OHbaby! Forums : How do you calm your child https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 21 Apr 2026 00:35:58 +0000 Thu, 05 Feb 2009 19:03:42 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=24249 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : we&#039;re trying the &#039;leave...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=607086&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#607086 Author: MissAngel
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Posted: 05 February 2009 at 7:03pm

we're trying the 'leave him to it' trick tonight to see how he goes. he's done 30 mins of screaming, so i'll see how mental I go before i get him up.]]> Thu, 05 Feb 2009 19:03:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=607086&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#607086 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : No no, just me.. stuff how he...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=606442&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#606442 Author: MissAngel
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Posted: 05 February 2009 at 9:16am

No no, just me.. stuff how he feels, he goes to bed and goes to sleep at his normal time and doesnt get woken up :)
3am we decided that waking up was a good idea. ]]> Thu, 05 Feb 2009 09:16:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=606442&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#606442 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : maybe try a radio in his room...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=606316&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#606316 Author: kezplanet
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Posted: 05 February 2009 at 12:40am

maybe try a radio in his room so there is a constant noise, I still have one in the girls room as its very quiet out here and if there are any loud noises its usually quite startled, we did this right from when we moved out from hornby (used to be lots of night time noise, specially cars racing round at 2am) so thought it may comfort Ashlyn a bit as she was 18mths at the time.

Cant think of anything else but feel sorry for you & dh you must both be bug**red

]]> Thu, 05 Feb 2009 00:40:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=606316&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#606316 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : aren&#039;t children a JOY at...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=606312&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#606312 Author: caitlynsmygirl
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Posted: 05 February 2009 at 12:02am

aren't children a JOY at times ??
all the suggestions id have given for sleep have already been given, but my suggestion for your sanity , put him in the cot, let him scream and go outside , even for just a few minutes, so simple but sometimes the best thing .
Just remember to take your keys if you lock the door ...]]> Thu, 05 Feb 2009 00:02:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=606312&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#606312 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : Yup he has a night light. We&#039;ve...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=606275&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#606275 Author: MissAngel
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Posted: 04 February 2009 at 10:06pm

Yup he has a night light. We've always made a point of making his room a happy place for him - eg: 'Yay its thomas's room wow look at this bla bla bla' when we've gone in. He loves his room. ]]> Wed, 04 Feb 2009 22:06:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=606275&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#606275 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : I can sympathis completely, Oli...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=606227&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#606227 Author: MummyFreckle
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Posted: 04 February 2009 at 9:33pm

I can sympathis completely, Oli started doing something very similar at around 10mths and we have really only just got back into good sleeping habits now, after about a month of hard yakka sleep re-training.

Have you tried a night light? Is there something in his room that he doesnt like that is making him distressed about being in his bed, have a look around and see if there is anything that could seem scary to him. We still have to leave the hall light on for Oli. When we were away at Xmas it all turned to custard and he was waking 4-5 times a night and we were giving him a bottle to settle....it was a nightmare to break those habits...but it did happen eventually!!

Hang in there!

 

]]> Wed, 04 Feb 2009 21:33:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=606227&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#606227 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : He was awake til after midnight...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=606095&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#606095 Author: MissAngel
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Posted: 04 February 2009 at 8:17pm

He was awake til after midnight last night. He fell asleep twice and I put him back to bed but as soon as he was put on his matress he went mental. The performance is earlier this evening. He had an afternoon sleep for 1.5hours, but woke screaming and was put down at 6.30pm and screamed for a good hour. I've got him up after he started coughing from the screaming - i wont let him go like that for too long. So now he's on the lounge floor watching kittens destroy my house. Keeps drooping forward and rubbing his eyes cuz hes so tired, but I know as soon as I lay him down he'll start again.

See, this has all started happening since we were in Queenstown. He was sleeping in the lounge in a portacot there because it wouldnt fit in the bedroom, and as much as we tried to keep it as quiet as we could, we couldnt! ARGH I bet its a habit.]]> Wed, 04 Feb 2009 20:17:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=606095&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#606095 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : Keira was about this age and the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=605808&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#605808 Author: Daizy
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Posted: 04 February 2009 at 4:30pm

Keira was about this age and the only way to get her to sleep was to rock her in her pram. Was a pain because she totally forgot how to self settle and never had a day nap in her bed again. At night we used to hold her down and pat her untill she eventually fell asleep. Wasn't exactly ideal but it worked, we gradually eased off the patting and eventually she was sleeping on her own.

Good Luck, sounds like he's over tired - a hard one to overcome but I am sure if he is able to get some extra sleeps in the day he will be a lot easier to settle at night.]]> Wed, 04 Feb 2009 16:30:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=605808&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#605808 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : If this has only been happening...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=605801&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#605801 Author: Febgirl
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Posted: 04 February 2009 at 4:25pm

If this has only been happening for a short while I'd suggest it's just a phase that will pass, and do whatever it takes to get him to sleep - feed him, take him out of the cot into another room until he is calm etc. If this is a new thing and he's otherwise been a good self settler at bedtime then I wouldn't worry about forming 'bad' habits - just hang in there and ride out the phase!

]]> Wed, 04 Feb 2009 16:25:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=605801&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#605801 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : Hi Alex how did things go last...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=605680&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#605680 Author: kezplanet
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Posted: 04 February 2009 at 2:49pm

Hi Alex how did things go last night after he woke?  My girls dropped their day time sleep really early and also ended up sleeping on their tummies by themselves.  Saffron has said probably everything that I could come up with only other thing I would add is if Thomas doesnt want to sleep during the day, try and have some quite time while reading or just doing something really unstimulating and if you can you have that time with him so at least you are having a sort of a break also.  Also try and start his bedtime process earlier so he's not so over tired when he is getting put to bed, maybe read a book to him in there and have a wee something for him to play with so he relates it with being a happy place to be.  Then when he does wake in the night use the settling stuff ^^ like up there and don't engage with him at all - hard as it is and try to be as constant and calm as  you can even if your blood is boiling.  Hope things get better for you soon]]> Wed, 04 Feb 2009 14:49:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=605680&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#605680 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : Amberly Medical Centre was really...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=605585&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#605585 Author: peanut butter
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Posted: 04 February 2009 at 1:42pm

Amberly Medical Centre was really good too and free for under 6s.  Also the pharmacy there never charged for Pamol Rxs also.

 

Have you tried patting his bottom while he is on his tummy?  Or rubbing his back round and round.  I find my Tom loves this and I think its more the noise of my hand rubbing on the material that soothes him.

 

I agree with the others....he probably needs that day sleep again.  At that age we were still having 2 sleeps.

]]> Wed, 04 Feb 2009 13:42:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=605585&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#605585 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : I see your in Rangiora? We just...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=605299&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#605299 Author: IVFGirl1111
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Posted: 04 February 2009 at 8:51am

I see your in Rangiora? We just joint doctors in Belfast (got in straight away) and its FREE for kids and only $15 for adults - sweet!

Would you go to Belfast?]]> Wed, 04 Feb 2009 08:51:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=605299&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#605299 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : Haha guess what.. he&#039;s AWAKE!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=605201&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#605201 Author: MissAngel
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 10:42pm

Haha guess what.. he's AWAKE! *goes off on a murderous rampage* ]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:42:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=605201&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#605201 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : Unfortunatly there isnt room at...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=605053&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#605053 Author: MissAngel
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 8:10pm

Unfortunatly there isnt room at any of the other drs. When we moved here in 07 we had to wait til 08 to be able to even enroll for myself and hubby! ]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 20:10:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=605053&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#605053 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : At his age I think you might just...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=605040&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#605040 Author: busymum
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 7:58pm

At his age I think you might just have to ignore him until he falls asleep - no giving in - and hope that a night or two of that will break the habit. As for your dr's charges, have you rung around to see if you can get cheaper in your area?]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 19:58:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=605040&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#605040 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : If you want to visit a family...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=605005&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#605005 Author: busyissy
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 7:11pm

If you want to visit a family centre you don't need to go to plunket just ring the reception for the ph number. It might even be in the phone book, I just added that in because in Hamilton the Family centre is unlisted.
You definately have to work with your baby, I have quite a few friends who babies won't sleep unless they are on their tummies. And we quite often find Dom on his tummy too.
Good luck for tonight! ]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 19:11:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=605005&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#605005 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : Awesome thanks I&#039;ll try that,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604776&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604776 Author: MissAngel
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:00pm

Awesome thanks I'll try that, side sleeping doesnt work tho, he goes straight on his tummy :P
thomas has never had 12 hours sleep at night - usually 9-10 hours. But then he was having a morning sleep and an arvo one. I'll have to wait for the doctor thing - he's due for his 8 month check soon so it will have to be then (after pay day) Also we dont go to plunket :)]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 15:00:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604776&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604776 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : It sounds as if he is way over...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604673&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604673 Author: busyissy
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 1:04pm

It sounds as if he is way over tired and has forgotten how to go to sleep by himself. Im surprised he doesn't have a daytime nap especially if he is not getting 12hrs at night.
First, I would go to the doctor and have him checked out and make sure he doesn't have an ear infection or something else. Then I would try and reintroduce that daytime nap. It will be hard work as he is really tired and self-soothing is a learnt skill, so you are going to have to teach him how to do it again.
Heres what our family centre had us do with Dominic when he stopped sleeping (day and night) at 3 months old:
Establish a bedtime routine. Dom's is daytime lunch, nappy change, brush teeth, drink of water and a couple of stories. Just change that bit to suit your baby, Dom used to have a bottle but he is almost 2 now so bit different. Then place in cot on his side, facing wall with teddy bear and dummy. Initially, we would try and leave the room straight away and if he screamed (not grizzled) then we would go back in. Resettle him on his side (don't pick him up), and put a hand on his shoulder and a hand on his hip. Don't talk or make eye contact that way he knows it is not time to play. Once he is calm then quietly leave the room again. It is a long and drawn out process but it is gentle on bubs, especially if they are going through a attachement stage. Eventually, you will have to re-enter the room less and less and it will take a shorter amount of time to resettle him.
At night we would do the same thing.
if you have a family centre then I would definately recommend you go there, your plunket nurse should be able to give you the number for centre if not in ph book.
I don't envy you it is very hard when they are crying and not sleeping and you just don't know why. Take care ]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 13:04:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604673&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604673 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : Its at the doctors discretion...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604667&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604667 Author: MissAngel
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 1:01pm

Its at the doctors discretion as to wether they charge you or not. We pay $14 for him to go and then it will be $28 when he's 6. Friends of mine still pay full price for their baby. ]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 13:01:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604667&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604667 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : Are you paying for him to go to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604444&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604444 Author: SarahP08
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 9:48am

Are you paying for him to go to the doctor? I thought it was free for children under 6 to see the doctor in NZ. I've never paid for any of my visits (and we've been lots coz I'm paranoid )]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 09:48:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604444&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604444 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : Yea nah they dont. I tried that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604440&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604440 Author: MissAngel
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 9:42am

Yea nah they dont. I tried that when he was sick once before and I was super annoyed!
The sleep centre is aaaaages away from us, so i'm not too keen. He sleeps really well in the car so I dont want to take him and have really good things happen, then have it all ruined by sleeping in the car! He'll be alright i'm sure.]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 09:42:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604440&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604440 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : Have you thought about contacting...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604438&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604438 Author: freckle
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 9:37am

Have you thought about contacting the family centre? My sister saw them for sleep probs with her girl and they were fantastic!

... that is awful that you can't get account for your child to see the dr?! I thought most doctors were pretty good at allowing credit esp for children... ]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 09:37:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604438&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604438 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : Still in a foul mood this morning....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604392&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604392 Author: MissAngel
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 8:50am

Still in a foul mood this morning. He went to sleep around midnight last night after screaming himself to sleep. I just had to shut his door and let him go for it.
If he has got an ear infection he's buggered as we dont get paid for another 8 days. Doctor doesnt give credit. But I dont think it's that - he doesnt scream when you lie him down all the time. Thats the thing.


]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 08:50:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604392&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604392 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : Poor you that must be hard!! He&#039;s...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604328&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604328 Author: freckle
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 7:03am

Poor you that must be hard!! He's not getting much sleep if he's dropped his day time sleeps - I agree he sounds like he's getting overtired which can make it harder to get them to sleep!

Last week my daughter, who is normally pretty good at going to sleep, just wouldn't let me put her down and screamed her brains out... she appeared well e.g. no temp or anything. I took her to the dr the next day and she had an ear infection. They can show no signs at all unfortunately and of course would be most painful when lying down...

Just something to consider and rule out before trying any behavioural methods i.e. controlled crying type stuff...

Good luck!!! It must be sooo tiring for you too!!!]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 07:03:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604328&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604328 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : For a short term fix - try giving...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604303&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604303 Author: cat007
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Posted: 02 February 2009 at 11:03pm

For a short term fix - try giving him something to play with in bed thats quiet - ie book etc. Might distract him enough to not scream for you until he falls asleep. Dont give in and get him up or the pattern will continue - I know its really tough at this age. Try doing the same for an afternoon sleep too because it sounds like he is overtired. Let us know how you get on.]]> Mon, 02 Feb 2009 23:03:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604303&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604303 <![CDATA[How do you calm your child : When you&#039;re ready to murder...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604257&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604257 Author: MissAngel
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Posted: 02 February 2009 at 9:51pm

When you're ready to murder them when they've been screaming for hours?
This evening (same as last night, night before etc) Thomas has decided that he doesnt want to be in bed and that screaming until I give in and get him up is a great idea! Theres nothing wrong with him - clean bum, no temp, normal teething etc - he just doesnt want to be in bed.
The normal methods of shhing etc do not work - never have done. We've tried a bottle, cuddles, quiet talking and as soon as he goes back in his bed, the screaming starts again. We've had an awake child until midnight most nights.
He doesnt sleep during the day anymore, so it's not like he's actually had enough sleep - he gets put to bed at about 7 when he's so tired that he cant stay awake any longer and sleeps for around 1 hour and wakes again. I'm pretty over it - I dont get anything done during the day as it is!
Suggestions are welcome before I put him out for the garbage collection :D! ]]> Mon, 02 Feb 2009 21:51:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24249&PID=604257&title=how-do-you-calm-your-child#604257