https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 04 May 2026 17:46:24 +0000 Mon, 01 Mar 2010 17:29:59 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=31954 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=954065&title=suitable-punishment#954065 Author: lizzle
Subject: 31954
Posted: 01 March 2010 at 5:29pm

Bizzy wrote: if you want immediate then it is too late IMO.

am beginning to think that - it was sat night and already the kids have forgotten. might go with the note and the agreement idea.

thanks everyone]]> Mon, 01 Mar 2010 17:29:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=954065&title=suitable-punishment#954065 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=953870&title=suitable-punishment#953870 Author: .Mel
Subject: 31954
Posted: 01 March 2010 at 3:38pm

caraMel wrote: I'd get them to write letters to Grandma to apologise and then deliver them and apologise in person too.

I think that is a fantastic idea, and I would make them hand deliver them to her... ]]> Mon, 01 Mar 2010 15:38:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=953870&title=suitable-punishment#953870 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=953725&title=suitable-punishment#953725 Author: bun_in_the_oven
Subject: 31954
Posted: 01 March 2010 at 2:08pm

maybe write a "positive" rules list with Grandma at the next visit / sleep over...

instead of

NO throwing toys
NO hitting    etc etc

we will play calmly with our toys

we will be friendly and kind with nana and each other

etc etc

I think younger children respond well when there is a positive spin on things..

and a reward system >... if they do all the things at the end of the sleep over nana could give them a small toy, lollipop ??

Just some ideas

Good Luck
]]> Mon, 01 Mar 2010 14:08:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=953725&title=suitable-punishment#953725 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=953481&title=suitable-punishment#953481 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 31954
Posted: 01 March 2010 at 11:38am

i agree with jaz.

if you want immediate then it is too late IMO. ]]> Mon, 01 Mar 2010 11:38:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=953481&title=suitable-punishment#953481 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=952999&title=suitable-punishment#952999 Author: jaz
Subject: 31954
Posted: 28 February 2010 at 8:23pm

Being banned from sleeping over at my Grandmothers at that age would have been punishment enough in itself.

When DD was younger I always felt I was best to leave Mum to hand out the punishments for things that happened at her house and me for things that happened at mine. ]]> Sun, 28 Feb 2010 20:23:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=952999&title=suitable-punishment#952999 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=952698&title=suitable-punishment#952698 Author: lizzle
Subject: 31954
Posted: 28 February 2010 at 3:52pm

problem is the toys are mum's ones she has there - so they have very little attachment to them at all. Have decided to take their pocket money off them for two weeks and make them do some chores to "earn" money to get the things fixed. Mum isn't too happy about this plan cause she feels "mean" taking money from children, but too bad.]]> Sun, 28 Feb 2010 15:52:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=952698&title=suitable-punishment#952698 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=952601&title=suitable-punishment#952601 Author: LouD
Subject: 31954
Posted: 28 February 2010 at 1:52pm

Good idea on the removing the toys thing.........the toys are wat did the damage so they should be the things getting removed.........of course it has to be toys they are attached to.......like my son loves his hotwheels cars and has been without them for 5days now and is starting to get withdrawals so its now hitting home (stealing)]]> Sun, 28 Feb 2010 13:52:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=952601&title=suitable-punishment#952601 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=952520&title=suitable-punishment#952520 Author: arohanui
Subject: 31954
Posted: 28 February 2010 at 11:29am

Yep I'd take away 1 or 2 favourite toys each and get them to write a sorry letter (they could dictate to you) and a draw a picture and take it over to your mum... and like jazzy said, talking about it.

You could even see if there's anything they can do for your mum to try to make it up.... like 'help' by vaccuming or something. It's not so much that they'd do the vaccuming so that she wouldn't have to do it (unless your boys are amazing at vaccuming lol), but the learning from the action of them doing something good to make up for something bad IYKWIM.

Maybe they have to have a certain amount of times they visit your mum during the day (eg 5), and once they have behaved appropriately for 5 visits then they will be allowed to stay over night again.]]> Sun, 28 Feb 2010 11:29:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=952520&title=suitable-punishment#952520 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=952512&title=suitable-punishment#952512 Author: jazzy
Subject: 31954
Posted: 28 February 2010 at 11:20am

They need to understand how up set Nana is. Take them there with their sorry cards & show them the damage & talk to them about the consequences & then take something away that they really like, a toy, tv or outing.

I am strict on toys, when my kids start throwing them they go away. They soon get the message. ]]> Sun, 28 Feb 2010 11:20:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=952512&title=suitable-punishment#952512 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=952471&title=suitable-punishment#952471 Author: caraMel
Subject: 31954
Posted: 28 February 2010 at 10:19am

Aw that sucks.
I'd get them to write letters to Grandma to apologise and then deliver them and apologise in person too.
That always seems to help get Ella thinking about how the person affected feels.


Edited by caraMel]]> Sun, 28 Feb 2010 10:19:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=952471&title=suitable-punishment#952471 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=952465&title=suitable-punishment#952465 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 31954
Posted: 28 February 2010 at 10:08am

Take some toys away? Thats what I usually do when Jack throws toys.]]> Sun, 28 Feb 2010 10:08:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=952465&title=suitable-punishment#952465 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=952451&title=suitable-punishment#952451 Author: lizzle
Subject: 31954
Posted: 28 February 2010 at 9:45am

DH and I went out last night and Mum had the kids for a sleepover. they were not so well-behaved - wouldn't go to bed etc. But it turns out while they wouldn't go to sleep they were throwing toys - which consequently took a couple of chunks out of Mum's furniture (new and wooden). She is unimpressed. Now at 4 and 5 they should certainly know much better than that.

So, any ideas about suitable punishments? I would like it to fit the crime as much as possible, without being too much for a kid to understand. and immediate. Mum has said "no sleepovers until you can behave yourselves" but that isn't as immediate as I would like.]]> Sun, 28 Feb 2010 09:45:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31954&PID=952451&title=suitable-punishment#952451