https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 08 May 2026 06:38:04 +0000 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 09:18:10 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=31310 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=933438&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#933438 Author: mummyofprinces
Subject: 31310
Posted: 11 February 2010 at 9:18am

Jeepers thats a bit harsh... nice friend!]]> Thu, 11 Feb 2010 09:18:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=933438&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#933438 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=933436&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#933436 Author: mummyofprinces
Subject: 31310
Posted: 11 February 2010 at 9:16am

Jeepers thats a bit harsh... nice friend!]]> Thu, 11 Feb 2010 09:16:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=933436&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#933436 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=928593&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#928593 Author: Maya
Subject: 31310
Posted: 07 February 2010 at 8:54pm

I was only 7 weeks when I miscarried our angel baby, but she's still very much in my mind, and altho I don't usually point it out to people when we are talking about numbers of children, most of my friends are very aware of our angel baby (I didn't cope very well afterwards ).

Altho having the gremlins evened the odds somewhat - I got two babies for the one pregnancy ]]> Sun, 07 Feb 2010 20:54:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=928593&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#928593 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=925365&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#925365 Author: Emmi_
Subject: 31310
Posted: 05 February 2010 at 12:25pm

Shellgirl Im the same, I try to be open about our MC as Im sure there are many other there who feel so alone by the whole process, and even raising awareness for others (since Im the first one of my friends to have a baby, even the first one of my family (and Im the youngest!)) so that they know it happens and that if it does happen to them that I am here and I can talk about it.

Gosh Jessiesmum, that is horrible!! What a B with an itch!]]> Fri, 05 Feb 2010 12:25:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=925365&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#925365 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=925020&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#925020 Author: jessiesmum
Subject: 31310
Posted: 05 February 2010 at 8:54am

Congratulations Shellgirl! It's funny how a subsequent pregnancy almost gives you permission to tell people about your miscarriage, I've been the same.

I guess I'm quite sensitive about it as my EDD was next week. I'm still trying to think of a way to deal with her comments, other than deleting them off Facebook. I don't think she saw it as a loss as she was also carrying a healthy baby. It was one of those incidental findings on her nuchal fold scan. It might have been more of a loss to her if she had been hoping for/expecting to see twins.

Edited by jessiesmum]]> Fri, 05 Feb 2010 08:54:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=925020&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#925020 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=924876&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#924876 Author: shellgirl
Subject: 31310
Posted: 05 February 2010 at 5:53am

You would think someone who had had a loss would understand how hurtfull that repsonse could be (regardless of the circumstances of that loss).

I am 12 weeks with my 2nd pregnancy and lost the first at 8.5 weeks. As we tell people about this one, I almost always tell them about the one we lost last year. It's really important to me to acknowledge my angel as otherwise it makes me feel as I should be ashamed of it. I haven't had any negative reactions to telling about it, and in fact many people then feel comfortable to share there own mc stories.

]]> Fri, 05 Feb 2010 05:53:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=924876&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#924876 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=924844&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#924844 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 31310
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 11:03pm

well not much of a friend then ...      thats a bit callous!]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 23:03:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=924844&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#924844 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=924693&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#924693 Author: FreeSpirit
Subject: 31310
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 8:52pm

I think if somebody responded like that, I would simply state that if she loved, cherished and wanted her blighted ovum to hold in her arms, and to grow up to be a beautiful person, then Yes, she should feel the same way.]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 20:52:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=924693&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#924693 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=924634&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#924634 Author: jessiesmum
Subject: 31310
Posted: 04 February 2010 at 8:21pm

Well, I corrected someone today and another friend said that if I counted a miscarriage as my second baby then maybe she should count a blighted ovum they found when they scanned her with one of her children. OUCH!! And she wasn't saying this in a sympathetic way. I am so shocked!! The worst thing was that she posted it on my Facebook page..]]> Thu, 04 Feb 2010 20:21:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=924634&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#924634 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=920759&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#920759 Author: mummyofprinces
Subject: 31310
Posted: 02 February 2010 at 12:08am

I correct people.. if they ask if J is my first I tell them no we lost our first..

]]> Tue, 02 Feb 2010 00:08:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=920759&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#920759 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=920754&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#920754 Author: maudie23
Subject: 31310
Posted: 01 February 2010 at 11:36pm

I also correct people, I don't say anthing about my two very early mc but when it comes to the amount of children I have.

I always say, I have a Daughter, Son & another Son on the way.
They then ask about ages and I say, Anika would have been ..... however she passed away and then that normally answers the question.

I hate it when people forget about Anika. Makes me so mad, she is and always will be my first born and nothing will take that away from her.

Good luck and so sorry to hear about your loss]]> Mon, 01 Feb 2010 23:36:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=920754&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#920754 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=920321&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#920321 Author: FreeSpirit
Subject: 31310
Posted: 01 February 2010 at 6:58pm

I correct people - This is my first child, but my first pregnancy gave me an angel.]]> Mon, 01 Feb 2010 18:58:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=920321&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#920321 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=920087&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#920087 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 31310
Posted: 01 February 2010 at 3:56pm

you could always correct them and say well actually its my third pregnancy...

Edited by Bizzy]]> Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:56:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=920087&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#920087 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=920003&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#920003 Author: jessiesmum
Subject: 31310
Posted: 01 February 2010 at 3:04pm

Ok this might be a bit odd because I have a fantastic 2 year old daughter and am 22 weeks pregnant. But last June I had a miscarriage and I was devastated! Luckily we conceived very quickly (we have had fertility issues) with this baby but I'm surprised how sad I still feel as I approach his/hers EDD.
The odd bit is that I feel like I'm not giving my lost baby it's due when people talk about me having number 2.
Does anyone else feel the same way and how do you deal with it? ]]> Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:04:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31310&PID=920003&title=when-number-2-is-really-number-3#920003