OHbaby! Forums : Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 09 Apr 2026 22:48:45 +0000 Mon, 01 Sep 2008 14:44:41 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=19345 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : Only the &#039;waiting to ttc&#039;...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=480403&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#480403 Author: Kellz
Subject: 19345
Posted: 01 September 2008 at 2:44pm

Only the 'waiting to ttc' thread on here plus one or two irl friends also, but no family know. I will probably tell lots of people as soon as I get a bfp tho, cos I probably wont be able to wait 12 weeks!]]> Mon, 01 Sep 2008 14:44:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=480403&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#480403 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : We just started ttc a week ago...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=480162&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#480162 Author: lizzzzie
Subject: 19345
Posted: 01 September 2008 at 10:42am

We just started ttc a week ago and it's a BIG secret. In fact, I think everyone will be really shocked as we've never made noise about wanting kids, in fact, we were the opposite! So it'll be interesting to see how they react... We've only told one family member (and her hubby) as she had a baby not too long ago so we wanted someone I could talk to about it if I had any questions, concerns etc. So hard keeping the secret though! We just don't want the added pressure of people asking. Ahh I hope it happens quickly! *touch wood fingers crossed toes crossed*!!!

Hence why I've joined the forum though, think I'll go nuts otherwsie!

Edited by lizzzzie]]> Mon, 01 Sep 2008 10:42:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=480162&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#480162 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : we are going to start TTC next...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=458944&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#458944 Author: _Soda_
Subject: 19345
Posted: 04 August 2008 at 12:35pm

we are going to start TTC next year and i am SOSOSO excited about it its crazy lol. My best friend knows and ill tell her EVERYTHING- coz were like that lol and ill need her support big time.. i think ill tell my sister but not the rest of the family. Id love to tell my mum but i think shell not be able to contain herself and blab to everyone lol. shes also the type to constantly ask about it..I love her to bits but just dont know if i could handle that.. so i might just say to her that we are going to TTC next year and leave it at that, maybe tell her as soon as we get a BFP and demand she doesnt tell the rest of the family.,.would be good to have her support from the beginning :) i know ill find it near impossible to not tell people but in a way i think it will be kinda cool to have a little secret for a while :)

]]> Mon, 04 Aug 2008 12:35:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=458944&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#458944 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : We didn&#039;t tell anyone either....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=457494&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#457494 Author: LJsmum
Subject: 19345
Posted: 02 August 2008 at 7:34pm

We didn't tell anyone either. just didn't want the pressure.

always said we would buy a house first then start trying. So that worked well.!!!

MIL was the hardest always dropping hints about wanting grandchildren. So i told her actually that i had gone off the pill 4 years earlier and it's taking a while... so lay off and she did!!

My mum and dad were teh only one's that really knew we were trying but other family didn't.

Next time don't think i'll tell people again don't want the pressure or comments. It may take a while and i try not to think about it. It will happen.

What really really annoys me ( slightly off topic) is the amount of people who ask :

"so when are you having the next one? " Implyig one is not good enough. We are so blessed to have a baby that having another will be another miracle.
Can't we just enjoy our first for a while???

rant over!!
]]> Sat, 02 Aug 2008 19:34:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=457494&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#457494 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : We haven&#039;t really told anybody,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=455254&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#455254 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 19345
Posted: 31 July 2008 at 6:14pm

We haven't really told anybody, only said we'll possibly try next year some time.

I get enough pressure as it is, and my instant reaction is usually to say we're not ready yet.

Doesn't help that the pressure is coming from my Dad and his partner's daughter is due in November. ]]> Thu, 31 Jul 2008 18:14:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=455254&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#455254 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : Zina - I have that niggling feeling...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=455139&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#455139 Author: minik8e
Subject: 19345
Posted: 31 July 2008 at 4:29pm

Zina - I have that niggling feeling as well (in fact DF and I have been talking about it today) but by the same token, most of the people that know we will be TTC know about my endo and stuff, so they know that it may not necessarily happen straight away....thankfully! DF is trying to be really positive about it and saying it will happen really quickly, whereas I'm not so positive. DF thought I was being horrible, until I explained to him today that if I think that way, I'm trying to protect myself from the pain if it actually does take longer (which is what I think anyway).]]> Thu, 31 Jul 2008 16:29:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=455139&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#455139 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : I agree that it better not to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=454855&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#454855 Author: CarrieMum
Subject: 19345
Posted: 31 July 2008 at 12:36pm

I agree that it better not to tell too many people that your TTC.
I've told too many and now I can't remember which people I have told and which I haven't so its all rather confusing!]]> Thu, 31 Jul 2008 12:36:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=454855&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#454855 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : I think you have to be careful...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=454841&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#454841 Author: Zina
Subject: 19345
Posted: 31 July 2008 at 12:25pm

I think you have to be careful not to put too much pressure on yourselves. I have such big mouth. When I get excited about something that is usually it and all of a sudden the world knows.

I just have this niggling feeling that maybe we won't fall straight away. I understand that not all women fall straight away and you aren't classified with fertility issues until after 12 months but I would just hate to have people constantly asking how it was going? Too much stress]]> Thu, 31 Jul 2008 12:25:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=454841&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#454841 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : My ILs know we are starting to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=454606&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#454606 Author: minik8e
Subject: 19345
Posted: 31 July 2008 at 9:27am

My ILs know we are starting to try at the end of the year, including my SIL (they will be our biggest support group!!!) and a couple of friends who are TTC #2 at the same time. Other than that...most people know we'd like kids in the next year or two, but they leave it at that.

Edited by minik8e]]> Thu, 31 Jul 2008 09:27:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=454606&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#454606 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : A couple of close friends know...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=454585&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#454585 Author: IVFGirl1111
Subject: 19345
Posted: 31 July 2008 at 8:57am

A couple of close friends know we arent NOT trying but arent trying either (Hi E)!

Most of our friends and family think that we we will start trying within the year anyway! ]]> Thu, 31 Jul 2008 08:57:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=454585&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#454585 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : Many of my &#034;real life&#034;...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=454058&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#454058 Author: kebakat
Subject: 19345
Posted: 30 July 2008 at 5:19pm

Many of my "real life" friends know when we are going to try again. But family dont know. They knew we would be trying around the end of the year but they won't bring it up. Once we get a BFP and have had the first scan we will tell ]]> Wed, 30 Jul 2008 17:19:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=454058&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#454058 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : We didn&#039;t tell anyone, though...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=454027&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#454027 Author: fire_engine
Subject: 19345
Posted: 30 July 2008 at 4:48pm

We didn't tell anyone, though 2 years earlier I asked my MIL to knot us a baby shawl - we started TTC about a month after she finished it, but they were still v surprised when we told them the news. One of my sisters knew we were planning to have kids "in the next year or two". ]]> Wed, 30 Jul 2008 16:48:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=454027&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#454027 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : Only close friends and family...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=453054&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#453054 Author: Hope
Subject: 19345
Posted: 29 July 2008 at 6:52pm

Only close friends and family know.

I'm glad I haven't told my colleagues who are also friends because I feel like they would always be checking me out for signs of pregnancy!

Gazelle, I like thinking about the fact that we might have a baby soon when I am having a boring / crappy day too. I went and had a look at a baby shop at lunchtime today to check stuff out ]]> Tue, 29 Jul 2008 18:52:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=453054&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#453054 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : We haven&#039;t told anyone and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=453013&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#453013 Author: Gazelle
Subject: 19345
Posted: 29 July 2008 at 6:14pm

We haven't told anyone and I want to keep it that way if I can. Officially ttc this month so exciting. I kind of like that it is a secret. Something to think about and cheer me up on a crappy day!]]> Tue, 29 Jul 2008 18:14:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=453013&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#453013 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : I have told my Mum and my sister...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=452873&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#452873 Author: Zina
Subject: 19345
Posted: 29 July 2008 at 3:45pm

I have told my Mum and my sister that we want to start TTC next year and that is it. They live overseas so I don't have to worry about it getting leaked to family back here.

Apart from that I plan on waiting until I get a BFP.]]> Tue, 29 Jul 2008 15:45:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=452873&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#452873 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : We didn&#039;t tell anyone when...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=450308&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#450308 Author: Maya
Subject: 19345
Posted: 26 July 2008 at 5:27pm

We didn't tell anyone when we were TTC the gremlins and in a way I'm glad coz we didn't get all the well meaning advice when things took a while, but in another way I wish I had coz it kind of feels like people don't get how long it took to conceive them and how hard I found the whole thing just coz we didn't keep them updated every month!]]> Sat, 26 Jul 2008 17:27:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=450308&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#450308 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : I&#039;ve told all my workmates,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=449840&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#449840 Author: Emmecat
Subject: 19345
Posted: 25 July 2008 at 9:15pm

I've told all my workmates, my family, friends...no big secret!  I've had nothing but support TBH....although this month when I'm doing the complete opposite from TTC, people seem a little dissapointed....like they want me to be pg more than I do! Quite sweet really..... ]]> Fri, 25 Jul 2008 21:15:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=449840&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#449840 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : With this one we didn&#039;t tell...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=447498&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#447498 Author: Bel
Subject: 19345
Posted: 23 July 2008 at 3:08pm

With this one we didn't tell anyone at all - just felt easier to keep it quiet, and stop comments from people about how to plan our family... (MIL!) 

Actually thinking back, we ddidn't tell anyone with Luke either, but it happened so fast that it wasn't an issue

]]> Wed, 23 Jul 2008 15:08:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=447498&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#447498 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : we have only recently decided...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=447481&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#447481 Author: soon2b3
Subject: 19345
Posted: 23 July 2008 at 2:54pm

we have only recently decided to start trying. he would prefer to keep it to ourselves so we will for now. hence why im on this site though cause if i dont tell anyone i will burst! and i would like some advice and people to talk to! we did agree that i would have to talk to my boss however as i only just started this job 2 months ago! but hse is fine with it, it s a very easy going and informal place and i'll even be able to bring baby in with me while he's little as i wont take too much time off.

i havent even told my best frined yet and its killing me!

]]> Wed, 23 Jul 2008 14:54:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=447481&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#447481 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : Yes, we have told most of our...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=446151&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#446151 Author: GuestGuest
Subject: 19345
Posted: 22 July 2008 at 11:08am

Yes, we have told most of our friends. We haven't told either of our folks though because we want to surprise them - they have no idea because we have never wanted to have kids up till about 6 months ago.

I enjoy talking to everyone about it and it doesn't bother me in the slightest telling people I'm not preg yet but then I'm not baby crazy. My sis-in-law wants me to get preg more than I do I think!]]> Tue, 22 Jul 2008 11:08:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=446151&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#446151 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : just me and DH know LOL - well...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=446039&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#446039 Author: ohanlon82
Subject: 19345
Posted: 22 July 2008 at 9:10am

just me and DH know LOL - well it is kind of good he knows LOL... want to keep it a secret really.. we not trying at the moment so all good...
going to be hard cause i am a real blabber mouth ]]> Tue, 22 Jul 2008 09:10:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=446039&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#446039 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : Well, my best frineds know as...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=446023&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#446023 Author: almostthere
Subject: 19345
Posted: 22 July 2008 at 8:41am

Well, my best frineds know as i had to stop drinking to get my diabetes under control. And when i stopped eating junk as well, they were like: umm?

One of my workmates knows, but thats cos she frequents here too, and my manager.
DH's sister, but thats about it.

Ive told my family that we are thinking about giving it a go.. And they keep doing this whole: Oh, you should just do it, dont plan it etc etc Im like: OMG what do you know? yea sure you guys look at men and fall pg! DO you have t1 diabetes? NO! Do you never have periods? NO! Id love to see YOU fall pg with whats happening in my body for FS!!!

Yea, ok im hormonal today Sorry guys, rant over.....

Edited by almostthere]]> Tue, 22 Jul 2008 08:41:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=446023&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#446023 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : Our TTC was a secret until we...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445958&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445958 Author: mummyofprinces
Subject: 19345
Posted: 21 July 2008 at 10:50pm

Our TTC was a secret until we fell pregnant, after the mc everyone knows we are trying.. next time we wont be telling anyone until the nuchal scan (unless I cave cos I am a blabber mouth too)]]> Mon, 21 Jul 2008 22:50:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445958&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445958 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : We had 2 m/c quite close together...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445823&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445823 Author: Babykatnz
Subject: 19345
Posted: 21 July 2008 at 9:16pm

We had 2 m/c quite close together last year, which more or less let the cat out of the bag... before that it had just been my sister, and my best mate...I dont really have that many friends IRL left to talk to about TTC cos they have all gone on to have their own babies and dont really wanna talk about anything else but them kwim? Its kinda the last thing I wanna talk about with them, considering what we are going through now.

Definitely feeling the pressure from family, every time we see them its 'How are you guys going?' which is our family-speak for 'Are you guys preg yet?']]> Mon, 21 Jul 2008 21:16:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445823&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445823 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : Good luck with the test results!!!! We...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445783&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445783 Author: .Mel
Subject: 19345
Posted: 21 July 2008 at 8:46pm

Good luck with the test results!!!!

We didn't tell anyone we were trying with Cooper... just kept it to ourselves. Funnily enough no one was surprised when we did tell them.]]> Mon, 21 Jul 2008 20:46:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445783&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445783 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : we told most people that we were...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445758&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445758 Author: Two Blondinis
Subject: 19345
Posted: 21 July 2008 at 8:22pm

we told most people that we were TTC with Caitlin and REALLY wished we hadn't! It was bad enough getting AF every month without comments like "are you pregnant yet?" "are you sure you're doing it right"

This time we wanted to announce and "accident" when we got our BFP but DH blabbed to my parents when explaining why we moved Caitlin out of her nursery into a bigger room (he could have said the furniture didn't fit but nooooo.. "that's the baby's room" WTF?!?!? What baby? LOL
So my family are the only ones that know, along with my IRL Oh Baby friends and you lot ]]> Mon, 21 Jul 2008 20:22:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445758&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445758 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : I keep telling people that we...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445756&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445756 Author: mummymegs
Subject: 19345
Posted: 21 July 2008 at 8:21pm

I keep telling people that we will be starting to TTC at the end of the year. I'm really hopping that we will be pg by then, not sure how I will feel if it takes us a lot longer than that. Only my friends who are ttc too know about us. It has been a great support for us.]]> Mon, 21 Jul 2008 20:21:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445756&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445756 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : When we were TTC Jack no one knew,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445721&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445721 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 19345
Posted: 21 July 2008 at 7:45pm

When we were TTC Jack no one knew, I didn't want any pressure if it took us a while. We are planning to TTC #2 in Jan and only my coffee group girls know as we all discuss when we will start. I won't tell anyone else though.]]> Mon, 21 Jul 2008 19:45:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445721&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445721 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : To be honest I regret telling...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445713&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445713 Author: JadeC
Subject: 19345
Posted: 21 July 2008 at 7:38pm

To be honest I regret telling the people I did tell. Not that anyone has been anything but nice, but just the pressure of people constantly asking and hoping gets to me. So I haven't told anyone else lately, and no-one in either family knows.]]> Mon, 21 Jul 2008 19:38:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445713&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445713 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : Hey that&#039;s fantastic news...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445694&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445694 Author: MrsMojo
Subject: 19345
Posted: 21 July 2008 at 7:25pm

Hey that's fantastic news about your boss and great that you have some friends that you can talk things through with.

 

When we were TTC Michaela my mum, my oldest sis and a friend knew.  This time my mum & dad, my MIL, DHs boss, my MW and a friend all know we're going to start TTC soon.  When I do get bfp I don't think it'll be a surprise to most people that know me IRL because I'm super clucky and make no effort to hide it.

]]> Mon, 21 Jul 2008 19:25:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445694&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445694 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : When we were trying for James...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445653&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445653 Author: Bubbaloo
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Posted: 21 July 2008 at 6:51pm

When we were trying for James a few of our friends new and they were all really supportive which was great. Think it's personal choice if you chose to tell people or not.]]> Mon, 21 Jul 2008 18:51:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445653&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445653 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : Hey Becks That&#039;s my principal....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445645&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445645 Author: lovingmummyhood
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Posted: 21 July 2008 at 6:43pm

Hey Becks That's my principal. I don't think my team leader would be quite so understanding, but then I probably shouldn't assume that.
We weren't going to tell anyone and it was just going to be a cool 'surprise' but after about 14 months I kind of 'gave up' the idea of it being a surprise for people and shared it. Now, I'm not too worried who knows, although I haven't told my parents yet . Will do soon I think though.
It's been about 18 months now... but we've started the testing process and will hopefully have a plan soon ]]> Mon, 21 Jul 2008 18:43:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445645&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445645 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : That is so cool of your boss,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445626&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445626 Author: mummy_becks
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Posted: 21 July 2008 at 6:27pm

That is so cool of your boss, is that the principal of the school or your team leader??

At the moment the only "real life" person that knows were will be trying at the end of the year are the girls that know me on here.

]]> Mon, 21 Jul 2008 18:27:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445626&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445626 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : Only a few people know - literally...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445605&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445605 Author: VioletStar
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Posted: 21 July 2008 at 5:57pm

Only a few people know - literally a few... I knew we'd be in for a long haul when we started trying so I only told my mum & her hubby and my grandmother.
I only told them about 4 mths after we started trying.
And my partner didn't want to tell anyone, especially his parents as they'd get their hopes up and probably wouldn't understand the infertility side of things.

Just didn't think I could face people asking questions on how it was going as a constant reminder. Lucky I have a lovely partner who doesn't mind listening to all I have to say when upset/stressed lol



Edited by wishin41]]> Mon, 21 Jul 2008 17:57:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445605&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445605 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : Yep, they sure do... but then...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445601&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445601 Author: AngieBabe
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Posted: 21 July 2008 at 5:48pm

Yep, they sure do... but then again I'm a bit of a blabber mouth with my own 'secrets' and there wasn't a lot of chance I could keep the TTC kind of information to myself, specially now we're having fertility issues - I often need to talk to get it out of my head and into making some kind of sense, so quite a few people know.]]> Mon, 21 Jul 2008 17:48:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445601&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445601 <![CDATA[Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC? : Just a random thought because...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445595&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445595 Author: lovingmummyhood
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Posted: 21 July 2008 at 5:43pm

Just a random thought because I seriously feel like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders and I want to share . Some of you will know, I have just started having weekly blood tests to check whether I'm ovulating and I had to go today. That's all fine and good but I had to be there before 4pm because the bloods get picked up soon after, so I had to leave work early - which wouldn't be a problem except I'm a teacher and to leave by 3.30pm on the first day of term... hmmm... Anyway, because this is going to be a regular thing for at least the next couple of Mondays I saw my boss to let him know I'd be leaving early. I ended up telling him pretty much the whole thing - and he was AMAZING!! Really understanding and helpful.
I've also told a couple of friends, and we've told DH's dad and it really really helps to have people to talk to especially when things get especially stressful.
Speaking of stressful - I found at the doctors that DH's sample was back so we have an appointment at 5.45pm tomorrow to discuss those results.

Thanks for reading if you still are ]]> Mon, 21 Jul 2008 17:43:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19345&PID=445595&title=do-real-life-people-know-you-are-ttc#445595