https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 18 Apr 2026 06:27:24 +0000 Fri, 21 Aug 2009 11:40:23 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=28171 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=753251&title=toddler-and-new-baby#753251 Author: sunshine
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Posted: 21 August 2009 at 11:40am

all great ideas and very helpful thanks. i guess the only thing holding me back right now is i had a c section so am stuck at home. cant pick her up for cuddles, take her to the park or drive yet! arghhh!
but am def trying to give her as much attention as possible! ]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 11:40:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=753251&title=toddler-and-new-baby#753251 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=751075&title=toddler-and-new-baby#751075 Author: cuppatea
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Posted: 18 August 2009 at 9:32pm

Yeah that is a good point Monikah. We often split up and one will stay home with Kyle and whichever of us is running an errand will take Spencer with us. He loves going out and he gets a bit of one on one at the same time, even if it is just to go to the supermarket, or better still to mitre 10 with daddy then they are gone for ages.]]> Tue, 18 Aug 2009 21:32:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=751075&title=toddler-and-new-baby#751075 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=751064&title=toddler-and-new-baby#751064 Author: monikah
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Posted: 18 August 2009 at 9:23pm

i havent been in this situation ut my neighbour has just had her 2nd baby and her other child is just turned 2. she did things like leave the new baby with her husband between feeds and take her other child to the park, or out places alone as well as doing things tgether such as helping out. i think its a great idea to get older kids to help with stuff but from what i have seen they definitly still need mum or dad only time too]]> Tue, 18 Aug 2009 21:23:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=751064&title=toddler-and-new-baby#751064 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=751045&title=toddler-and-new-baby#751045 Author: cuppatea
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Posted: 18 August 2009 at 9:12pm

hahaha Nikki I should pull up that thread of mine where you reckoned Tom was already a terrible 2, nope he wasn't, now he is ]]> Tue, 18 Aug 2009 21:12:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=751045&title=toddler-and-new-baby#751045 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=751033&title=toddler-and-new-baby#751033 Author: peanut butter
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Posted: 18 August 2009 at 9:03pm

I think its a 2 year old thing. My two have been fine (17 months between them) and until recently Tom as loved giving James cuddles and finding toys for him. In the last week or so I have noticed a change. There is evil coming through and a lot of "mine!" ]]> Tue, 18 Aug 2009 21:03:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=751033&title=toddler-and-new-baby#751033 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=750656&title=toddler-and-new-baby#750656 Author: hailstones
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Posted: 18 August 2009 at 2:52pm

Sunshine - I have a (nearly) 2 1/2 year old and a 6 week old and we have been going through (to a certain degree) the same thing.

I agree with sometimes making sure she comes 1st, not always but just sometimes. If bubs is down in bed and she's awake do some fun things with her. I also read stories to Elle while I am feeding Brodie (like cuppatea does). And definately include her in things you do. Elle often helps me bath Brodie - we do end up with way more of a mess than if I did it all by myself but meh - it can always be cleaned up later.

Recently we have introduced a sticker chart for the potty and good behaviour. When its all full she is getting her very own goldfish, she is very excited about that, so we talk about that alot - especially when she is grumpy as it gives her something positive to think about.

Also Elle is definately in the terrible 2's stage where she will push my buttons and seems to do it more when I am really really tired (they do pick up on that - and sometimes play on it), perhaps theres a bit of that going on for you too.]]> Tue, 18 Aug 2009 14:52:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=750656&title=toddler-and-new-baby#750656 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=750515&title=toddler-and-new-baby#750515 Author: Bizzy
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Posted: 18 August 2009 at 1:33pm

also letting her know she is important still by letting her needs come first sometimes... ]]> Tue, 18 Aug 2009 13:33:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=750515&title=toddler-and-new-baby#750515 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=750506&title=toddler-and-new-baby#750506 Author: cuppatea
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Posted: 18 August 2009 at 1:28pm

Yeah Spencer was younger too (19 months) but I think inclusion is the key. Get her to help with changing nappies, picking out clothes for the baby to wear. Say things like "shall we put the baby to bed" and get her to come with you (if you can, not always practically if baby is very little and needs lots of settling) might work better with getting baby back up.
And yep one on one is very important (although some days it's impossible). One of the things I would do is read to Spencer whilst feeding Kyle and even when Kyle was awake I would sit with him in his swing and me on the floor and play with Spencer so my attention was on Spencer and Kyle was watching us.
It does get easier, and it's all worth it once they start interacting, my two are as thick as thieves already and the main problem I have now is stopping Spencer from going and waking Kyle up cos he wants to play.]]> Tue, 18 Aug 2009 13:28:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=750506&title=toddler-and-new-baby#750506 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=750414&title=toddler-and-new-baby#750414 Author: xLUCKYx
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Posted: 18 August 2009 at 12:12pm

Hi Sunshine,

How old is your new bub?

I think toddlers just love to be important so as much as you can, involve her. Gabrielle was a bit younger when Tane was born so maybe less 'threatened' but she has gone through a few awful clingy stages and I think you may just have to nurture that unwanted behaviour away by giving her as much positive attention as you can. Also I know it's really hard but if you can get some 1-1 special time each day with your daughter it will certainly help.

Good luck!]]> Tue, 18 Aug 2009 12:12:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=750414&title=toddler-and-new-baby#750414 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=750358&title=toddler-and-new-baby#750358 Author: sunshine
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Posted: 18 August 2009 at 11:24am

i have just had my second baby and have a 2 year old daughter. normally she is a very sweet lovely little girl who is always happy. in the last few days she has just turned into this horrible crying, screaming, tantrum attention seeking child.
It is so awful to watch and really difficult to deal with. I realise she is feeling insecure about the arrival of the new baby ...
wondering if any who have been or are in this situation have any tips or advice!?....... ]]> Tue, 18 Aug 2009 11:24:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28171&PID=750358&title=toddler-and-new-baby#750358