OHbaby! Forums : Finding it hard to be a Mum today... https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 11 May 2026 21:35:38 +0000 Mon, 01 May 2006 22:41:37 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=2288 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Finding it hard to be a Mum today... : OH Nikki,u r so mean pmsl ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42882&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42882 Author: Xander&Harmony
Subject: 2288
Posted: 01 May 2006 at 10:41pm

OH Nikki,u r so mean pmsl

 

]]> Mon, 01 May 2006 22:41:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42882&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42882 <![CDATA[Finding it hard to be a Mum today... : Emma - glad to hear it isn&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42864&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42864 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 2288
Posted: 01 May 2006 at 9:31pm

Emma - glad to hear it isn't to much atm.. atleast you know it does get better! In the mean time, make the most of any help you can get!!!

And Jax - re: kids choking on leaves (or ANYTHING) you'll be surpised what they find! I can't wait until you have your babe and you discover the delights of an explorative little mongrel! ]]> Mon, 01 May 2006 21:31:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42864&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42864 <![CDATA[Finding it hard to be a Mum today... : Wow, thanks ladies! You guys are...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42597&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42597 Author: Maya
Subject: 2288
Posted: 01 May 2006 at 10:38am

Wow, thanks ladies! You guys are just so awesome! It really does help to know that I'm not the only one who feels like teh worst mother in the world some days.

Maya is much better today, she slept in my bed again last night, but slept ok, so tonight she will be back in her own bed for sure. And her temp is down, and she was bouncing around to Blues Clues not long ago, so hopefully that's a good sign too.

Janine - you hang in there too! I'm sure Miss Ayja will EVENTUALLY give in and crash out. Either that or she'll grow out of needing so much sleep and not be so grumpy when she's awake.

Maria - I totally agree - I didn't seem to notice getting up to feed Maya when she was newborn, but now I get soooo resentful at having to get up to her. I guess coz I know that she CAN sleep thru if she wants too.

Marlene - My brother in London sent me an email saying he hopes the twins are boys like him (he was such a full on kid, Denis the Menace had nothing on him). So I told him he could expect a baby in the post sometime before Christmas!]]> Mon, 01 May 2006 10:38:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42597&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42597 <![CDATA[Finding it hard to be a Mum today... : Big hugs, Emma! You can do...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42562&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42562 Author: daikini
Subject: 2288
Posted: 01 May 2006 at 8:17am

Big hugs, Emma!

You can do it! And we're all here for you to vent to when your family is driving you nuts!]]> Mon, 01 May 2006 08:17:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42562&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42562 <![CDATA[Finding it hard to be a Mum today... : Hope Maya had a better night Emma?...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42560&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42560 Author: deharn
Subject: 2288
Posted: 01 May 2006 at 8:13am

Hope Maya had a better night Emma? It's pretty tough being a mummy sometimes, and we wouldn't be human if we didn't get frustrated - we have all done it I am sure. (I know I have)

You are a great mummy, that's why you have been chosen to have twins because somebody somewhere knows you will be awesome.
As mumma's we just do what we have to do, we won't always get it right, not always feel like we can do it but we will and we do. ]]> Mon, 01 May 2006 08:13:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42560&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42560 <![CDATA[Finding it hard to be a Mum today... : Oh emma I so know the feeling....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42554&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42554 Author: k&jsmum
Subject: 2288
Posted: 30 April 2006 at 10:26pm

Oh emma I so know the feeling. And yep about the help from WINZ - its if you have twins and an older child under the age of 5. Cant remember how many hours it is but just give them a call and find out

Re the coping once they are here - well I told my friend yesterday that I was mailing a boy to her after Jaidyns poo thing lol.
But seriouly you will be fine. You just have to learn to take advantage of all offers of help and to ask for it is you need it.
Also i was reading an old treasures and they said to write a list of things you need doing (when the bubs are here) like the dishes or fold washing etc so when you get visitors and they ask if there is anything they can do you get them to pick something off the list to do and cross it off.
I thought that was a great idea and wish I had known when the boys were younger]]> Sun, 30 Apr 2006 22:26:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42554&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42554 <![CDATA[Finding it hard to be a Mum today... : Oh Janine just read your post...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42552&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42552 Author: AlyAyde
Subject: 2288
Posted: 30 April 2006 at 10:05pm

Oh Janine just read your post too. They can be brats sometimes aye. But dont you love em when they are asleep. ]]> Sun, 30 Apr 2006 22:05:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42552&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42552 <![CDATA[Finding it hard to be a Mum today... : Can I ask how she managed to inhale...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42551&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42551 Author: jax
Subject: 2288
Posted: 30 April 2006 at 10:05pm

Can I ask how she managed to inhale a leaf ?? I'm hoping it's a salad leaf rather than an outdoor leaf, ick LOL]]> Sun, 30 Apr 2006 22:05:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42551&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42551 <![CDATA[Finding it hard to be a Mum today... : Hey Emma. Big hugs. Maya will...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42549&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42549 Author: AlyAyde
Subject: 2288
Posted: 30 April 2006 at 10:04pm

Hey Emma. Big hugs. Maya will be right in a couple of days. While shes sick dont sweat the small stuff like house work etc. Have scrambled eggs or spaghetti for dinner. And when the twins arrive you will be awesome! Remember something just kicks in when your a new mum and you can go weeks with hardly any sleep. Now if i have one grotty night i feel like crap the next morning. I always wonder how i survived all those months when Jayde was sick.

]]> Sun, 30 Apr 2006 22:04:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42549&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42549 <![CDATA[Finding it hard to be a Mum today... : Yeah i think you should be able...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42540&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42540 Author: mum2paris
Subject: 2288
Posted: 30 April 2006 at 9:42pm

Yeah i think you should be able to qualify for something?

can totally relate to you was going to post the other day about the same thing, Ayja has decided that 1 sleep a day, of 1 hour is all good. then proceeds to spend the afternoon screaming away in her cot when she is clearly tired - no matter what i do nothing works, getting her up, feeding her, ensuring routine, leaving her till she;s really tired, leaving her to cry, resettling.. NOTHING

she then will sit in her highchair at dinner time and pretty much fall asleep - actually she DID fall asleep the other night. she was sleeping as i lifted her up and stuck her in bed but nooooo still she stood up and screamed. we then spend the night doing the same until she finally falls at about 10.30 lately leaving us to try and do housework, and anything else we have to. she full on choked the other night after inhaling aleaf also - leaving me trying frantically to get the leaf out of her windpipe for about 5 mins, all the time thinking that she would stop breathing. Paris is being a bit of a brat too and screams and yells and tantrums at nothing, bites, stomps, hits and is nasty, and it all just feels ick. I hate how i act, i hate how they act, i just want my happy healthy kids again.. and sleeeep.

Hang in there Emma. I can relate and feel for you as being preg and tired just makes everything so much worse and hard to handle.

Hope it all gets better for you.,

Edited by mum2paris]]> Sun, 30 Apr 2006 21:42:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42540&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42540 <![CDATA[Finding it hard to be a Mum today... : Hey Emma, just been reading old...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42537&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42537 Author: lizzle
Subject: 2288
Posted: 30 April 2006 at 9:02pm

Hey Emma, just been reading old treasures mags, Can you get some kind of help when the twins get here from WINZ? Like some nursing hours or something like that? ]]> Sun, 30 Apr 2006 21:02:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42537&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42537 <![CDATA[Finding it hard to be a Mum today... : Hey Emma - it&#039;s completely...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42531&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42531 Author: 3under3
Subject: 2288
Posted: 30 April 2006 at 8:37pm

Hey Emma - it's completely normal to feel overwhelmed when you're tired. Maybe Willie can have a night to look after her (or another family member) so you can have a full nights sleep?
You'll feel a whole lot better about it all in a week or two when you've both recovered and wonder why/how you felt like this.
The newborn twin stage doesn't last too long and you'll have a support network around you as well.
Are you taking multi vits yet? One thing that I do is have a handful of (wait for it ....) peanuts and raisins at lunch/afternoon tea when I'm tired and that gets me through the rest of the day. Women avoid these b/c we know they're fattening, but a handful when you're exhausted can't do any harm.
Rosie
]]> Sun, 30 Apr 2006 20:37:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42531&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42531 <![CDATA[Finding it hard to be a Mum today... : Emma... You will manage when the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42526&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42526 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 2288
Posted: 30 April 2006 at 8:31pm

Emma... You will manage when the twins are here, because you just have to. Hope that doesnt sound horrible, but I'm sure we all felt that way when we were preggers (altho, only with 1!!). Hope Maya feels better soon and you get a better sleep tonight ]]> Sun, 30 Apr 2006 20:31:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42526&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42526 <![CDATA[Finding it hard to be a Mum today... : your doing a fantastic job already...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42525&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42525 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 2288
Posted: 30 April 2006 at 8:28pm



your doing a fantastic job already emma, dont get discouraged]]> Sun, 30 Apr 2006 20:28:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42525&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42525 <![CDATA[Finding it hard to be a Mum today... : Big hugs to you Emma ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42520&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42520 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 2288
Posted: 30 April 2006 at 8:24pm

Big hugs to you Emma ]]> Sun, 30 Apr 2006 20:24:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42520&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42520 <![CDATA[Finding it hard to be a Mum today... : I just read Marlene&#039;s post...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42518&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42518 Author: Maya
Subject: 2288
Posted: 30 April 2006 at 8:20pm

I just read Marlene's post about her darling boys, and I have to say right about now I can so relate. Maya has a nasty case of tonsilitis, has had a fever now for 5 days, 4 trips to the doctor, the antibiotics *might* (touch wood) finally be working today, and I am just soooo tired.

I know it's not her fault that she's sick, and she's grumpy and needy, but it's so hard not to lose my temper when she cries inconsolably and won't tell me what I can do to fix it. Plus she's been sleeping in my bed (Willie's in the spare room) so I don't have to get up to her half a dozen times a night, but the flipside is that I don't get much sleep in between her grizzling and wriggling in her sleep. And I am still feeling revolting with morning sickness myself.

How on earth am I going to cope when the twins are here?]]> Sun, 30 Apr 2006 20:20:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2288&PID=42518&title=finding-it-hard-to-be-a-mum-today#42518