OHbaby! Forums : What do you think? https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 09 May 2026 22:43:56 +0000 Tue, 16 Feb 2010 21:37:51 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=31608 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[What do you think? : .Mel wrote:I would take it...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=939847&title=what-do-you-think#939847 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 31608
Posted: 16 February 2010 at 9:37pm

Originally posted by .Mel .Mel wrote:

I would take it as far as you can with this centre. Complain to anyone and everyone about the treatment of your son.

So happy to hear that you have found a centre that will take him. Good luck

Yep I agree, even letting the local paper know what is happening there as well might open a few more peoples eyes.

]]> Tue, 16 Feb 2010 21:37:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=939847&title=what-do-you-think#939847 <![CDATA[What do you think? : I would take it as far as you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=939473&title=what-do-you-think#939473 Author: .Mel
Subject: 31608
Posted: 16 February 2010 at 5:31pm

I would take it as far as you can with this centre. Complain to anyone and everyone about the treatment of your son.

So happy to hear that you have found a centre that will take him. Good luck ]]> Tue, 16 Feb 2010 17:31:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=939473&title=what-do-you-think#939473 <![CDATA[What do you think? : yep what kazzle said... also...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=939257&title=what-do-you-think#939257 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 31608
Posted: 16 February 2010 at 2:51pm

yep what kazzle said... also if you need someone for a few interim tuesdays i am not too far from you and could help out if needed...]]> Tue, 16 Feb 2010 14:51:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=939257&title=what-do-you-think#939257 <![CDATA[What do you think? : wow sounds like that place needs...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=939157&title=what-do-you-think#939157 Author: Kazzle
Subject: 31608
Posted: 16 February 2010 at 1:37pm

wow sounds like that place needs to be shut down...they sound like they are real bullies.

Good on you for standing up for Joshy and you go girl, you make sure you put in the complaint and demand that something be done about it]]> Tue, 16 Feb 2010 13:37:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=939157&title=what-do-you-think#939157 <![CDATA[What do you think? : Thank you so much everyone. I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=939116&title=what-do-you-think#939116 Author: Jay_R
Subject: 31608
Posted: 16 February 2010 at 1:05pm

Thank you so much everyone. I have found another centre for him and he'll be starting there at the beginning of March. Unfortunately the new centre have a waitlist for the Tuesday that I need, so will have to find another option quickly for that day.

Mel and Annie - I actually think the same. I think they are actually trying to make his time there horrible, and purposely upset my sensibilites as a parent. I've been speaking to my mum about this - she used to be an Advocate at the Childrens Commission, and when I go in there today to let them know he will be withdrawn from the centre, I'm going to voice my unhappiness at what has been happening. I will also be putting it in writing, for the ERO, and the centre. There have been so many other things happen (physical restraint, pulling on clothes so he ended up with blood marks on his neck....) that I feel obliged to make an issue of it.

Thanks so much ladies. Your comments and advice are fabulous ]]> Tue, 16 Feb 2010 13:05:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=939116&title=what-do-you-think#939116 <![CDATA[What do you think? : Milo1 wrote:I&#039;m an ECE...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=936322&title=what-do-you-think#936322 Author: sarahm
Subject: 31608
Posted: 13 February 2010 at 4:37pm

Originally posted by Milo1 Milo1 wrote:

I'm an ECE teacher have worked in various daycares and kindy's for the last 10 years.

They are NOT alllowed to withhold food from a child.

It is horrible and i'm ashamed as an ECE teacher, that this happens!

Was just going to say exactly the same thing!!! If you want some help in knowing what to say etc PM me or Mel can give you my details

]]> Sat, 13 Feb 2010 16:37:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=936322&title=what-do-you-think#936322 <![CDATA[What do you think? : That is disgusting food, I can&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=936288&title=what-do-you-think#936288 Author: kellie
Subject: 31608
Posted: 13 February 2010 at 3:37pm

That is disgusting food, I can't blame him for not wanting it.
That is really sad, and totally mean to withhold food from your little man. If someone did that to my son I would be heart broken too.
Make a complaint, and make sure you follow it up. I would expect nothing less then a formal apology that is for sure.]]> Sat, 13 Feb 2010 15:37:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=936288&title=what-do-you-think#936288 <![CDATA[What do you think? : I haven&#039;t read your other...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=936228&title=what-do-you-think#936228 Author: KiwiL
Subject: 31608
Posted: 13 February 2010 at 2:21pm

I haven't read your other post (will go and find it though!) but I think withholding food is outrageous. It makes me very sad to think that carers would do that to a child. It's simply disgusting.

Sometimes Jackson turns his nose up at lunch and the carers at his day care tell me that they offered him a bit more at afternoon tea to make up for it. That's how it should be. It's completely normal for kids to be fussy or simply not hungry, but to starve them (which is effectively what they are doing) is completely unacceptable.

No child should ever be punished by withholding food. I would definatly complain.

Hugs to you. This would upset me so much. ]]> Sat, 13 Feb 2010 14:21:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=936228&title=what-do-you-think#936228 <![CDATA[What do you think? : eww at 2 minute noodles..yeah...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=936227&title=what-do-you-think#936227 Author: NovemberMum
Subject: 31608
Posted: 13 February 2010 at 2:20pm

eww at 2 minute noodles..yeah cant say I blame your son for not wanting to eat that crap.

but yes I would be furious if they with held food from my child at the next meal cause she did not her lunch. you cannot make a child eat something but it is cruel to withhold food from them at the next meal.

sometimes my daughter doenst eat breakfast but I always make sure she has something at morning tea.]]> Sat, 13 Feb 2010 14:20:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=936227&title=what-do-you-think#936227 <![CDATA[What do you think? : just to add: Also ERO (education...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=936206&title=what-do-you-think#936206 Author: LJsmum
Subject: 31608
Posted: 13 February 2010 at 1:52pm


just to add:

Also ERO (education review office) ( part of the ministry of ed) would be horrified to hear of this.

The centre would get into HEAPS of trouble.

Tell them they legally can't withhold food!!!!

]]> Sat, 13 Feb 2010 13:52:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=936206&title=what-do-you-think#936206 <![CDATA[What do you think? : I&#039;m an ECE teacher have worked...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=936198&title=what-do-you-think#936198 Author: LJsmum
Subject: 31608
Posted: 13 February 2010 at 1:47pm

I'm an ECE teacher have worked in various daycares and kindy's for th elast 10 years.

They are NOT alllowed to withhold food from a child.
It is a regulation that food must not be withheld or used as a form as punishment, just like they are not allowed to smack a child, we as ECE teachers legally can't reuse to feed a child under any circumstances.

As centres are licensed by the ministry of education contact them and tell them what happened they should do a spot check. No centre is allowed to do this. This IS NOT O.k. Food should never be used to punish a child.

Talk to the centre manger, lay a complaint and i would take it further if you get no luck form her.
Be stong they ar ein the wrong.

It is horrible and i'm ashamed as an ECE teacher, that this happens! ]]> Sat, 13 Feb 2010 13:47:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=936198&title=what-do-you-think#936198 <![CDATA[What do you think? : Yeah I&#039;d be wild about that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=936177&title=what-do-you-think#936177 Author: RinTinTin
Subject: 31608
Posted: 13 February 2010 at 1:21pm

Yeah I'd be wild about that and I'd also be laying a complaint.

I haven't got to solids yet with my man but I know when we were kids, if we refused to eat, we had the food taken away, had to sit at the table til everyone else was finished and we weren't alloowed anything else to eat until the next meal (which in your sons case was the afternoon tea).

But the whole thing was, if you don't eat whats put in front of you then don't ask for anything else between now and your next meal.

I'd also be pretty angry at them serving up such crappy food to growing children. Where are the nutrients that these gowing kids need???]]> Sat, 13 Feb 2010 13:21:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=936177&title=what-do-you-think#936177 <![CDATA[What do you think? : Definitely not on. When my kids...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=936088&title=what-do-you-think#936088 Author: linda
Subject: 31608
Posted: 13 February 2010 at 11:46am

Definitely not on. When my kids went to creche they had a rule that you had to eat fruit before the 'treat' of morning or afternoon tea and I now also do that at home.

I'm not sure I agree with the 'your child, your rules' because I would imagine that in a daycare with 20 odd kids, you need to have set rules that other children have to follow....but the rule of starving the child because they wouldn't eat lunch is not acceptable and very hard to understand that that would be there policy. Is this policy documented...if so, maybe make an offical complaint.]]> Sat, 13 Feb 2010 11:46:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=936088&title=what-do-you-think#936088 <![CDATA[What do you think? : I&#039;m with Fats and Mel, I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935867&title=what-do-you-think#935867 Author: kiwisj
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 10:47pm

I'm with Fats and Mel, I think (reading between the lines in your other post) that they are just being mean Which is a horrible thing to say and horrible for your DS, but that's just my gut feeling. I'd be calling them out on it too. And looking for another DC.

I think Kel is probably onto something re that sort of food and his behaviour if you don't feed him those sorts of foods at home...]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 22:47:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935867&title=what-do-you-think#935867 <![CDATA[What do you think? : I&#039;m another on the OMG wagon! Over...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935862&title=what-do-you-think#935862 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 10:43pm

I'm another on the OMG wagon!

Over the school holidays, I withheld food from my almost 6 year old, Id never do it to a 3 year old. I did it cause she had to learn set meals times & she knew she was allowed food at 10, 12 & 2.30, only took her a day & a half to realise I was serious. She was old enough to learn that concequence, a 3 year old is not!

But no wonder your son is acting up...that is crap crap food. If you are feeding him low preservative foods, no wonder he's acting up at daycare after being loaded up with them!]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 22:43:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935862&title=what-do-you-think#935862 <![CDATA[What do you think? : fattartsrock wrote:Thats disgusting,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935768&title=what-do-you-think#935768 Author: .Mel
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 9:42pm

Originally posted by fattartsrock fattartsrock wrote:

Thats disgusting, and I would be a bit sus (going by your other post) that they are maybe trying to push you into pulling him out? What a pack of assholes.


I have to agree - sounds like they want to make his daycare experience as uncomfortable as possible. Have them up about next time he's there.

Totally unacceptable behaviour from grown ups IMO!]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 21:42:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935768&title=what-do-you-think#935768 <![CDATA[What do you think? : Thats disgusting, and I would...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935697&title=what-do-you-think#935697 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 9:03pm

Thats disgusting, and I would be a bit sus (going by your other post) that they are maybe trying to push you into pulling him out? What a pack of assholes.]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 21:03:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935697&title=what-do-you-think#935697 <![CDATA[What do you think? : Wow thats awful. At our daycare...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935509&title=what-do-you-think#935509 Author: FionaO
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 6:33pm

Wow thats awful.

At our daycare food is just offered and its up to the kids what they do, how dare they, maybe he just wasn't hungry at that time.

Its up to you to decide the rules, if you had said look he needs to eat his main meal first, but withholding food - just mean mean mean oh and wrong
]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 18:33:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935509&title=what-do-you-think#935509 <![CDATA[What do you think? : Thats so not on. At our preschool...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935488&title=what-do-you-think#935488 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 6:18pm

Thats so not on. At our preschool (kindercare) its a cooked vegetarian lunch and its soooo yummy but they would never withhold afternoon tea that is so wrong. Also some days kids just don't want to eat much and that is fine they shouldn't be punished for it. ]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 18:18:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935488&title=what-do-you-think#935488 <![CDATA[What do you think? : What kind of daycare is that? I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935479&title=what-do-you-think#935479 Author: jazzy
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 6:08pm

What kind of daycare is that?

I think I would be withholding $$$ if they served that crap up to my child.

I would look elsewhere, if they punish with no food when a child wont eat food what do they do about other things. I would have warning bells going off.

I worked in early child care for for a few years & we would never of punished a child for not eating, but then we always made them hot nutritious meals.

There are some really good centers our there & they may cost a bit more, but they are so worth it ]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 18:08:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935479&title=what-do-you-think#935479 <![CDATA[What do you think? : Id be and I would be telling...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935467&title=what-do-you-think#935467 Author: lilfatty
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 5:57pm

Id be and I would be telling them in no uncertain terms that at NO time are they to withhold food from my child. ]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 17:57:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935467&title=what-do-you-think#935467 <![CDATA[What do you think? : He is 3 nearly 4, he is too young...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935461&title=what-do-you-think#935461 Author: Manda08
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 5:52pm

He is 3 nearly 4, he is too young to be punished for not eating his lunch! He should have been given something else, even if it was a piece of fruit or a sandwich! I would be speaking to the manager, and if you dont get her support, look for a new daycare.... ]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 17:52:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935461&title=what-do-you-think#935461 <![CDATA[What do you think? : Thats disgusting - how can these...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935455&title=what-do-you-think#935455 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 5:47pm

Thats disgusting - how can these people be trained childcare teachers!!]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 17:47:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935455&title=what-do-you-think#935455 <![CDATA[What do you think? : Oh yes sir reeeee...do something...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935445&title=what-do-you-think#935445 Author: ooEvaoo
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 5:37pm

Oh yes sir reeeee...do something about this!!. Take him out....but also take this up with someone in authority because if it's happening to you're boy, it is most probably happening to the other kids. That is sooo not on!...and I would definitely give them my piece of mind about it.

]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 17:37:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935445&title=what-do-you-think#935445 <![CDATA[What do you think? : OMG! I would be furious and so...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935442&title=what-do-you-think#935442 Author: pikelets
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 5:34pm

OMG! I would be furious and so upset.

I don't pay $245 per week for my child to eat a meal that costs less than $2 bucks!   Plus their bellies are so small they need filling up more often. Disgusting!

I changed my DS daycare for numerous reasons but one was similar. They gave him crap food and only popcorn for afternoon tea. The time I picked him up, he was ready to gnaw off his own limbs!

Is it worth you complaining though???? Our last daycare had crap managers so was like talking to a brick wall.   We now have him going to a chain daycare as I think they are more regulated IYKWIM (someone to answer to).

Think you should look at changing hun!]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 17:34:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935442&title=what-do-you-think#935442 <![CDATA[What do you think? : arohanui wrote:Yeah thinking...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935397&title=what-do-you-think#935397 Author: High9
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 5:07pm

Originally posted by arohanui arohanui wrote:

Yeah thinking more about this, they really should offer the sandwich option if the kid doesn't like the 'cooked' lunch. I mean really, as adults we don't like everything and wouldn't be expected to eat whatever we're served up!! It doesn't mean we're 'naughty' for not eating lunch, it just means we don't like it!!! And it's not hard or expensive to make a boring marmite sandwich.


I was actually just thinking this...

Are you able to provide lunch for him at all? Or leave some snacks in his bag? ]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 17:07:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935397&title=what-do-you-think#935397 <![CDATA[What do you think? : SMoody wrote:Your child your...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935384&title=what-do-you-think#935384 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 5:00pm

Originally posted by SMoody SMoody wrote:

Your child your rules. Tell them straight off that that is not on and that he should be offered his food at afternoon tea.


totally agree ]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 17:00:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935384&title=what-do-you-think#935384 <![CDATA[What do you think? : Just read your other thread in...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935369&title=what-do-you-think#935369 Author: arohanui
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 4:55pm

Just read your other thread in the kindy section - if it was me I'd be seriously looking into changing centres. Is that a possibility? It sounds like you're not happy with how things are going there overall, and like they're not very understanding in trying to help your little boy ]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 16:55:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935369&title=what-do-you-think#935369 <![CDATA[What do you think? : two minute noodles, luncheon and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935366&title=what-do-you-think#935366 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 4:51pm

two minute noodles, luncheon and mix vege is a pretty average lunch, high in fat and not very nutritious don't blame him for not eating it]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 16:51:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935366&title=what-do-you-think#935366 <![CDATA[What do you think? : Nope that is not on. He may be...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935352&title=what-do-you-think#935352 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 4:43pm

Nope that is not on. He may be going through a stage where he is not hungry at lunchtime and hungry at a different time. Report them if you have no luck with the head teacher.

]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 16:43:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935352&title=what-do-you-think#935352 <![CDATA[What do you think? : Agree with everyone else no way...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935348&title=what-do-you-think#935348 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 4:42pm

Agree with everyone else no way should they be with holding food.

Also what are you paying daycare for if they're not going to feed your son. ]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 16:42:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935348&title=what-do-you-think#935348 <![CDATA[What do you think? : Yeah thinking more about this,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935347&title=what-do-you-think#935347 Author: arohanui
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 4:41pm

Yeah thinking more about this, they really should offer the sandwich option if the kid doesn't like the 'cooked' lunch. I mean really, as adults we don't like everything and wouldn't be expected to eat whatever we're served up!! It doesn't mean we're 'naughty' for not eating lunch, it just means we don't like it!!! And it's not hard or expensive to make a boring marmite sandwich.]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 16:41:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935347&title=what-do-you-think#935347 <![CDATA[What do you think? : I don&#039;t have a baby yet......]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935335&title=what-do-you-think#935335 Author: High9
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 4:35pm

I don't have a baby yet... but that doesn't sound on, I mean obviously if he doesn't want lunch they can't force it on him but thats just cruel to refuse him the next meal.

It's like they're trying to teach him if you don't eat lunch you don't eat at all, and while that may work it seems a little harsh iygwim...

I would definitely talk to them about it]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 16:35:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935335&title=what-do-you-think#935335 <![CDATA[What do you think? : I completely agree that witholding...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935327&title=what-do-you-think#935327 Author: kiwisj
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 4:31pm

I completely agree that witholding afternoon tea is being punished twice. Not only that, but I also believe that kids that age are too young to put the two things together (ie, lunch is way too long ago that they will even remember what they're being punished for).

I would speak to the centre manager as BS suggested and make sure they know what's going on. If they agree with the teachers then I would be pulling him out.

And at that lunch, is that what they call "cooked" lunch???

(ps, to clarify - i have been known to give C noodles sure, but I think that's a poor excuse for a cooked lunch when they're charging you for it!)]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 16:31:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935327&title=what-do-you-think#935327 <![CDATA[What do you think? : Your child your rules. Tell them...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935321&title=what-do-you-think#935321 Author: SMoody
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 4:29pm

Your child your rules. Tell them straight off that that is not on and that he should be offered his food at afternoon tea. ]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 16:29:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935321&title=what-do-you-think#935321 <![CDATA[What do you think? : That&#039;s really bad! I totally...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935320&title=what-do-you-think#935320 Author: arohanui
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 4:28pm

That's really bad! I totally agree that he's already been 'punished' by the natural consequences of having no lunch.

I would not be happy at all and would be having serious words to the daycare staff/management.]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 16:28:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935320&title=what-do-you-think#935320 <![CDATA[What do you think? : NO WAY - and that lunch sounds...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935318&title=what-do-you-think#935318 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 4:27pm

NO WAY - and that lunch sounds awful! Ours always has cooked lunch....heck that is terrible!

also the afternoon tea tops them up - esp those who dont eat well at lunch Im guessing so punishing them by food restrictions is not good at all! ALso there should be alternatives for lunch - we have a halal / vegetarian one and a sandwich option at ours (so yes she has had a few marmite sandwiches at different stages for lunch!LOL!) but never been refused the afternoon tea etc!!!

talk to the owner / manager and see what is going on....one food wise and two re the punishment. ]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 16:27:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935318&title=what-do-you-think#935318 <![CDATA[What do you think? : Im sorry but that is bad IMO I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935312&title=what-do-you-think#935312 Author: becky
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 4:24pm

Im sorry but that is bad IMO I am just in the process of putting DS in daycare and if they told me that they did not give him afternoon tea due to him refusing lunch I would pull him out!!
One thing children know is when they are hungry DS refuses to eat and I usually dont offer him something else straight away but will try again in half to an hour later.
Day care should also do this esp with all the playing they do, and they probably dont get to graze as much as they may do at home.]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 16:24:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935312&title=what-do-you-think#935312 <![CDATA[What do you think? : If a child refuses to eat their...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935301&title=what-do-you-think#935301 Author: Jay_R
Subject: 31608
Posted: 12 February 2010 at 4:18pm

If a child refuses to eat their lunch at daycare (same meal as all the other children), should they then be punished by not being allowed afternoon tea?

I'm having huge issues with my son's daycare, and today I was informed that because he turned his nose up at lunch (two minute noodles, luncheon and mixed veges) he would not be offered afternoon tea. I'm fuming, as the thought of my little man not getting any food in his tummy since 9.30am this morning just breaks my heart. I actually don't blame him for refusing to eat that crappy meal!! I would too.

What do you ladies think? Should I be making an issue out of this, or are they doing the right thing?

ETA: I believe that he's already been punished by not having anything to eat for lunch, and that witholding afternoon tea as well is double punishing for one crime so to speak.

Edited by joshierocks]]> Fri, 12 Feb 2010 16:18:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31608&PID=935301&title=what-do-you-think#935301