice would be to RELAX! it's not a wedding, it's a first birthday... who cares if it's not perfect, if you get presents you don't want or can't use, if grandparents come etc etc...

As for the girl's stuff ... how funny! honestly, that would just crack me up if my family did that, I can understand you could be peed off about it as well but why bother worrying about it... maybe you'll have a girl one day and can use the stuff... or sell it

From what you just said about ya mum, it sounds like she loves her children/ grandchildren - how sad that she has to miss out on the celebration because she's a "control freak"...

]]> Tue, 23 Mar 2010 06:25:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=976288&title=ist-birthdays#976288 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : thank you every one for the advice....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=976205&title=ist-birthdays#976205 Author: music
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 10:20pm

thank you every one for the advice. I have taken stuff on board I just dont know how to solve it totally at the moment.

I would like to say my mother is not organising this birthday for our son it would mean travelling to Tauranga for it and no friends or family that live down this end of the country as they cant afford to come. Also my mother would expect to have all birthdays at her place if that happened and no way am I going to let her do that in a million years she is a control freak and loves taking over everything to do with her kids and grandkids.

there will be other children as well I would think.
It was immediate family that brought girl stuff for him as presents.
eg like girlie socks with pink on them and ribbons
suits that are total pink with bows on them.
pjs that are pink with bows on them.

we got parcels with just girls stuff in it.

there was more than that but I cant think what it was.

why would you dress a boy baby in pink socks with bows on them or in pink suits with bows on them.
even got a pink headband for him.

]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 22:20:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=976205&title=ist-birthdays#976205 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : It's hard when people want...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=976142&title=ist-birthdays#976142 Author: music_mummy
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 9:37pm

It's hard when people want to take over like it sounds like your mother does. Perhaps you could suggest she organises it and has it at her place and then she can't complain if it doesn't work out.

Or you could try and organise to have it somewhere that has no drinking like a cafe or Chipmunks if there are other children as well. The other positive of having it somewhere like Chipmunks is that the adults that are only there out of obligation (which are probably the ones that would cause trouble in the first place) wouldn't stay for long anyway. I personally wouldn't choose Chipmunks for a 1st birthday party myself (I know I have just totally contradicted myself!) but it might be a way to avoid a lot of the hassles. Is there are great family friendly cafe in Wellington you could go to?

Have you had other 1st birthday parties for extended family members? What was planned for those? Did they work out ok? Or are you the one breaking new ground with the first baby in the family?]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 21:37:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=976142&title=ist-birthdays#976142 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Wow how come i only just came...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=976120&title=ist-birthdays#976120 Author: Manda08
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 9:30pm

Wow how come i only just came across this! haha

Huttlady i think you have made your own mind up, because you certainly havent taken in anything anyone else has said.

My DS's 1st brithday is this weekend, i dont expect presents from anyone family included. A few have asked and i have said i dont know nothing... he has what he needs, yes he is always needing clothes because he grows so fast, but i never expect them to be brought for him. And $2 shop presents are great! I got him a few for his stocking for xmas... what do ya know... the most played with toys!!! IMO you are expecting to much... I hope whatever you decide you look back and are happy with the decision you made.

And Bex i was thinking of that song to after HunnyBunny's hahaha now its stuck in my head!!!

Pepsi your just a crack up, even DP thought that was very LOL!!!]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 21:30:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=976120&title=ist-birthdays#976120 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : what were the things you were...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=976068&title=ist-birthdays#976068 Author: freckle
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 9:07pm

what were the things you were given for a girl??]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 21:07:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=976068&title=ist-birthdays#976068 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Mum2Keira wrote:You have had...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=976053&title=ist-birthdays#976053 Author: pepsi
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 8:59pm

Mum2Keira wrote:

You have had a ton of great advice, have you even read any of it?

Haha, I was wondering the same thing

Forget the party, celebrate with just your family somewhere other than your home.. No issues with presents, and no issues with gatecrashing relatives. Problem Solved!

Edited by pepsi]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 20:59:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=976053&title=ist-birthdays#976053 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Kelly you have said it over and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=976005&title=ist-birthdays#976005 Author: HoneybunsMa
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 8:36pm

Kelly you have said it over and over

Hutt Lady, if you have such a problem with presents then state presents not necessary, or DS is into such and such, or have a themed party if he is into something in particular like Ben 10 or a lego party.

If you remember who bought your DS things for girls then say something to them before hand like I appreciated the dress you bought for XX but unfortunately we are unable to use it. When they look at you funny say well I didn't think my little boy would look good in it.

And if just going to the park you DS and DH is what you want to do then do it!

One of my besties had an afternoon tea for her DS with bring a plate she didn't expect presents but they got them regardless that went onto a night thing with lamb on a spit. Two weeks later another friend took her DS to a farm with her DH and it was just them.

As for the family member coming in and taking over the day, let them if it means less work for you. The other thing is if you have everything ready and laid out to go then there isn't really much to take over except maybe the dishes

]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 20:36:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=976005&title=ist-birthdays#976005 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : caitlynsmygirl wrote: Also...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975951&title=ist-birthdays#975951 Author: Lexidore
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 8:10pm

caitlynsmygirl wrote:

Also , I write a letter to my children on the eve of their birthday , with things they have done throughout the year etc, I have all C's saved in a box for her to open when she turns 21 .

Nice singing Hunnybunny !

I love this idea Kel, and am going to have to steal it haha mine will be written possibly earlier in the day on the eve of Lexies bday since her bday is new years day and all

I also agree great singing Hunnybunny

Reminds me of a song

"You spin me right round, baby
Right round like a record, baby
Right round, round, round
You spin me right round, baby
Right round like a record, baby
Right round, round, round"]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 20:10:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975951&title=ist-birthdays#975951 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : huttlady wrote:this is stress...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975926&title=ist-birthdays#975926 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 8:01pm

huttlady wrote:

this is stress I dont need to think about

his christening was bad enough.

its in the to hard basket.

family dont get along

food wont be right

Mother will take over if she comes no matter what is said or she will gate crash it.

drinking will happen that I dont want to happen.

might just have a cake and something with some friends and no family at all.

If thats easier , then do it that way .

I've said it a gazillion times, but i'll say it again , you wont get this chance back , so make it a day you will enjoy .

Also , I write a letter to my children on the eve of their birthday , with things they have done throughout the year etc, I have all C's saved in a box for her to open when she turns 21 .

Nice singing Hunnybunny !]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 20:01:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975926&title=ist-birthdays#975926 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : huttlady wrote:this is stress...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975858&title=ist-birthdays#975858 Author: Daizy
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 7:20pm

Just forget about it for now, I think the more you try to think it through the more worked up you are going to get.
Maybe a few days before the birthday casually invite just a few close friends around for a coffee. Don't label it a party as such, just relax and hang out.

Presents don't matter, and those that annoy you by not asking probably aren't going to listen to a list anyway.

Enough said - I am out! Beautiful Singing!!!]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 19:20:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975858&title=ist-birthdays#975858 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : You have had a ton of great advice,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975836&title=ist-birthdays#975836 Author: M2K
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 7:07pm

You have had a ton of great advice, have you even read any of it?]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 19:07:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975836&title=ist-birthdays#975836 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : ** I'm getting buggered driving...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975827&title=ist-birthdays#975827 Author: Hunnybunny
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 6:59pm

** I'm getting buggered driving up and down the same old strip
I gotta find a new place where the kids are hip
my buddies and i are gettin real well known
the bad guys knows us and they leave us alone

I GET AROUND
Get around round I get around
from town to town
Get around round round i get around....**

I'll shut up now

Its a BIG mixed up, but hey, close enough

WOO!]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 18:59:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975827&title=ist-birthdays#975827 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : this is stress I dont need to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975820&title=ist-birthdays#975820 Author: music
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 6:50pm

this is stress I dont need to think about

his christening was bad enough.

its in the to hard basket.

family dont get along

food wont be right

Mother will take over if she comes no matter what is said or she will gate crash it.

drinking will happen that I dont want to happen.

might just have a cake and something with some friends and no family at all.

]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 18:50:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975820&title=ist-birthdays#975820 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : circles and circles i say! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975805&title=ist-birthdays#975805 Author: BaAsKa
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 6:37pm

circles and circles i say!

]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 18:37:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975805&title=ist-birthdays#975805 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : BaAsKa wrote:who cares if the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975777&title=ist-birthdays#975777 Author: Lexidore
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 6:16pm

BaAsKa wrote:

who cares if the family DOESNT ask what to buy!?

I agree... If they are not going to ask it shouldn't matter just be thankful they put the thought into buying a gift (however inappropriate you think it is) in the end bubs isn't going to know what they were given, and aren't going to know if it never gets used!

I feel like this thread is just going in circles I feel like I have read the same posts over and over and maybe it just needs to end...

]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 18:16:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975777&title=ist-birthdays#975777 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : who cares if the family DOESNT...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975764&title=ist-birthdays#975764 Author: BaAsKa
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 6:07pm

who cares if the family DOESNT ask what to buy!?

]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 18:07:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975764&title=ist-birthdays#975764 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : I also stopped reading at three...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975747&title=ist-birthdays#975747 Author: Flutterby
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 5:57pm

I also stopped reading at three pages in, but just wanted to say that the idea of cutting the cake at the time bubba was born is a great idea and I may do that myself.

We are just going to put out the word to close family and friends that we are having a early BBQ tea on Saturday and ask them to bring a plate if they want to. And if they bring a pressie for him then that will be all good and fun for him no matter what he gets. He doens't have much anyway so whatever they give him will proberly be used.

If people give you something you don't need or double up on things then you can alway re-gift, sell on TM or give away to someone who needs them more.

And surely people should realise that you have a boy by now and by his birthday so you shouldn't get anymore girly things. Maybe if you do invites then you could do them in blue and make it obvious that the party is for a boy.

If family gatecrash then there isn't much you can do really without making a sence(I'm sure thats not the right spelling), so I would just say hi or whatever to them and leave it at that.

Is it possible for you or your DP/DH to have a quiet word to the family members that you have a problem with and just tell them how you are going to be doing things and they can either respect your wants or stay away?

Just remember it is suppose to be a fun day so try and relax and enjoy celebrating your sons first year of life. Don't let things get to you and if needed just nod and smile and get on with doing things your way. And you have a few months before it actually happens so you can get plenty of matter sorted out in that time.]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 17:57:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975747&title=ist-birthdays#975747 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : hardly anyone ever asks me what...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975732&title=ist-birthdays#975732 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 5:49pm

hardly anyone ever asks me what my kids want or need ..
Getting girl things when they know you have a boy is a bit odd tho ...

I guess if they do gatecrash the event , all you can do is make the most of it , and let them know later that you aren't impressed with what they did .
Don't make an issue of it on the day because it will just ruin the day more for you .

As i've said , you don't get the first birthday back , so do what you can to make it a day you enjoy , and don't let anyone else ruin it , no matter how hard they try , and the best way to let them ruin it , is by letting them get to you.

And if you don't want anyone to drink , then tell them that , and if some insist, then have your dh , or some close friends , back you up and ask them to go elsewhere if they can't last 2 hours without drinking
]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 17:49:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975732&title=ist-birthdays#975732 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : have it somewhere else... at...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975729&title=ist-birthdays#975729 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 5:47pm

have it somewhere else... at a park maybe. or if you think money will put them off how bout go to the zoo ...]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 17:47:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975729&title=ist-birthdays#975729 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : its very well to say that people...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975713&title=ist-birthdays#975713 Author: music
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 5:36pm

its very well to say that people will ask what to buy for the birthday if they want to buy a gift.

I have the issue of people not asking and it happened after our son was born and for xmas.

and we ended up with gifts for girls and some stuff we not use.

I want to sort this so that people will be cool about not getting anymore girl presents whats up with that.

I always check with the parents or family before I get a gift if I am not sure if I am try and get something that will last for the child.

Well if adults want to drink at his birthday they can bring their own drinks I am not providing alcohol for the adults in fact I dont really want people drinking at the birthday why does it need to happen at a 2 hour event during the day.

what do I do about family that will gatecrash the event if they are not invited?

I dont want to invite some family as they dont respect the food drink or anything that we do and that means also taking over things but it makes it hard when they are close family]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 17:36:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975713&title=ist-birthdays#975713 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : I've been to a few parties...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975380&title=ist-birthdays#975380 Author: jaz
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 2:01pm

I've been to a few parties that have been BYO drinks or bring a plate no presents but never childrens parties. Afternoon tea doesn't need to be difficult and if you self cater you can get stuff that can be put out easily. When people bring a plate it is often things that need to be heated or assembled last minute so you can end up in the kitchen for ages putting it all together.

Personally I hate gift registries, to me it is about the event not the gifts. I always feel people are pretty shallow for having them, like its a staged event to avoid the cost of setting up for a baby or a house. I usually ask the parents what the child is into and find you can never have too many of certain things, like art stuff, books, and sets like Lego/Duplo, Little People etc. I have welcomed the presents Caleb has received from parents of older boys, they just seem to know what he'll enjoy. I actually think its really mean when parents inflict their values on their children but stating no presents, to me that is part of the fun of being a kid.

For my baby shower, after he was born, and his Xmas and birthday presents we have always received a good cross section of things though. If there was something I needed and was short of money then I'd probably ask the grandparents for something specific, but not friends and other relatives.

Remember the first birthday is more of a celebration for the adults than a party for the child. ]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 14:01:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975380&title=ist-birthdays#975380 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : seriously - admin need to monitor...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975157&title=ist-birthdays#975157 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 32247
Posted: 22 March 2010 at 11:08am

seriously - admin need to monitor this all more carefully - this screams of the issue we had a few years back of the multiples mums!!! remember ???- just saying there are a few posters on here that scream of that !!! Katherine will know for sure...please check out some peoples IPs and link them to various posters !!! and make OB a nice place again!!!

for the thread itself - and huttmum - 1st birthdays are special events! we went all out...and spoilt her rotten. We have several structures of friends and family to cater for...so we did kids party at home with castle etc, invited dc teachers, and friends...then BBQ that night (family neighbours etc) and a couple of kids who couldnt make the party itself... and other friends etc turned up across the weekend.

Presents - I would never ask someone to buy off a list for a birthday for a child - BUT would suggest to people that if they are stuck for ideas to let me know...and then I usually say books books books!! If you dont want clothing - let them know that - but if some arrives then accept it graciously! My child needs NO more clothing...but she gets some always as presents...so what?

My bubba was three this year - and we did a birthday weekend...catered for all that love and care for her...and for those more special to us etc - weekend went like this (yes 3rd birthday!) - chipmunks party (10 little friends), next day horseriding with family / friends mixed up, then family only lunch, then friends around later in day....yes we got some double up gifts, yes we got some $2 shop gifts...you know what - SO WHAT - she could care less...she is loved, adored and spoilt rotten by those who celebrated her weekend with her....best photo of the weekend was of her opening a box from warehouse with shoes in it!!!

do what you want...with who you want there....party or not....he will have a birthday and it will not go unnoticed by you!!!

as for the girls clothing...ok I SOOOO dont get that!!!!

]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 11:08:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=975157&title=ist-birthdays#975157 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : One point which wasn't made...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=974703&title=ist-birthdays#974703 Author: ginger
Subject: 32247
Posted: 21 March 2010 at 7:51pm

One point which wasn't made in the few pages I read (sorry guys, I gave up about 3 pages in!

) that I've come across with my wee man is this ... Don't be too quick to stipulate what sort of toys/gifts you want - some of the best things we've been given for our son have been that I wouldn't have sought out, or thought I wanted for him, but have come from parents with much more experience than I, and have turned out to be the. best. things. EVER! You can certainly end up with some things that you don't want, but I've always found that after an appropriate time they can usually be re-homed, or do actually come into use.

Try not to stress too much about the party - enjoy your baby, and take your time. We opted not to have a party for our son, and we had a really lovely, special day as a family (although I think a number of friends assume we did have a party and that they just weren't invited

)]]> Sun, 21 Mar 2010 19:51:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=974703&title=ist-birthdays#974703 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : My 2cents worth is that its your...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=974482&title=ist-birthdays#974482 Author: CuriousG
Subject: 32247
Posted: 21 March 2010 at 1:56pm

My 2cents worth is that its your party, your life, your family. Sometimes I actually wish I had a list of things that someone needed rather than having to pick a present out myself and wonder if they already have one.

Its not often you go to a party without a present is it, even when no presents is written on the invite.

If I was going to write something on the invite, it would be along the lines of "if you wish to buy X a present, he/she would love some new toys!" and probably leave it at that.]]> Sun, 21 Mar 2010 13:56:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=974482&title=ist-birthdays#974482 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : P.S. My SIL spent thousands of...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=974481&title=ist-birthdays#974481 Author: anon
Subject: 32247
Posted: 21 March 2010 at 1:54pm

P.S. My SIL spent thousands of dollars on her daughters 4th birthday. Her 5th birthday was comparitively enormously low key - I couldn't get that one at all. I could never spend thousands on a birthday. I think the best birthdays are treasure hunts, pass the parcel, musical chairs and cake. You can get a bit creative but doesn't have to cost much. ]]> Sun, 21 Mar 2010 13:54:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=974481&title=ist-birthdays#974481 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Wow I stopped reading by page...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=974469&title=ist-birthdays#974469 Author: anon
Subject: 32247
Posted: 21 March 2010 at 1:34pm

Wow I stopped reading by page #7. This thread is now being referred to on people's facebook profiles!!!

My 2c is:

I think AlloAllo has been quite a funny read actually :)

I think gift registers are generally reserved for weddings - we had one, but you can get away with it there because it's such a huge occasion, and weddings cost a fortune - their wedding gift is usually far less expensive than the cost per head for a reception... a gift registry for a baby shower you can get away with because it's a big occasion, but I couldn't bring myself to because in my opinion it's just a bit on the cheeky side - but that's because I knew my guests and how they'd respond. I did tell my mum (who hosted it) what presents I needed in case people asked - only 2 did. My wedding gift register, only a few people took notice of it and bought what they wanted! A gift register for a 1st birthday is extremely unusual - I would say unheard of! Generally it's memorable but not necessarily a big affair. To put on a spread of fairy bread and sausage rolls but to have a gift list is kind of strange!! Not only that but if you keep a record of 1st birthday gifts in your baby book - it really won't be the same if you record gifts people had given for his 1st birthday but they were kind of requested by you.

In saying that though, I can see why your mum would go so far as to gatecrash her grandson's first birthday. For our parents/grandparents generation, a 1st birthday was a really big deal, and I would say that she might feel quite upset to be left out of that. It's memorable for you, but it's memorable for them as grandparents too. I feel sure that if you invite everybody and tell them over the phone what you're planning and that they need to get along with the others because it's all about your son - everything will be fine. Or have two separate birthday celebrations - one for your family, and the other just you and your partner and your son doing something special - or a kids party if you can arrange it. And think of that as the "real one" and the family one as the "other one" to keep everyone happy.

Don't expect gifts. They are just a nice surprise when they happen. If they are gifts for a girl - then they are a big surprise

DS got a pink teddybear from his great-grandparents at Xmas. They also have a habit of buying us hideous BROWN crockery for Xmas and Wedding presents..but DH won't let me regift it so it's taking up cupboard space. It's life and good for a laugh!]]> Sun, 21 Mar 2010 13:34:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=974469&title=ist-birthdays#974469 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Cripes, we barely spent more than...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=974197&title=ist-birthdays#974197 Author: Nutella
Subject: 32247
Posted: 21 March 2010 at 1:26am

Cripes, we barely spent more than that on our wedding and I resented that much money being spent on one day...that to be honest, while it was lovely the fact that hubby ended up with a stomach bug and was ill that night...so romantic...well, it didn't live up to expectations.....
When our boy is 1, I imagine we will just invite his cousins, and have kids food. But that will likely be it.

Ohhhh, and we have to come from Australia for the event (handily it is when we are coming home for xmas) so should I be planning it now

Edited by NatsCats]]> Sun, 21 Mar 2010 01:26:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=974197&title=ist-birthdays#974197 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : good grief , no I don't understand...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=974186&title=ist-birthdays#974186 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 32247
Posted: 20 March 2010 at 11:19pm

good grief , no I don't understand it either , sure if its really what you want to do ..I just think that money would be better to spend on a party they will actually remember .
Caitlyn remembers her 5th birthday on .
Actually , I could never understand spending so much , except maybe , MAYBE for a 21st ...I don't want my kids to think you have to spend a fortune to have a good time , I want them to learn that a good time is good if good friends and family are with you , no matter how much money you have ]]> Sat, 20 Mar 2010 23:19:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=974186&title=ist-birthdays#974186 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : haha this thread is amusing. Great...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=974173&title=ist-birthdays#974173 Author: HoneybunsMa
Subject: 32247
Posted: 20 March 2010 at 10:58pm

haha this thread is amusing. Great way to spend a Sat night.

I already know what we're doing for DD's birthday. Chicken and chips and bbq at my parents. We are going to organise a marquee as it is the middle of winter and mum and dad have a good piece of flat concrete just below the deck outside where the garage/games room is don't want people being rained on hehe. We will invite DP's family but it will probably be "too hard" for them to come from West Auckland to East (although its expected of us to do it all the time) and if I am still bfing then DD will be having a bottle of EBM for her last feed of the night and first feed of the next morning as I have a bottle of Veuve Cliqout Rose that I am hankering to get into bahahaha priorties huh! DP is already laughing about it and knows that if someone touches it I will cut their hand off. Am looking forward to that bottle something chronic we have had it since just before I first got pregnant. And I'm not even a big drinker but since its an occasion and lets be honest champagne isn't cheap this is the occasion its being drunk on.

I am not falling into the trap that so many families fall into and hiring a hall and bouncy castle, or going to lollipops etc. If this is your choice then go for it but its not DP nor I at all. We know families that have spent $5000 on a first birthday I don't get that!

]]> Sat, 20 Mar 2010 22:58:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=974173&title=ist-birthdays#974173 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : It seems that people are not reading...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=974120&title=ist-birthdays#974120 Author: music_mummy
Subject: 32247
Posted: 20 March 2010 at 10:00pm

It seems that people are not reading the fact that huttlady's family don't ask what is wanted/needed and that is half the problem.

I agree with the others about making it as stress free as possible. It may be more stressful to think about having more than one party but in the end it might be less stressful if you don't have the issues of trying to blend the family for the event.

We had our DD1's 1st birthday at the park and invited mostly family and just a few friends of ours. We had only been in NZ for a few months so didn't have ante-natal or coffee group friends to consider. It worked well for the older kids cause they could play on the playground and we didn't really have to organise anything. We asked for people to bring a plate and had it in the morning, which seemed to work.

We have planned DD2's 1st birthday party for next weekend and we are having at a park again (weather permitted) I am not asking people to bring a plate (unless they offer) because I have come to realise how little food you really need when you mainly have adults there. They don't really want to be eating kids party food (except for fairy bread which seems to stay popular no matter what your age!!)

As for gifts, I was so caught up in making sure we bought the 'right' thing for DD1 for her first birthday but by the time her 2nd birthday rolled around and I realised how much they don't remember of their birthday and what gifts they get we decided not to even get her a gift for her 2nd birthday and she doesn't seem to have been scarred by the experience. Thankfully my Mum does ask what she needs so she bought her a new mattress for her bed for her 2nd birthday (a beyond generous gift
in my opinion)

Hopefully those people that are just going to cause stress won't make the effort so you are able to relax about it. Not that that makes you feel better about their relationship with your son. But if you don't see them very often then he might just get freaked out by all these strange people who are around wanting cuddles and thrusting gifts at him while there's balloons and food and drinks and whatever else. I'm sure the photos you want for his photo album are ones of him and your immediate family enjoying themsleves.

P.S. I LOVE the troll spray that really made me laugh out loud not just lol!]]> Sat, 20 Mar 2010 22:00:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=974120&title=ist-birthdays#974120 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : This is classic! Haven't...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=973079&title=ist-birthdays#973079 Author: Jay_R
Subject: 32247
Posted: 19 March 2010 at 2:42pm

This is classic! Haven't seen a thread on here like this for..... well, ever, actually

Josh's 1st birthday was ALL about his father and me! Champagne and grown up food. Only a couple of children were there and two of them were his half-siblings. He got presents, awesome ones actually, but we did say no gifts. That said though, for his second birthday, the people who actually asked what they could get him were told either an intem of clothing or a piece to go with his wooden Thomas train set. But only those who specifically asked.

Personally I say do it how you want it. Invite who you want, don't invite who you don't want, and just enjoy the day

]]> Fri, 19 Mar 2010 14:42:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=973079&title=ist-birthdays#973079 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : That's the main reason I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=973063&title=ist-birthdays#973063 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 32247
Posted: 19 March 2010 at 2:31pm

That's the main reason I think you should go with in-expensive birthdays while you can get away with it.

Rainbows End would be awesome, not cheap though. ]]> Fri, 19 Mar 2010 14:31:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=973063&title=ist-birthdays#973063 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : I had Caitlyn's in the church...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=972962&title=ist-birthdays#972962 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 32247
Posted: 19 March 2010 at 1:22pm

I had Caitlyn's in the church hall where playgroup is held, was awesome cos it was only a donation of whatever I could afford, and had a huge kitchen I could use, plus all the toys from daycare, so like slides and see saws and dolls and dressup clothes etc etc .
We'll have Ty's there too
...C on the other hand wants to go to Rainbows End ...]]> Fri, 19 Mar 2010 13:22:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=972962&title=ist-birthdays#972962 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : i just remembered Bays first bday!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=972932&title=ist-birthdays#972932 Author: BaAsKa
Subject: 32247
Posted: 19 March 2010 at 1:07pm

i just remembered Bays first bday!! (i was in a fog so dont remember the first 2 years!)....i woke up that morning, went to supermarket and bought some balloons, picklets, cream and a few little toys...i went home decorated then woke the boy up and had our little mini celebration before DH went to work!!...was cute really

]]> Fri, 19 Mar 2010 13:07:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=972932&title=ist-birthdays#972932 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : We just had family as in, my mum,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=972466&title=ist-birthdays#972466 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 32247
Posted: 18 March 2010 at 11:26pm

We just had family as in, my mum, dad and 3 brothers + my brother girlfriend, my DH's parents and his sister + her boyfriend and my nana n grandad as we are super close to them, and my Aunty who we are also close to. And 3 of my friends and their kids.
We didnt invite family that Caden never see's and if anyone asked me what they should get him I just said, blocks/cars anything really!

We didnt do invites, just told everyone the date and time. Got a cake from cheesecake shop and I made it all colourful and put cool sparkler candles on it! And my family all chipped in on food!

I hope he has a great dat huttlady

Edited by Sheza]]> Thu, 18 Mar 2010 23:26:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=972466&title=ist-birthdays#972466 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : What we did for our girl's...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=972456&title=ist-birthdays#972456 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 32247
Posted: 18 March 2010 at 11:05pm

What we did for our girl's first birthday was to bake & decorate a cool Tigger cake & have some party food. I think my Mum & Dad came, but we are close to them, no other family or friends. Saved up the party with the antenatel group for the 2nd birthday.

With the boy we had more people. I didn't even do invites! But my friends did ask me what I needed for him. Good friends & family will ask what you need. I just said anything with wheels

Good luck & I hope his day goes well, but I'd set the date & time, let people know & forget about it & then send out invites a month or so out & if they can come & have remembered then great, if they haven't then tough sh*t.

PS what is with that AlloAllo person!!]]> Thu, 18 Mar 2010 23:05:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=972456&title=ist-birthdays#972456 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : caitlynsmygirl wrote:For a...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=972307&title=ist-birthdays#972307 Author: music
Subject: 32247
Posted: 18 March 2010 at 8:46pm

caitlynsmygirl wrote:

For a wedding or a baby shower, usually people do ask what you need for new arrival , since you are celebrating an upcoming birth ,people don't mind being asked what to get ,especially when they first asked themselves, I guess for a birthday , people don't think it matters so much because they figure the parents get them what they need .
I guess I just figure that I would rather my child get a useless gift , than no gift at all .
And it didn't come across that HL was going to write anything like that or say could you not buy this , more like she was going to write a list of suitable presents as though it were a wedding registry , at least thats how it came across

thats what I was going to do or just put on the invite something about toys would be better for a gift if you wish to get a gift .]]> Thu, 18 Mar 2010 20:46:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=972307&title=ist-birthdays#972307 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Two_of_each wrote:For my first...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=972110&title=ist-birthdays#972110 Author: ?Lolly?
Subject: 32247
Posted: 18 March 2010 at 6:00pm

Two_of_each wrote:

For my first childs first birthday we were struggling and lived miles away from friends and family so we baked a cake and bought a bag of balloons and rolled around on the floor with them like silly b****rs. We couldn't even afford to buy any gifts for her ourselves. Funny that even now when we are more comfortable and have had the big parties this is the one that I remember most fondly

I ❤ that idea and yes, what a lovely memory to have. ]]> Thu, 18 Mar 2010 18:00:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=972110&title=ist-birthdays#972110 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : nothing to say (well lots to say...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971736&title=ist-birthdays#971736 Author: BeLoved
Subject: 32247
Posted: 18 March 2010 at 12:58pm

nothing to say (well lots to say but I won't say it) except OMG how did this topic get to 7 pages???!!!]]> Thu, 18 Mar 2010 12:58:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971736&title=ist-birthdays#971736 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Two_of_each wrote:For my first...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971706&title=ist-birthdays#971706 Author: kellie
Subject: 32247
Posted: 18 March 2010 at 12:37pm

That is a very lovely memory to have.]]> Thu, 18 Mar 2010 12:37:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971706&title=ist-birthdays#971706 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : For my first childs first birthday...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971668&title=ist-birthdays#971668 Author: Two_of_each
Subject: 32247
Posted: 18 March 2010 at 12:15pm

For my first childs first birthday we were struggling and lived miles away from friends and family so we baked a cake and bought a bag of balloons and rolled around on the floor with them like silly b****rs. We couldn't even afford to buy any gifts for her ourselves. Funny that even now when we are more comfortable and have had the big parties this is the one that I remember most fondly]]> Thu, 18 Mar 2010 12:15:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971668&title=ist-birthdays#971668 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : oh my gosh...Edited by Renee &...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971540&title=ist-birthdays#971540 Author: Renee & Lauren
Subject: 32247
Posted: 18 March 2010 at 10:36am

oh my gosh...

Edited by Renee & Lauren]]> Thu, 18 Mar 2010 10:36:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971540&title=ist-birthdays#971540 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : I would never consider telling...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971482&title=ist-birthdays#971482 Author: freckle
Subject: 32247
Posted: 18 March 2010 at 9:54am

I would never consider telling people what we want/need for presents for a birthday... I just think it is plain rude and presumptuous... People don't have to buy presents but they may choose too, and if they do I am so grateful for whatever they have thoughtfully picked out for my child. Like Kelly said we buy what the kids need so I don't see presents as a way to get what we need. Even when people do ask what we need I often feel uncomfortable saying anything... I think weddings and babyshowers are different... ]]> Thu, 18 Mar 2010 09:54:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971482&title=ist-birthdays#971482 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : For a wedding or a baby shower,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971469&title=ist-birthdays#971469 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 32247
Posted: 18 March 2010 at 9:45am

For a wedding or a baby shower, usually people do ask what you need for new arrival , since you are celebrating an upcoming birth ,people don't mind being asked what to get ,especially when they first asked themselves, I guess for a birthday , people don't think it matters so much because they figure the parents get them what they need .
I guess I just figure that I would rather my child get a useless gift , than no gift at all .
And it didn't come across that HL was going to write anything like that or say could you not buy this , more like she was going to write a list of suitable presents as though it were a wedding registry , at least thats how it came across ]]> Thu, 18 Mar 2010 09:45:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971469&title=ist-birthdays#971469 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Wrx I think for a baby shower,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971468&title=ist-birthdays#971468 Author: emz
Subject: 32247
Posted: 18 March 2010 at 9:45am

Wrx I think for a baby shower, esp #2, I wouldn't mind that, as I would rather buy something handy - but I'm generally against writing things on invitations, just using word of mouth or people ringing up instead IYKWIM.

This thread is weird

]]> Thu, 18 Mar 2010 09:45:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971468&title=ist-birthdays#971468 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Ok this thread is weird so i skimmed...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971431&title=ist-birthdays#971431 Author: WRXnKids
Subject: 32247
Posted: 18 March 2010 at 9:14am

Ok this thread is weird so i skimmed most of it but im a bit unsure about why everyone is so anti a gift suggestion?? My mates are throwing me a baby shower and i have asked them if they could imply a preference of clothing if bringing a present because i have so much baby stuff just not girls clothes i dont think its rude tho. I wouldnt provide a list of acceptable items just a general suggestion of types of items. Ive been to a friends boys party and she asked when she gave me the invite if i could try not to buy toys as he has too many (this kid seriously does have too many) i never thought that was rude.

I guess i dont see why there would be offence taken if huttlady put on the invite 'If you wish to bring a present toys would be prefered or boys clothing in size 2+ " I would understand that they have way to much kids clothes and also think they had invited a lot of people.

]]> Thu, 18 Mar 2010 09:14:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971431&title=ist-birthdays#971431 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : summerlamb wrote:I'd love...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971401&title=ist-birthdays#971401 Author: jaycee
Subject: 32247
Posted: 18 March 2010 at 8:54am

summerlamb wrote:

I'd love admin to check the IP address of alloallo against all other members, it's sure to be an existing member of the site who has just made another 'identity'.

that was my thought when I first read alloallo's original post (which has now vanished). Someone who has been here a while who was taking the pi$$.]]> Thu, 18 Mar 2010 08:54:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971401&title=ist-birthdays#971401 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : I'd love admin to check the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971378&title=ist-birthdays#971378 Author: clover
Subject: 32247
Posted: 18 March 2010 at 8:37am

I'd love admin to check the IP address of alloallo against all other members, it's sure to be an existing member of the site who has just made another 'identity'.]]> Thu, 18 Mar 2010 08:37:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971378&title=ist-birthdays#971378 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : LMFAO Yumi!!! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971351&title=ist-birthdays#971351 Author: BaAsKa
Subject: 32247
Posted: 18 March 2010 at 8:12am

LMFAO Yumi!!!

]]> Thu, 18 Mar 2010 08:12:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971351&title=ist-birthdays#971351 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Cute Carrie - thats really sweet!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971327&title=ist-birthdays#971327 Author: MummyFreckle
Subject: 32247
Posted: 18 March 2010 at 7:36am

Cute Carrie - thats really sweet! We got a couple of "girly" blankets, but they were handmade so still quite special. My boy wears quite a bit of pink (but boys clothes) - like polo shirts, gingham shirts etc,... I think when they are little it doesnt matter so much - and anyway how come we are all buying into the gender stereotyping that boys cant wear pink clothes?

]]> Thu, 18 Mar 2010 07:36:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971327&title=ist-birthdays#971327 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Carrie, that is priceless! I wonder...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971326&title=ist-birthdays#971326 Author: Peanut
Subject: 32247
Posted: 18 March 2010 at 7:32am

Carrie, that is priceless! I wonder what she was thinking or what colour she thought they were. Bless her.

Pepsi, love the spray.]]> Thu, 18 Mar 2010 07:32:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971326&title=ist-birthdays#971326 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : My DS got two pairs of girls trousers...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971299&title=ist-birthdays#971299 Author: CarrieMum
Subject: 32247
Posted: 18 March 2010 at 12:10am

My DS got two pairs of girls trousers (mauve & pink) for Xmas but it was from his great grandmother who is 89 & still does her own shopping so I said thank you & then passed them onto a friend who has a baby girl. It was kind of awkward when I opened them though as everyone was thinking WTF?? ]]> Thu, 18 Mar 2010 00:10:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971299&title=ist-birthdays#971299 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Seriously tho, why did they give...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971282&title=ist-birthdays#971282 Author: Nutella
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 11:11pm

Seriously tho, why did they give girl things...isn't that rather odd? did they not know he was a boy?? In which case they can't be particularly close so why bother inviting them in the first place?]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 23:11:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971282&title=ist-birthdays#971282 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : omg - can't believe 'alloallo'...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971279&title=ist-birthdays#971279 Author: ?Lolly?
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 11:08pm

omg - can't believe 'alloallo' is back.

Do they realise admin can see from their ip address who they are???

love the troll spray!]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 23:08:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971279&title=ist-birthdays#971279 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971270&title=ist-birthdays#971270 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 10:48pm

]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 22:48:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971270&title=ist-birthdays#971270 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Hahaha brilliant Yumi! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971268&title=ist-birthdays#971268 Author: Lexidore
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 10:40pm

Hahaha brilliant Yumi!]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 22:40:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971268&title=ist-birthdays#971268 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971267&title=ist-birthdays#971267 Author: pepsi
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 10:39pm

]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 22:39:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971267&title=ist-birthdays#971267 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Often people will "ask"...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971208&title=ist-birthdays#971208 Author: MummyFreckle
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 9:30pm

Often people will "ask" if there is anything needed or if there is something that the little one is particularly into (ie Thomas / Dora etc), so that would maybe give a chance to drop some hints about what is needed or not needed.

My close family members and friends always ask if there is anything that they can bring, but I woudlnt expect people to bring food.

]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 21:30:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971208&title=ist-birthdays#971208 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : We've got a very large family...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971185&title=ist-birthdays#971185 Author: MrsH23
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 9:07pm

We've got a very large family who we see fairly regulary and even though it's a "divorced" family they still "get along" for these kinds of things (or just sit on opposite sides of the room, it seems to work). The family is pretty much knows that if they start bickering they can go home, although we haven't had it happen yet. So we've invited all the family and our friends with kids. We realise that DS won't remember his birthday, but we like to get together with our family to celebrate these sorts of things.

We have family in Rotorua who won't be able to make it up for the party but we are going there this weekend and will have our own celebration.

I've asked for people to bring a plate, purely because we have so many people coming, we will of course be putting on some food/drinks also. I haven't made any mention of gifts either, but for the friends who have asked, I said a few things that DS likes at the moment (books, toy cars etc).

There is still a long time before your DS's birthday so there is no need to decide on a plan just yet. But do whatever feels right for your family!!!]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 21:07:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971185&title=ist-birthdays#971185 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : huttlady wrote:the problem...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971164&title=ist-birthdays#971164 Author: MummyFreckle
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 8:55pm

Originally posted by huttlady huttlady wrote:

the problem I have in my family is that they dont ask what is wanted and just buy presents.

.

I WANT a Masserati, but I would rather get a gift bought with love and good intentions than nothing at all.

]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 20:55:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971164&title=ist-birthdays#971164 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Im all for regifting new items....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971161&title=ist-birthdays#971161 Author: _SMS_
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 8:54pm

Im all for regifting new items. Everyone has different taste so you might not like what some has brought you.

Also alot of people dont have money atm so if you can pass on a gift you dont need but know someone else would make good use of, why not??

]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 20:54:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971161&title=ist-birthdays#971161 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : LOL - I'm pleased to see...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971149&title=ist-birthdays#971149 Author: DJ
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 8:47pm

LOL - I'm pleased to see that lots of people support regifting!

And my daughter got 2 boys t-shirts for Christmas

unfortunately they are a bit too uncool to regift...]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 20:47:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971149&title=ist-birthdays#971149 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : ok i havent read the other posts. It...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971125&title=ist-birthdays#971125 Author: _SMS_
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 8:30pm

ok i havent read the other posts.

It really sounds confusing. Why dont you just go out as a family, you, your DH & DS. Go to the pools or for lunch etc.

Even if you dont have a party his close family (grandparents, aunties, uncles etc) should hopefully still buy him something.

I do think its rude to put on invites what gifts you do & dont want. i think just be happy with whatever he is given, if you dont like it or wont use it say Thank You & you can always resell it at a later time or keep it for future children etc. Or if you double up give one to charity. Or give it away to another child for a present. With out telling the person who bought it of course.

I guess at the end of the day its up to you. I had a big party for DDs 1st birthday & i regret it. yes she got wonderful presents but it was really hard work. Next year we are going to the zoo as a family.

]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 20:30:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971125&title=ist-birthdays#971125 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : BaAsKa wrote:so did you get...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971107&title=ist-birthdays#971107 Author: music
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 8:11pm

BaAsKa wrote:

so did you get the girls clothes before or after HE was born??

this was after he was born and for xmas presents.

]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 20:11:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971107&title=ist-birthdays#971107 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : We had awesome first birthdays...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971011&title=ist-birthdays#971011 Author: freckle
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 7:03pm

We had awesome first birthdays for my girls... both had the same thing. We went to the the park and invited friends and family and it was easy peasy... I took lots of party food for the "kids"... one of them we even had a thunder storm but we'll always remember it even though she won't LOL... Everyone bought presents which was sooooo nice of them! and I really appreciated everything we were given... I say relax and enjoy it! your celebrating ya boys first year and really it doen't have to be a huge thing just make it something special to you guys

]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 19:03:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=971011&title=ist-birthdays#971011 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : I think your best bet , is to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970978&title=ist-birthdays#970978 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 6:29pm

I think your best bet , is to have something either with the three of you or to have maybe one or two close friends, you don't owe anyone a party , and if your family can't manage to be civil and just happily celebrate with you without getting upset and offended, then they don't deserve to be there .

TBH, first birthdays are more about the parents going "sweet ! we survived the first year " than what the baby wants to do , so make it an occasion you and your partner will look back on and think "yep, we had a great time "

..if you do invite the family , say on the invite "we are celebrating our baby BOYS first birthday , please help us to celebrate the first year of our SON'S life " and make the invite blue

]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 18:29:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970978&title=ist-birthdays#970978 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : You just need to start going for...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970971&title=ist-birthdays#970971 Author: flakesitchyfeet
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 6:26pm

You just need to start going for a girl

Flag the birthday thing completely. Who cares about any of it. You are a mother, you don't need the stress. Plan an awesome day for you, your partner, and DS. Wake up to pancakes for breakfast, a trip to the zoo, a picnic lunch, and then have an afternoon nap before heading to the beach, or something.

Special time for you guys that you will all actually enjoy and cherish.

Do it. If the others want to see him, let them put the effort in

]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 18:26:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970971&title=ist-birthdays#970971 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : so did you get the girls clothes...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970967&title=ist-birthdays#970967 Author: BaAsKa
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 6:24pm

so did you get the girls clothes before or after HE was born??]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 18:24:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970967&title=ist-birthdays#970967 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : BaAsKa wrote:woah really!!??...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970949&title=ist-birthdays#970949 Author: music
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 6:08pm

BaAsKa wrote:

woah really!!?? you get girls clothes even when they KNOW you have a boy!!!???

.....bit like the old man who asked me why i tie my little boys hair up!!

(shes a friggen girl obviously!!!)..

they had pink bows on them and stuff like that so they cant be used on our boy.

and they were pink and I have just left them in a suitcase all that clothing that was girly.

shocking amount of clothing was girls and we had him in the october.
]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 18:08:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970949&title=ist-birthdays#970949 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Yeah, that boy/girl thing is weird...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970945&title=ist-birthdays#970945 Author: Nutella
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 6:03pm

Yeah, that boy/girl thing is weird]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 18:03:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970945&title=ist-birthdays#970945 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : But its got to be bad if your...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970940&title=ist-birthdays#970940 Author: palomino
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:57pm

But its got to be bad if your own family are buying girls things??!! Did they not know he was a he or were they things like gowns that kind of look girly but are really handy regardless of sex]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:57:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970940&title=ist-birthdays#970940 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : woah really!!?? you get girls...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970931&title=ist-birthdays#970931 Author: BaAsKa
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:50pm

woah really!!?? you get girls clothes even when they KNOW you have a boy!!!???

.....bit like the old man who asked me why i tie my little boys hair up!!

(shes a friggen girl obviously!!!)..]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:50:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970931&title=ist-birthdays#970931 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : As others have said, and based...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970928&title=ist-birthdays#970928 Author: pepsi
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:46pm

As others have said, and based on your last post about reconsidering the party, why not save yourself the stress and just do something for the 3 of you (as you said). Why give into the pressure of having a 1st birthday party when you don't have to?

He won't remember a party, and there's nothing wrong with celebrating a birthday with your own family unit and a nice cake. Celebrate the fact you made it through the first year as parents

And just as a side note, the thread only became about the presents, because it was something you mentioned. If you don't care about the presents then why even think of a gift list? Just sayin'..]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:46:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970928&title=ist-birthdays#970928 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : CatzKids wrote:on the family...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970916&title=ist-birthdays#970916 Author: music
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:38pm

CatzKids wrote:

on the family thing we usually have to ring certain family members and remind tham that they need to hold their peace with others as the days not about them its about celebrating your kids birthday

DH's mum has also been warned if she starts any crap she wont be invited again and this seemed to work well shes been on best behaviour ever since

I have tried to do that my with my own mother but she does not listen and now expects to come to his birthday without an invite.
I said you get invited and you dont gatecrash if we dont want her there. She is a long way away.]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:38:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970916&title=ist-birthdays#970916 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Best piece of advice right here! ...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970904&title=ist-birthdays#970904 Author: MrsMojo
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:30pm

Best piece of advice right here!

caitlynsmygirl wrote:

.... it only needs to be your problem if you let it.

]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:30:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970904&title=ist-birthdays#970904 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : caitlynsmygirl wrote:The whole...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970900&title=ist-birthdays#970900 Author: music
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:27pm

caitlynsmygirl wrote:

The whole present debacle aside, Do what YOU want for his birthday, if your family are going to have a problem with it , or are going to get upset by you, let that be their problem, not yours, it only needs to be your problem if you let it.
You wont get another chance to have his first birthday, so make it what you want to do ,stuff everyone else

thats why I dont want family there that are about show and not about anything else.
]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:27:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970900&title=ist-birthdays#970900 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : on the family thing we usually...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970898&title=ist-birthdays#970898 Author: Candkids
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:24pm

on the family thing we usually have to ring certain family members and remind tham that they need to hold their peace with others as the days not about them its about celebrating your kids birthday

DH's mum has also been warned if she starts any crap she wont be invited again and this seemed to work well shes been on best behaviour ever since

]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:24:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970898&title=ist-birthdays#970898 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : The whole present debacle aside,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970897&title=ist-birthdays#970897 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:23pm

The whole present debacle aside, Do what YOU want for his birthday, if your family are going to have a problem with it , or are going to get upset by you, let that be their problem, not yours, it only needs to be your problem if you let it.
You wont get another chance to have his first birthday, so make it what you want to do ,stuff everyone else]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:23:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970897&title=ist-birthdays#970897 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : WOW got to say i think its way...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970892&title=ist-birthdays#970892 Author: Candkids
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:21pm

WOW got to say i think its way OTT to be giving a gift list! for a kids birthday party, anything we have got that the kids havnt needed or used has been sold on trade me and the money put into the kids accounts,

i can see where your coming from with recieving stuff you dont need or want but its the thought that counts really, and they should be there to celebrate the birthday because they are part of your kids life regardless weather they bring food or a present!

]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:21:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970892&title=ist-birthdays#970892 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : pepsi wrote: huttlady wrote:I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970891&title=ist-birthdays#970891 Author: music
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:21pm

pepsi wrote:

huttlady wrote:

I can tell you we did not asked at Xmas what our baby wanted for presents and we got alot of useless presents that we wont ever use even stuff for a girl.

Fair enough you'd look at presents for a girl and go "huh?"..but what about the other stuff.. when you say "we won't ever use".. I mean, did the kids get a chance to use the gifts or did you just decide they were crap and get rid of them?

we got alot of girls clothing for xmas ok for our son and we did not get many toys at all for him.
nothing we did not already have for him so they are going to get listed on trademe to make some money so we can buy something for him that he would use.
why would people buy girls clothing for a boy??]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:21:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970891&title=ist-birthdays#970891 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : RoSee wrote:I'm interested...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970889&title=ist-birthdays#970889 Author: music
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:19pm

RoSee wrote:

I'm interested to know what would happen if one of the invited guests turns up with no present at all? Or what about a present not on the list? God forbid your child should end up with a toy they already have!

how dare you say stuff like that.
what horrible things to say did you not read what I wrote above.
]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:19:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970889&title=ist-birthdays#970889 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : I can understand how hard it is...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970885&title=ist-birthdays#970885 Author: palomino
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:16pm

I can understand how hard it is to please all your family, but you cant please them all and it is your kids day. My boy has 8 grandparents and some of them dont get along so what we did was have a picnic in neutral territory (they were all bickering over whos house it was going to be at) so we went to the lake, and just invited them all and the ones that didnt come we caught up with another day. There were no arguments, the ones who felt uncomfortable left early after the obligatory cuddles and presents. Also this was a week before his real birthday, on the 'big' day me, the partner and B went for a drive to the beach. Stress free and everyone was happy!]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:16:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970885&title=ist-birthdays#970885 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Bizzy wrote:back away people......]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970884&title=ist-birthdays#970884 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:15pm

Bizzy wrote:

back away people... shes stated her case!

AGREED!]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:15:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970884&title=ist-birthdays#970884 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : back away people... shes stated...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970882&title=ist-birthdays#970882 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:12pm

back away people... shes stated her case! ]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:12:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970882&title=ist-birthdays#970882 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : I'm interested to know what...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970880&title=ist-birthdays#970880 Author: RoSee
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:12pm

I'm interested to know what would happen if one of the invited guests turns up with no present at all? Or what about a present not on the list? God forbid your child should end up with a toy they already have!

Why don't you write on the invitations what colour clothes the guests can wear and what order they are to turn up in.. Maybe you can play a game called 'huttlady says'... sorta like a twist on Simon Says!
]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:12:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970880&title=ist-birthdays#970880 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Funny, I was just saying to someone...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970876&title=ist-birthdays#970876 Author: MrsMojo
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:09pm

Funny, I was just saying to someone yesterday that kids parties have got totally out of hand... that was before reading this thread!

I never ask people to bring a plate and I always specify on the invitations NOT to bring gifts. Birthdays are about celebrating my beautiful childrens lives, not what people are going to give them.

Any gifts are gratefully received and on the occasion DD has been given a clothing item I can't stand I still ensure that she wears it at least once for the obligatory photo to show the friend or family member that gave it to her. At Christmas time she was given makeup which I don't think is appropriate for a 3yo so I found a new use for it - I called it facepaint and we've had a great time drawing pictures on each others faces. Her first birthday fell on Easter weekend and you wouldn't believe the number of Easter eggs she got, I had to eat every last one of them... it's a tough job this parenting lark

This year DD (who turns 4 in 3 weeks) is not getting a birthday party. We have limited money and would rather spend it on her than on a party (venue, food, gifts bags - it's all too much). We have the BEST day planned and I'm really looking forward to it.

1st birthday's are more about the parents surviving the 1st year IMO so I think for DS's we will probably have a family day with a bottle of bubbly for DH and I once the kids are in bed.

ETA: if having family there is going to stress you out then don't invite them. Just have your playgroup over for afternoon tea - this works really well if your childs birthday falls on a weekday when most people are at work.

Edited by MrsMojo]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:09:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970876&title=ist-birthdays#970876 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Oh my god, this is hilarious!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970875&title=ist-birthdays#970875 Author: GuestGuest
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:09pm

Oh my god, this is hilarious! I think a chill pill is needed huttlady. Go cuddle your son.]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:09:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970875&title=ist-birthdays#970875 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Seeing as your son is only 5 months...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970874&title=ist-birthdays#970874 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:09pm

Seeing as your son is only 5 months old, you've got a while to think about it aye?

It is a 1st birthday and as a few ladies have said, he won't remember it. 1st Birthdays are much more for the parents IMO.]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:09:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970874&title=ist-birthdays#970874 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : Wow, some peoples lives are so...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970873&title=ist-birthdays#970873 Author: RinTinTin
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:08pm

Wow, some peoples lives are so trivial huh?

Oh to have a life as simple as this....]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:08:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970873&title=ist-birthdays#970873 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : I think it comes down to that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970872&title=ist-birthdays#970872 Author: ?Lolly?
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:08pm

I think it comes down to that little mantra 'You can't choose your family' Best to not offend anyone and invite them all. Let them decide if they want to make the trip.

]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:08:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970872&title=ist-birthdays#970872 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : I agree with Bizzy. The point...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970869&title=ist-birthdays#970869 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:06pm

I agree with Bizzy. The point has been made .

Edited by Sheza]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:06:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970869&title=ist-birthdays#970869 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : you guys this is not about presents...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970863&title=ist-birthdays#970863 Author: music
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:01pm

you guys this is not about presents for my son at all.

thats what it has turned into.

we dont see our family they dont live close by it makes it harder for us to have a birthday with people that wont appreciate what you do food wise or anything.

I am thinking now of not having anything for him at all.

and just have a day for us three and noone else as we wont do what everyone wants and we get told off by our families for doing things the way we do like the food we do wont be good enough his cake wont be good enough.

this was never about what presents he would get at all.

I would rather get no presents and have no party and just have something for him alone no stress and no hazzle for any of us.

I am not gold digger for presents never have been and never would be.

I am trying work out what would work best but its to hard for me when I have family that expect this and expect this from you.

I am putting this in the two hard basket at the moment as I cant see how we can have a birthday for him at all.

maybe should have our close friends and their children only and nothing for the family at all.

as we have family that dont get on on both sides with each other makes it really tough to deal with.

I am not about presents never have been.

]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:01:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970863&title=ist-birthdays#970863 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : i think we are all being a bit...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970858&title=ist-birthdays#970858 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 5:00pm

i think we are all being a bit too hard on huttlady now. i think the point has been made!]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:00:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970858&title=ist-birthdays#970858 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : OMG, it is just a first birthday,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970856&title=ist-birthdays#970856 Author: Nutella
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 4:58pm

OMG, it is just a first birthday, sure there will just be the one for this baby but they ain't gonna remember it and there are plenty more to come that they will remember.

As for the presents, I have to agree with Bex and I don't believe I have ever seen her write such a cross post...]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 16:58:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970856&title=ist-birthdays#970856 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : I have one thing to say - JEEBUS!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970836&title=ist-birthdays#970836 Author: ?Lolly?
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 4:46pm

I have one thing to say - JEEBUS!

There are kids in New Zealand who go to school without lunch or shoes or adequate clothing. I'd not care at all if I ended up with several of the same things or nothing at all.

(ETA : it's presents for the kiddy's not yourself)

Edited by Emiloly]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 16:46:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970836&title=ist-birthdays#970836 <![CDATA[Ist birthdays : I totally agree with Bex too....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970830&title=ist-birthdays#970830 Author: WestiesGirl
Subject: 32247
Posted: 17 March 2010 at 4:43pm

I totally agree with Bex too.

I think you should be grateful for what people give your child irrespective of if you like it or not. People dont have to give gifts and they shouldnt feel obligated to buy something either that fits in with you from your gift list.

There are so many more people out there that would be grateful to receive 10 hooded bath towels and it would mean the world to them. I think you should stop taking things for granted and appreciate what you have and the smaller things in life. Jeeez!!]]> Wed, 17 Mar 2010 16:43:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32247&PID=970830&title=ist-birthdays#970830