OHbaby! Forums : GRRR social workers! https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 07 May 2026 20:25:25 +0000 Sat, 06 Feb 2010 08:34:39 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=31383 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : freckle wrote:I think it is...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926554&title=grrr-social-workers#926554 Author: Peanut
Subject: 31383
Posted: 06 February 2010 at 8:34am

Originally posted by freckle freckle wrote:

I think it is a little irresponsible for any of us to be suggesting you ditch the social worker to be honest. It sounds like, from what you have said regarding your issues with depression and the type of service you are receiving, that maybe the social worker is concerned you are entering a high risk time (with regards to your depression) with all the stresses of pregnancy and a newborn and is trying (maybe not in the most appropriate way) to help you sort a more accessible preschool to take some of the strain off you. Social services are so often limited and I don't believe they would keep providing a service unless they felt it was warrented. I think maybe requesting a change of social worker or a meeting with her and her supervisor to discuss boundaries maybe a better idea.


Agreed! And you put it so much nicer that I could. I have written and deleted a couple of posts like you have written but I just couldn't get them worded right.]]> Sat, 06 Feb 2010 08:34:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926554&title=grrr-social-workers#926554 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : I agree with freckle & after reading...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926523&title=grrr-social-workers#926523 Author: jazzy
Subject: 31383
Posted: 06 February 2010 at 8:04am

I agree with freckle & after reading the posts that were deleted (before they were deleted) my previous views have changed. I think you & your DH need to sit down & discuss the issues with all involved as it looks like a SW has been assigned to you & your family for good reasons.

I understand how stressful it is being pg & with baby due soon & having other children, but the SW is there to make sure all is right with the children & reading between the lines I think she is looking out for them.

I wish you all the best for you new arrival & I definitely would put a child into a center as it will give him a great experience & gives you a break. ]]> Sat, 06 Feb 2010 08:04:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926523&title=grrr-social-workers#926523 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : I think it is a little irresponsible...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926509&title=grrr-social-workers#926509 Author: freckle
Subject: 31383
Posted: 06 February 2010 at 7:37am

I think it is a little irresponsible for any of us to be suggesting you ditch the social worker to be honest. It sounds like, from what you have said regarding your issues with depression and the type of service you are receiving, that maybe the social worker is concerned you are entering a high risk time (with regards to your depression) with all the stresses of pregnancy and a newborn and is trying (maybe not in the most appropriate way) to help you sort a more accessible preschool to take some of the strain off you. Social services are so often limited and I don't believe they would keep providing a service unless they felt it was warrented. I think maybe requesting a change of social worker or a meeting with her and her supervisor to discuss boundaries maybe a better idea.

Edited by freckle]]> Sat, 06 Feb 2010 07:37:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926509&title=grrr-social-workers#926509 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : yes we have caller Id thats how...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926350&title=grrr-social-workers#926350 Author: Tastic
Subject: 31383
Posted: 05 February 2010 at 10:09pm

yes we have caller Id thats how I know its her ]]> Fri, 05 Feb 2010 22:09:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926350&title=grrr-social-workers#926350 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Umm has this lady got a boss /...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926341&title=grrr-social-workers#926341 Author: Blankney94
Subject: 31383
Posted: 05 February 2010 at 10:01pm

Umm has this lady got a boss / supervisor?  She needs to be told to "back off".  Her job is to make things easier for you - not harder.  Sounds like it's bordering on harassment, and certainly very unprofessional of her to be calling anyone names. 

BTW - I love my caller ID - have you got that?

]]> Fri, 05 Feb 2010 22:01:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926341&title=grrr-social-workers#926341 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : lol Kelly, Ill make time to do...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926305&title=grrr-social-workers#926305 Author: Tastic
Subject: 31383
Posted: 05 February 2010 at 9:47pm

lol Kelly, Ill make time to do it! just it completely slipped my mind after the hospital today]]> Fri, 05 Feb 2010 21:47:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926305&title=grrr-social-workers#926305 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Tastic wrote:unfortunately...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926191&title=grrr-social-workers#926191 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 31383
Posted: 05 February 2010 at 8:53pm

Originally posted by Tastic Tastic wrote:

unfortunately I was busy today with my hospital appointment and monitoring etc. will ring first thing on monday


pfft , doubt it , you'll be busy with Adele who will be born sometime in the next ten hours ]]> Fri, 05 Feb 2010 20:53:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926191&title=grrr-social-workers#926191 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Lol your post has it now Bizzy...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926155&title=grrr-social-workers#926155 Author: flakesitchyfeet
Subject: 31383
Posted: 05 February 2010 at 8:36pm

Lol your post has it now Bizzy

I agree with the others. If they are causing more pain then good sack em!]]> Fri, 05 Feb 2010 20:36:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926155&title=grrr-social-workers#926155 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : unfortunately I was busy today...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926130&title=grrr-social-workers#926130 Author: Tastic
Subject: 31383
Posted: 05 February 2010 at 8:21pm

unfortunately I was busy today with my hospital appointment and monitoring etc. will ring first thing on monday]]> Fri, 05 Feb 2010 20:21:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926130&title=grrr-social-workers#926130 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Have you called them yet ? how...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926060&title=grrr-social-workers#926060 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 31383
Posted: 05 February 2010 at 7:50pm


Have you called them yet ? how did you get on ? ]]> Fri, 05 Feb 2010 19:50:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926060&title=grrr-social-workers#926060 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : high risk lol right ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926004&title=grrr-social-workers#926004 Author: Tastic
Subject: 31383
Posted: 05 February 2010 at 7:21pm

high risk lol


right]]> Fri, 05 Feb 2010 19:21:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=926004&title=grrr-social-workers#926004 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Edited by Bizzy ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=925908&title=grrr-social-workers#925908 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 31383
Posted: 05 February 2010 at 5:56pm



Edited by Bizzy]]> Fri, 05 Feb 2010 17:56:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=925908&title=grrr-social-workers#925908 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : .....Edited by Tastic ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=925874&title=grrr-social-workers#925874 Author: Tastic
Subject: 31383
Posted: 05 February 2010 at 5:27pm

.....

Edited by Tastic]]> Fri, 05 Feb 2010 17:27:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=925874&title=grrr-social-workers#925874 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Every hospital I have worked in...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=925852&title=grrr-social-workers#925852 Author: jazzy
Subject: 31383
Posted: 05 February 2010 at 5:18pm

Every hospital I have worked in has SW, they provide a fantastic service when needed.

But this one does not sound like a hospital one as she is not very understanding & supportive towards your pregnancy.



]]> Fri, 05 Feb 2010 17:18:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=925852&title=grrr-social-workers#925852 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Yeah, we were offered a social...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=925808&title=grrr-social-workers#925808 Author: kebakat
Subject: 31383
Posted: 05 February 2010 at 4:40pm

Yeah, we were offered a social worker when I had Jared.. I said no, DH said yes to a couple of chats with them]]> Fri, 05 Feb 2010 16:40:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=925808&title=grrr-social-workers#925808 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : SW&#039;s are made available for...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=925265&title=grrr-social-workers#925265 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 31383
Posted: 05 February 2010 at 11:25am

SW's are made available for a number of reasons when you are discharged after high risk births - to access services, to access benefits, for counselling, child mother relationships, learning disabilites , loads of reasons - they are supposed to just facilitate relationships between the families and the services and help when they can.

They are not anything to do with CYFS]]> Fri, 05 Feb 2010 11:25:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=925265&title=grrr-social-workers#925265 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Where is the sw from? Was she...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=925120&title=grrr-social-workers#925120 Author: jazzy
Subject: 31383
Posted: 05 February 2010 at 9:57am

Where is the sw from? Was she appointed by Child & Family? Is it up to you to decide if you no longer need them or do they decide that.

Sorry if I sound nosey but I don't understand why you need a sw as a result of nicu.

I still think you should have a word with her supervisor. ]]> Fri, 05 Feb 2010 09:57:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=925120&title=grrr-social-workers#925120 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : oh honey dont take offence, Im...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924652&title=grrr-social-workers#924652 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 8:32pm

oh honey dont take offence, Im sure peanut didnt mean in it in your head, but that the rough pregnancy you have had is enough to try the patiene of a saint - Im sure we are all less tolerant when we are over being uncomfy and just want out babes out - and that social worker would trip anyones buttons

Take care - not long to go now

Edited by Raspberryjam]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 20:32:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924652&title=grrr-social-workers#924652 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Peanut wrote:I would write...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924645&title=grrr-social-workers#924645 Author: Tastic
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 8:28pm

Originally posted by Peanut Peanut wrote:

I would write a letter but be aware that if they believe that you still require there services you can't always get out of it but can request another social worker.

Its not my business and don't want to cause offence but you seem to have issues with alot of the people around you i.e MW, Social Worker, WINZ staff etc so maybe the expectations vs reality of what is happening is out of kilter at the mo as it always can be when you are pregnant.
I may be thinking this is out of line since my hormones are so out of wack lately. but since its not just me feeling this about the social worker at the moment I know it isnt 'all in my head' kwim?

I certainly have few contacts I can get ahold of and now I know its ok to ask for help from someone like a social worker etc I will do so after this pregnancy
I personally think at this time Im at a point I don't need/want her around. she just makes me feel bad and I always dread her coming over. I think for my mental state Im better off without her or all this
]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 20:28:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924645&title=grrr-social-workers#924645 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : OMG - we had one of those - i...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924637&title=grrr-social-workers#924637 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 8:23pm

OMG - we had one of those - i think they are used to people who wont help themselves (not that everyone who has been in picu or nicu is like that)
and so they come over all pushy like you dont have a brain in your body

Tell her to piss off, do you even need one tastic, sounds like you know the ropes, and Im sure by now you have relationships with all the people you need to access thorugh the hospital

and the mum thing um well - and schooling - well Id best not write that on here - Im sure your doing your job - but she isnt!!

Complain til your blue in the face love - she is way out of line]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 20:23:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924637&title=grrr-social-workers#924637 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : I would write a letter but be...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924587&title=grrr-social-workers#924587 Author: Peanut
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 7:56pm

I would write a letter but be aware that if they believe that you still require there services you can't always get out of it but can request another social worker.

Its not my business and don't want to cause offence but you seem to have issues with alot of the people around you i.e MW, Social Worker, WINZ staff etc so maybe the expectations vs reality of what is happening is out of kilter at the mo as it always can be when you are pregnant.]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 19:56:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924587&title=grrr-social-workers#924587 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : I&#039;ve decided to write a letter...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924276&title=grrr-social-workers#924276 Author: Tastic
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 3:26pm

I've decided to write a letter and say we no longer require there services.
she use to come over every week, then fortnightly and at that time it was good as I had hit an all time low with my depression. now I am polite when I talk to her however the last few weeks Ive been quite 'short' with her. hubby wont even talk to her unless like yesterday he answers the phone and it's her

I guess she's felt I still need her. she has always picked up something Im doing wrong or always commenting on how naughty the boys are etc
so yeah will write an discharge myself from there services]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 15:26:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924276&title=grrr-social-workers#924276 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Sounds like she is really blurring...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924273&title=grrr-social-workers#924273 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 3:25pm

Sounds like she is really blurring the lines between professionalism and "friendship " .
She is creating extra stress you don't need,definetly complain to someone !!!! ]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 15:25:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924273&title=grrr-social-workers#924273 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Definitely complain! She&#039;s...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924262&title=grrr-social-workers#924262 Author: EmDee
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 3:16pm

Definitely complain! She's sounds terrible, and putting extra stress on you at this time is so not on.]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 15:16:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924262&title=grrr-social-workers#924262 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Yeah I&#039;d complain!!! Name...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924152&title=grrr-social-workers#924152 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 1:58pm

Yeah I'd complain!!! Name calling is no good in any way shape or form!

Why have you had a social worker because you had a baby in NICU? Is that standard?]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 13:58:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924152&title=grrr-social-workers#924152 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : freckle wrote:How long do social...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924150&title=grrr-social-workers#924150 Author: lilfatty
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 1:57pm

Originally posted by freckle freckle wrote:

How long do social workers stay involved with families after having a child in NICU? If it's awhile I would request a change in social worker as you aren't feeling supported.


Thats what I was wondering ... its been years, why do you still have one, cant you just kick her to the curb?]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 13:57:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924150&title=grrr-social-workers#924150 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Doesn&#039;t sound like she is...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924127&title=grrr-social-workers#924127 Author: freckle
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 1:45pm

Doesn't sound like she is the right social worker for you guys! Maybe sometimes when they deal with really difficult families that are non-responsive they need to be rather pushy, and maybe she just hasn't worked when she needs to be and when to back off. How long do social workers stay involved with families after having a child in NICU? If it's awhile I would request a change in social worker as you aren't feeling supported. ]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 13:45:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924127&title=grrr-social-workers#924127 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Just a question (and I hope this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924079&title=grrr-social-workers#924079 Author: surfergirl
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 1:17pm

Just a question (and I hope this comes out the right way)...are you  'nice' person?  What I mean is - are you nice to her face and polite and nod etc, but secretly you're wanting to rip her head off? Because, whether you mean to or not, you might be sending her mixed messages...

She sounds like a nut job tho - and even if you're being nice and she's not getting the message, I do think you should complain, esp. about the name calling and making you feel like a bad mum. That's just not on!

From what I've read on here lately you've really had enough - this 'support person' is not offering any support - so should just p!ss off!

Hope your wee lady comes soon!



Edited by surfergirl]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 13:17:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924079&title=grrr-social-workers#924079 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : yep i would speak to her supervisor...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924021&title=grrr-social-workers#924021 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 12:26pm

yep i would speak to her supervisor and it might be a good idea to keep the texts and the record of the calls she made to you as well.    she sounds like one of those women who dont have kids but works in a child related industry!]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 12:26:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924021&title=grrr-social-workers#924021 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : ohh and when we told her we were...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924016&title=grrr-social-workers#924016 Author: Tastic
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 12:24pm

ohh and when we told her we were having a baby she was like ohh your crazy, how are you going to cope blah blah blah
yeah see why hubby doesn't like her. Ive only put up with it cause I thought she was helping us, but now Ive written it down I see how much she's not! and to an extent making my mood etc worse because when she leaves or I hang up from her I feel like a complete failure as a mum ]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 12:24:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924016&title=grrr-social-workers#924016 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Thanks everyone. I thought she...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924009&title=grrr-social-workers#924009 Author: Tastic
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 12:21pm

Thanks everyone. I thought she was being a bit over the top. and the last few days has really proved it.
forgot to say she said yesterday afternoon when I was home but I told hubby I didn't want to talk to her. he told her and I quote 'you know she had hospital today and that she didnt know how long she would be, (she said something at this point to which hubby said) yes I have spoken to her and she is still there as she was having contractions which were showing on the monitor' and then he hung up

now you would think she would take that as a sign or something that IM HAVING A BABY SOON! ]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 12:21:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=924009&title=grrr-social-workers#924009 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : I would talk to her supervisor...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=923992&title=grrr-social-workers#923992 Author: jazzy
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 12:07pm

I would talk to her supervisor & ask for it to be explained to her that you are having a baby & she is stressing you out.

]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 12:07:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=923992&title=grrr-social-workers#923992 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Complain!! I don&#039;t know...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=923963&title=grrr-social-workers#923963 Author: kebakat
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 11:45am

Complain!!

I don't know how you could have put up with it for so long and not told her to piss off! lol I wouldn't be that paitent]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 11:45:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=923963&title=grrr-social-workers#923963 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Oh yeah I&#039;d definitely be...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=923945&title=grrr-social-workers#923945 Author: .Mel
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 11:37am

Oh yeah I'd definitely be complaining to someone, either by phone or written! Sounds to me like shes alittle obsessed with you and your kids.. also sounds very strange that she is being so pushy about everything. Calling DH names etc is a bit off too.. so yeah take it further.. Shes causing you undue stress too, which is not helpful with baby coming along soon.

]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 11:37:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=923945&title=grrr-social-workers#923945 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Seems a little OTT to me. ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=923938&title=grrr-social-workers#923938 Author: lilfatty
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 11:33am

Seems a little OTT to me. ]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 11:33:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=923938&title=grrr-social-workers#923938 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : Umm yeah that&#039;s pretty much...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=923931&title=grrr-social-workers#923931 Author: Bobbie
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 11:28am

Umm yeah that's pretty much harassment. It's the kind of behaviour I'd expect from someone trying to enlist me in a cult.

I'd have a word to her supervisor to get her to ease off.]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 11:28:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=923931&title=grrr-social-workers#923931 <![CDATA[GRRR social workers! : since Ive been out of nicu we...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=923923&title=grrr-social-workers#923923 Author: Tastic
Subject: 31383
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 11:22am

since Ive been out of nicu we hve had this social worker, usually she is ok and help ful, but the last few months shes been really rude and pushy.
this past week she has rung me daily trying to get me to go to this flippen preschool around the corner (5 minute walk max) every flippen day I tell her I have monitoring at the hospital and I don't know how long its going to be (its varied from 30minutes to 5 hours)
I said to her I have have an induction date of next wednesday so what did she say, ohh ok Ill book you in for a vist at 9am. Im like ILL BE IN HOSPITAL she said ohh ok Ill ring you about 9 then. I said umm they are breaking my waters about 8am so the last thing I want to be doing is chatting on the phone! GRRR she rang the next day and said ohh Ive booked you in for a visit at home on wedesday at 1pm ARGH honestly this flippen woman! I just said ok but I won't be there. she was like why? I said BECAUSE ILL BE IN THE HOSPITAL HAVING THIS BABY
fast forward to yesterday after he ringing me every flippen day. she rings my cell phone 4 times one after another (I couldnt reach my phone being at the hospital on the monitors and all) I then get told off as I hadnt turned it down and I keep letting it ring. (then the midwife realised I couldnt actually reach it!)
the social worker then text me 3 times and rang my home phone another 4 times - last time jamie answered it and he said he told her to leave me alone
now she's rung me 3 times already this morning
and whats it for
to take me to the flippen preschool over the way - like I said 5 minute walk
I said to her I will go myself and check it out, I dont need to be taken, but nope she doesn't get it, she keeps ringing me trying to take me to this flippen preschool - because she wants to check its ok for the boys - umm hello Im there bloody mother thats my job
ARGH why won't she just get the hint!

so question, am I in the wrong for wanting to complain about her? hubby's told me too
she is also very rude to him and calls him some nasty names. she even told me Im a bad mum who lets my walks walk all over me (because I couldn't pick up aidan to put him in timeout) ]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 11:22:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31383&PID=923923&title=grrr-social-workers#923923