OHbaby! Forums : Don’t Tell Me Day https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 17 Apr 2026 05:13:12 +0000 Tue, 31 Mar 2009 16:49:42 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=18943 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Don&#039;t blinking tell me that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=649781&title=dont-tell-me-day#649781 Author: FreeSpirit
Subject: 18943
Posted: 31 March 2009 at 4:49pm

Don't blinking tell me that "we already have one and she's perfect, I don't want another"     You don't bl***y help with this child, what difference will it make to you if I have another? How much do I ask for? How much do you spend on her? Oh, that's right, nearly $300 in 8 months!!!! Give me a break you selfish person. aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrggggghhhhh.
I don't want to wait, it's now or never, my mum had complete hysterectomy by 32, you do not get to say maybe in a few years, thats not an option!!!]]> Tue, 31 Mar 2009 16:49:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=649781&title=dont-tell-me-day#649781 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Oooh girls, I hate that &#034;have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=649407&title=dont-tell-me-day#649407 Author: Crakleys
Subject: 18943
Posted: 31 March 2009 at 11:20am

Oooh girls, I hate that "have fun trying" thing - it is SO not fun! It sucks all the fun out of it and ruins your s%x life - LOL!

"Your turn next" is another pet peeve!!!

Thank god I'm not in this alone.

]]> Tue, 31 Mar 2009 11:20:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=649407&title=dont-tell-me-day#649407 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : My two cents: But you have two...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=649145&title=dont-tell-me-day#649145 Author: Bunny
Subject: 18943
Posted: 30 March 2009 at 10:06pm

My two cents:

But you have two children who have virtualy left home - why on earth would you want to start again!! Oh I don't know - BECAUSE I WANT TO, MY DP AND I WANT A BABY OF OUR OWN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ETA: Cos shouldn't have been feeling so sorry for myself

Edited by Bunny]]> Mon, 30 Mar 2009 22:06:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=649145&title=dont-tell-me-day#649145 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : ooh ooh. let me join. &#034;it&#039;s...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=649109&title=dont-tell-me-day#649109 Author: LMSunshine
Subject: 18943
Posted: 30 March 2009 at 9:41pm

ooh ooh. let me join. "it's perfectly normal to want a a baby. I felt that way myself. It'll happen when it's the right time" coming from my SIL who got pregnant after what, 3 months? Isn't funny how it's the ones with kids who're convinced it'll happen, but don't seem to understand how important NOW is? Grrr... Sometimes I just wanna scream. Ooh, and to top it off. Now all we ever hear about is the baby. As if I need to be reminded constantly about something I want so badly.
There's my grizzle. Strangely enough I feel a bit better.]]> Mon, 30 Mar 2009 21:41:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=649109&title=dont-tell-me-day#649109 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Haha JDs soo true!! like the most...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=648501&title=dont-tell-me-day#648501 Author: Lexidore
Subject: 18943
Posted: 30 March 2009 at 1:19pm

Haha JDs soo true!! like the most romantic line in the world is

"comeon babe im ovulating!!" haha]]> Mon, 30 Mar 2009 13:19:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=648501&title=dont-tell-me-day#648501 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : all we heard from hubbys work...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=648360&title=dont-tell-me-day#648360 Author: 2boysnbug
Subject: 18943
Posted: 30 March 2009 at 11:29am

all we heard from hubbys work mates was

"At least ya have fun trying! "

yeah really sexy and romantic when its ya mucus/calendar/temperature telling you when to b0nk!

]]> Mon, 30 Mar 2009 11:29:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=648360&title=dont-tell-me-day#648360 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : ToniR wrote:do you really think...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=648333&title=dont-tell-me-day#648333 Author: Emily281
Subject: 18943
Posted: 30 March 2009 at 10:58am

Originally posted by ToniR ToniR wrote:

do you really think a pregnant woman would be standing behind a stand with a pint of BEER in her hand?


Wouldn't bet on it Toni. I got so mad the other night because we came out of the rugby to see a very obviously pregnant (I'd say at least 6-7 months) person lighting up a cigarette. Not to mention the pregnant woman who got caught drink driving the other week - 3 times over the legal limit and she was driving because she was the least drunk!

Nat - I know how you feel. Sometimes I just want to tell my mother and MIL to shut up when they tell me it will happen. I've been where you are - in that really negative mood. A few months ago my surgeon told me not to worry it will happen and I was like "yeah right, how the f%#% do you know". Fortunately I kept my mouth shut though

ETA: screw the diet - have the chocolate!!!

Edited by Emily281]]> Mon, 30 Mar 2009 10:58:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=648333&title=dont-tell-me-day#648333 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Waa thanks guys...just in a very...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=648138&title=dont-tell-me-day#648138 Author: Nutella
Subject: 18943
Posted: 29 March 2009 at 10:18pm

Waa thanks guys...just in a very negative mood today and sooooo wish I could just munch down a giant chocolate bar haha! Stupid old diet.]]> Sun, 29 Mar 2009 22:18:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=648138&title=dont-tell-me-day#648138 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Hugs Nat thats all i can say!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=648126&title=dont-tell-me-day#648126 Author: Lexidore
Subject: 18943
Posted: 29 March 2009 at 9:56pm

Hugs Nat thats all i can say!! HUGS!! ]]> Sun, 29 Mar 2009 21:56:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=648126&title=dont-tell-me-day#648126 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Nat wrote:Why can&#039;t somone...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=648124&title=dont-tell-me-day#648124 Author: PixieL
Subject: 18943
Posted: 29 March 2009 at 9:55pm

Originally posted by Nat Nat wrote:

Why can't somone say to me, I can understand how scared you are that you might never have children.


We understand Nat ]]> Sun, 29 Mar 2009 21:55:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=648124&title=dont-tell-me-day#648124 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Aw Nat!!! There is always a way...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=648121&title=dont-tell-me-day#648121 Author: RinTinTin
Subject: 18943
Posted: 29 March 2009 at 9:50pm

Aw Nat!!!

There is always a way to be a mother.
My Aunty was never supposed to be able to have children and last year she had a lovely baby girl using IVF treatment. She also has an adopted son.
My SIL as never supposed to be able to have kids and she has 3 boys.

I'm sorry, those must be horrible cliches that you probably don't want to hear.

I can only imagine how painfully hard it must be for you wondering if you will ever get your chance. All of the OHBaby girls will always be here for you though.]]> Sun, 29 Mar 2009 21:50:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=648121&title=dont-tell-me-day#648121 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : What about (after having tried...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=648113&title=dont-tell-me-day#648113 Author: Nutella
Subject: 18943
Posted: 29 March 2009 at 9:43pm

What about (after having tried completely unsuccessfully to get even slightly pregnant for 18 months):

'Don't worry, it will happen even if it takes a while.'

When someone else gets pregnant:

'It will be your turn next'

What if this is all crap and it never happens. I have never been pregnant in my life and to be honest and getting bloody scared that it is never going to happen. Why can't other people acknowledge that instead of just saying it will happen when they don't bloody well know that. Why can't somone say to me, I can understand how scared you are that you might never have children.

When I write that down, I see how ridiculous that sounds as who the hell would ever say that to someone trying but bloody hell...it is in fact a possibility. ]]> Sun, 29 Mar 2009 21:43:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=648113&title=dont-tell-me-day#648113 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : I&#039;ve got another &#034;just...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=647909&title=dont-tell-me-day#647909 Author: Lexidore
Subject: 18943
Posted: 29 March 2009 at 4:03pm

I've got another

"just get drunk and have sex it worked three times for me"

Gah...]]> Sun, 29 Mar 2009 16:03:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=647909&title=dont-tell-me-day#647909 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : omg pixie its soo true! i was...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=647907&title=dont-tell-me-day#647907 Author: _Soda_
Subject: 18943
Posted: 29 March 2009 at 3:56pm

omg pixie its soo true! i was working at a beer festival of all places- and a woman iwas working with for the day, who before that day id never seen in my life blurts out "ok, im just going to ask, how many weeks are you?" OMFG! im NOT PREGNANT! do i look pregnant? i dont think i do. yes i go to the toilet lots- havent you noticed the 3 bottles of water ive consumed this morning in an effort to be healthy? not to mention the BEER ive been drinking- seeing as its a BEER festival do you really think a pregnant woman would be standing behind a stand with a pint of BEER in her hand? far out. some people..
another thing that drives me mad- hasnt happened to me coz im NOT pregnant (if you didnt get that from the above rant lol) but when people think they have the automatic right to feel a pregnant womans stomach. i think its horrible how suddenly your body becomes everyones property once you have a life growing inside it!
love this thread ]]> Sun, 29 Mar 2009 15:56:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=647907&title=dont-tell-me-day#647907 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Hahaha Pixie I Love it!!! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=646970&title=dont-tell-me-day#646970 Author: Lexidore
Subject: 18943
Posted: 27 March 2009 at 9:56pm

Hahaha Pixie I Love it!!!]]> Fri, 27 Mar 2009 21:56:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=646970&title=dont-tell-me-day#646970 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : SO when I was actually PG (ended...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=646964&title=dont-tell-me-day#646964 Author: PixieL
Subject: 18943
Posted: 27 March 2009 at 9:43pm

SO when I was actually PG (ended in MC at 11 1/2 weeks)
Oh you're not drinking are you PG?
If I was and I wanted you to know, I would have told you!
I'm of the firm belief you should never comment on an assumed PG unless
you can actually see the baby's head coming out of the vagina!!!!]]> Fri, 27 Mar 2009 21:43:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=646964&title=dont-tell-me-day#646964 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Oh my turn. The common ones I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=645677&title=dont-tell-me-day#645677 Author: RinTinTin
Subject: 18943
Posted: 26 March 2009 at 3:55pm

Oh my turn.

The common ones I get are:

"It'll happen when it happens"Well no s%#$ sherlock!

"Why don't you travel the world first, do your OE?" Because I don't want to. Is that a good enough answer for you?

"You're still young" And your point is?!!

And my all time favourite:

"What do you want kids for?" Cause I'm human!!! DAH!

Oh that feels good. ]]> Thu, 26 Mar 2009 15:55:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=645677&title=dont-tell-me-day#645677 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : After an early miscarriage...... Don&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=645604&title=dont-tell-me-day#645604 Author: asicsgal
Subject: 18943
Posted: 26 March 2009 at 2:51pm

After an early miscarriage......
Don't think of it as a baby
It wasn't meant to be
It was for the best, there must have been something wrong...
Well, why did there have to be something wrong, why couldn't I have just had a healthy bubba!!!!!!
]]> Thu, 26 Mar 2009 14:51:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=645604&title=dont-tell-me-day#645604 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : DH saying &#034;I don&#039;t want...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=645418&title=dont-tell-me-day#645418 Author: Roses are Red
Subject: 18943
Posted: 26 March 2009 at 11:52am

DH saying "I don't want a child, we have two already "(mine from prev relationship).

I don't friggin care that we have two already, I want another one, I want to have a child with someone that is actually a good father and loves their child and doesnt use them as a pawn in mind games.

I want to have that connection that having a child gives you and i want our marriage to feel whole as there is something missing and that is our child.

I want you to do this for me, i do so much for you and its about time that I won something that we disagreed on for once...

And when I do get pregnant, because it IS going to happen sometime I want you to be as excited as I am!!!!!!!!!!!

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ah, that feels better, I feel sorry for my keyboard though lol.
Oh and DH I love ya xxx]]> Thu, 26 Mar 2009 11:52:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=645418&title=dont-tell-me-day#645418 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=645288&title=dont-tell-me-day#645288 Author: Lexidore
Subject: 18943
Posted: 26 March 2009 at 9:21am

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGG
HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!]]> Thu, 26 Mar 2009 09:21:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=645288&title=dont-tell-me-day#645288 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : One more i hate..............At...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=645135&title=dont-tell-me-day#645135 Author: LouD
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 10:06pm

One more i hate..............At least you have two boys already

Yes my heart goes out to people who are having trouble TTC #1 but my yearn for a sibling for my youngest son is so great it aches!!! my feelings are not any less because i already have two kids!!!!

I would love to be a SAHM but i also would lose myself if i did which wouldnt be any good for my children........both my DS have been in care of some sort since 10mnths old part time then full time after they were 1 and they are the most well rounded, well behaved, loveable children, and love daycare, every day i go to pick my son up he doesnt want to leave because hes having so much fun......the social skills and development he has got from this is not something i would have been able to give him by staying at home.........

I do wish i could afford a slightly better balance with work and home, but unfortunately you have to work enough hours to make it worth the while working]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 22:06:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=645135&title=dont-tell-me-day#645135 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : You just can&#039;t win sometimes...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=645057&title=dont-tell-me-day#645057 Author: asicsgal
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 9:01pm

You just can't win sometimes aye. Dammed if you do and dammed if you don't. (SAHM or not SAHM)I'm sure we will all get way more fecked up WTF comments yet. If these comments didn't hurt so much at times they would be a total crack up, and don't you just want to turn around to some of these people and just say WTF!!!!! ]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 21:01:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=645057&title=dont-tell-me-day#645057 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : ALSO, like how people get made...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644864&title=dont-tell-me-day#644864 Author: _Soda_
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 6:07pm

ALSO, like how people get made to feel guilty for going back to work, i also have had a few guilt trips for being able to stay home with my kids! theres a reason we havent had them yet, and thats coz i want to be in the situation where i can be a SAHM or work only a few hours. and i am working my a$$ off to pay my debts and achieve my dream. i wont feel guilty for that. and i dont think anyone should feel guilty for ANY decision they make about their family in regards to the work/not work situation. man, life is tough enough as it is without being judged for doing what is right or what is the only option!

again... GRRRRRR ]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 18:07:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644864&title=dont-tell-me-day#644864 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : OOH ME ME! &#034;Well i bet once...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644862&title=dont-tell-me-day#644862 Author: _Soda_
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 6:04pm

OOH ME ME!

"Well i bet once you have babies you wont want to work with them in your job anymore!"

What if i do? is it your business? i actually LIKE my job you know!its not like i do my job to make up for the fact i dont have kids- its because i want to make a difference and i love what i do!

"why do you want kids? you get to work with them all day and you still get to sleep in on weekends! I bet your job is the best contraception around"

You REALLY think being a preschool teacher is equal to the maternal love you have for your own children? maybe i WANT to have a decent reason to get out of bed on the weekends! for someone other than myself!!!

You have heaps of time, youre only 24

GRRRR! its MY choice when i decide its right for me to have children, i DONT want to choose to be 60 and still have my children at home- i want to be a young-ish grandma one day! you DONT know my situation and my reasons behind it, leave me alone!

dont have children yet, you should go on a good 2 year OE and see the world and experience life before settling down and getting "Stuck" with children!"

OMG PEOPLE! I DONT WANT TO TRAVEL THE WORLD! ILL HAPPILY DO THAT WITH MY CHILDREN WHEN THEY ARE OLDER IN SMALL SPURTS IF WE CHOOSE TO THEN!!! I DONT WANT TO SEE THE WORLD AND "EXPERIENCE LIFE"! I WANT TO BRING UP A FAMILY AND EXPERIENCE WHY LIFE IS WORTH LIVING!"

omg...maybe you shouldnt have got me started! i could go on and on for aaaaages lol!


GRRRR!

ahhhhh that felt good thanks!]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 18:04:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644862&title=dont-tell-me-day#644862 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Emily281 wrote: I&#039;d like...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644847&title=dont-tell-me-day#644847 Author: asicsgal
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 5:49pm

Originally posted by Emily281 Emily281 wrote:


I'd like to be a SAHM, but at the same time I think it might drive me insane! Maybe I'll just work part time, but either way its MY choice and if I do choose to go back to work full-time it doesn't mean I love my baby any less or that they would be getting sub-standard care

Amen to that, I will be lucky that hopefully if DH goes back to shift work he can look after bubba for three/ four days a week as he will be working 3 day shifts, 3 night shifts and three days off. Plus I can work a bit from home so not so bad for me. I need extra brain stimulation so I'd have to do something else anyway. I just can't wait to have a bubba. ]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 17:49:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644847&title=dont-tell-me-day#644847 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : that&#039;s ok Karen ... this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644802&title=dont-tell-me-day#644802 Author: Emily281
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 4:34pm

that's ok Karen ... this thread is where we can be harsh and say things that we probably wouldn't say to the people saying insensitive stuff to us!]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 16:34:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644802&title=dont-tell-me-day#644802 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : opps - just re-read my post and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644776&title=dont-tell-me-day#644776 Author: karenm
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 3:55pm

opps - just re-read my post and that sounded a lot harsher than I meant it to.   I know people mean well but it doesn't make it any less heartbreaking or frustrating.

]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 15:55:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644776&title=dont-tell-me-day#644776 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : This is a brillant thread!!!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644772&title=dont-tell-me-day#644772 Author: karenm
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 3:51pm

This is a brillant thread!!!!

Think I've had most of the comments at least once and unfortunately some more than once especially "it was probably for the best" and "I can't begin to imagine how you're feeling" ...........after 2 m/c you're damn right they can't!!!!

]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 15:51:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644772&title=dont-tell-me-day#644772 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : oh this thread is great. Even...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644718&title=dont-tell-me-day#644718 Author: millysmum
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 2:35pm

oh this thread is great. Even my sister who is really keen for me to have a baby keeps telling me that i've got plenty of time etc. The day they decided to come off the pill she got pg, she's now decided to come off it to try for #2 and i'm sure she'll get pg straght away again. She is 8 year older than me so she thinks that it's more important for her to get pg asap than me but she hasn't been wanting a bubba for year and years like me! We have only been trying for a few months but i've been wanting bubba for almost 5 years!!!! (only just been allowed to try recently)]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 14:35:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644718&title=dont-tell-me-day#644718 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : I will not be able to be a full-time...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644694&title=dont-tell-me-day#644694 Author: Lexidore
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 2:13pm

I will not be able to be a full-time SAHM either, i will be probably studying full-time and working part-time. May not start the working part-time as well until Baby is over a year but will still be at uni! And that is all so that i can go back to work full-time once ive got my qual!

We will struggle while i am at uni even though i will qualify for an allowance by then being over 24 by that stage. There will be no luxuries just the essentials.]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 14:13:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644694&title=dont-tell-me-day#644694 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : he keeps lecturing me on how if...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644690&title=dont-tell-me-day#644690 Author: GuestGuest
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 2:08pm

[/QUOTE]he keeps lecturing me on how if you can't afford to stay at home and raise your kids yourself then you shouldn't have them .... GRRRRRR. Welcome to the 21st century moron .... not everyone CAN afford to stay home these days. And Ok, my DH and I could live off just his wage if we really HAD to but I just don't see that we have to. I'd like to be a SAHM, but at the same time I think it might drive me insane! [/QUOTE]

I had exactly the same conversation (I mean argument with my dad Emily. I said that I would like to go back to work at least part time after I have a baby because I think being a SAHM would drive me insane. And he said "well if the baby is going to drive you insane then you shouldn't have one!" People of his generation just don't get it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 14:08:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644690&title=dont-tell-me-day#644690 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : asicsgal wrote:Like when we...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644670&title=dont-tell-me-day#644670 Author: Emily281
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 1:54pm

Originally posted by asicsgal asicsgal wrote:

Like when we actually have a bubba I will have to go back to work otherwise we'd never be able to afford morgage etc, one income just won't be enough. I'd love to stay at home but it's not just possible.


It really annoys me when people judge you for going back to work. There's a guy I work with (who knows how long we have been TTC) and I've said how I will have to go back to work after we have a baby (IF we have a baby!!) and he keeps lecturing me on how if you can't afford to stay at home and raise your kids yourself then you shouldn't have them .... GRRRRRR. Welcome to the 21st century moron .... not everyone CAN afford to stay home these days. And Ok, my DH and I could live off just his wage if we really HAD to but I just don't see that we have to. I'd like to be a SAHM, but at the same time I think it might drive me insane! Maybe I'll just work part time, but either way its MY choice and if I do choose to go back to work full-time it doesn't mean I love my baby any less or that they would be getting sub-standard care ]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 13:54:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644670&title=dont-tell-me-day#644670 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : What is it about the marriage...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644644&title=dont-tell-me-day#644644 Author: asicsgal
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 1:35pm

What is it about the marriage thing I wonder, I mean for me it is important but I'm happy to wait. I come from a Christian family and even when I told Dad that we were ttc surprizingly he didn't say anything like that. (You are not supposed to even have sex before marriage). I think he knows that we are very happy and DH and I will be together till we are old and grey LOL!! Plus as a family we've been through a lot so maybe he knew not to say anything like that.
Life has very much changed over the years. Like when we actually have a bubba I will have to go back to work otherwise we'd never be able to afford morgage etc, one income just won't be enough. I'd love to stay at home but it's not just possible.
Still there are plenty of people who say
Well we did it back in our day.
Some times Mum's say the worst things, I am sure if my Mum was still alive she'd have something to say about our ttc efforts LOL!!!]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 13:35:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644644&title=dont-tell-me-day#644644 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : ohh i got the weight comment too,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644631&title=dont-tell-me-day#644631 Author: Lizze
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 1:21pm

ohh i got the weight comment too, from my mum!
She said that our whole family get elephant thighs when they get pregnant, and i should lose a couple of kilos before even trying.
And I'm not fat! I would like to lost 5kg to be at a weight I enjoy, but I still look small.

And then yesterday 'ohhhh you've lost weight!!'
Well actually no i haven't, and I haven't been even trying, I just made an effort to dress nicely this morning]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 13:21:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644631&title=dont-tell-me-day#644631 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : I got asked that question too...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644603&title=dont-tell-me-day#644603 Author: Lexidore
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 1:03pm

I got asked that question too after miscarrying then telling a friend we were going to try again. "Why not marriage first??" (I wouldnt have been married by the time that baby had come anyways even if it had stuck) Got quite a lot of comments to do with miscarrying that others have mentioned plus....

"oh cant have been the right time at least now you dont have to worry"


"I think you would be better off losing weight first!"

"Surely your too young" (from parents/grandparents who both had their first kids @ 18-19 I am 23)

"I wish you would settle down first" (grandmother... how am i not settled down)

Oh and all the comments from people who think they know when your most fertile but are sadly misguided

"just make sure you have sex right before AF"
"have more sex"
"dont have as much sex"

and i could probably go on for hours!!]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 13:03:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644603&title=dont-tell-me-day#644603 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : OMG OMG How about, ...... -You...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644589&title=dont-tell-me-day#644589 Author: asicsgal
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 12:52pm

OMG OMG
How about, ......
-You are putting too much pressure on yourself
-Just relax and it will happen
Re: Charting
-You know too much!!!!
Lizzie, having a child together is far more of a commitment in my eyes than marriage, DH & I arn't married or engaged (it's on the cards for next year), and blowed if I am waiting for marriage to have a baby!!!!
Chickiou (Louise) LOL I think you would have a mutany on your hands if you couldn't talk to us Oh Baby chicks. We'd be down in Otaki giving your DH a good talking to, he he he!! ]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 12:52:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644589&title=dont-tell-me-day#644589 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Oh man, lizze, that reminds me...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644553&title=dont-tell-me-day#644553 Author: GuestGuest
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 12:22pm

Oh man, lizze, that reminds me of everyone who always asks when we are going to have kids. Like we are strange that we don't have any. That p***sses me off that people think that we NEED to have kids. I have taken to saying "we don't like children". That usually shuts them up.

The other day I told my DH's gran that we were still thinking about it and she said "Well you're not going to get pregnant just by thinking about it!!"

Really? ]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 12:22:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644553&title=dont-tell-me-day#644553 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Elleroo wrote:This thread is...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644489&title=dont-tell-me-day#644489 Author: Emily281
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 11:25am

Originally posted by Elleroo Elleroo wrote:

This thread is awesome! Kinda encouraging that heaps of the girls from the start are now pg - and I remember them all! arrrgh! Yeo, still here!!!!!


Yeah me too!

Oh wait a minute I was one of the girls from the start! ... and ya know what .... I'm still getting the same f#%^&ing comments

The scariest thing for me is seeing how far along some of these women are ]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 11:25:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644489&title=dont-tell-me-day#644489 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Oh and the DEPO comments.... -Why...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644353&title=dont-tell-me-day#644353 Author: Lizze
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 9:15am

Oh and the DEPO comments....

-Why are you spending money on alternative medicine, surely it's just a matter of waiting for it to happen??
-So do you regret going on the DEPO now??
-I don't know why people go to so much effort, it'll happen when it's supposed to happen. ]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 09:15:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644353&title=dont-tell-me-day#644353 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : A little bit different but I keep...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644349&title=dont-tell-me-day#644349 Author: Lizze
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 9:11am

A little bit different but I keep getting..

So, It must be your turn to have kids now?
Are you guys ever going to start a family?

and when I mention that we have talked about it

Oh, but surely you'd get married first?!?!
THREE PEOPLE SO FAR!!

My DP has enough stress and anxiety without me bringing up marriage at the moment. I consider myself lucky it was his idea to start ttc in the first place.
And I don't want to be one of those girls who has to ask him to marry me. One day it will happen!]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 09:11:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644349&title=dont-tell-me-day#644349 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : This thread is awesome! Kinda...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644336&title=dont-tell-me-day#644336 Author: Crakleys
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 9:00am

This thread is awesome! Kinda encouraging that heaps of the girls from the start are now pg - and I remember them all! arrrgh! Yeo, still here!!!!!

The one that annoys me is a friend that keeps saying "oh but you'll probably have a baby then" when she knows it's not happening for me!!!]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 09:00:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644336&title=dont-tell-me-day#644336 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Awesome!!! IM SO OVER SEX!!!!!!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644315&title=dont-tell-me-day#644315 Author: LouD
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 8:24am

Awesome!!!

IM SO OVER SEX!!!!!!!

IM SO OVER SO CALLED FRIENDS WHO ARE NEVER THERE FOR YOU WHEN YOU NEED THEM THE MOST

IM OVER THIS BLOODY WAIT, then GETTING PG ONLY TO THEN HAVE A MC

IM OVER NOT HAVING ANY CONTROL OVER THIS SITUATION

IM OVER NOT HAVING A SIBLING FOR MY SON

IM OVER MY DH TELLING ME THAT NEXT TIME I CANT TELL ANYONE IM PREG, EVEN ANYONE ON HERE.................TRY AND STOP ME BUDDY, IM ONLY SURVIVING BECAUSE I HAVE MY OB SUPPORT

IM OVER MY DH NOT GETTING OFF HIS ARSE AND DOING SOMETHING ABOUT HIS WORKING LIFE AND ALWAYS TELLING ME AN IDEA THEN EXPECTING ME TO DO ALL THE GROUND WORK FOR HIM THEN HIM NOT EVER DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT BUT JUST TALK.............BUDDY YOUVE BEEN TALKING FOR 9 YEARS NOW..........STOP WAITING FOR YOUR LIFE TO BE HANDED TO YOU GIFT WRAPPED WITH A SILVER BOW, ONLY YOU CAN CHANGE THINGS NO ONE ELSE

STUPID STUPID STUPID DEPO I HAAAAAATTTTTEEEEEE YOU!!!!!!

hmmmmm that feels so much better]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 08:24:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644315&title=dont-tell-me-day#644315 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : LOL this is a great thread, I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644298&title=dont-tell-me-day#644298 Author: asicsgal
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 7:06am

LOL this is a great thread, I am sure many of us will be able to have a good scream.
When I had the chem preg last month this is what the doctor said to me. He was a dumb ars.... and not the doctor I've seen before but I've sworn off them and refuse to go back so now have to find another doctor, (It's a medical centre).
Now don't get all worried thinking about your age and the clock ticking! What a F....WIT!!!!
]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 07:06:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644298&title=dont-tell-me-day#644298 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Yes I could use it! But not for...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644289&title=dont-tell-me-day#644289 Author: Nutella
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 12:41am

Yes I could use it!
But not for venting at other people,maybe for venting at my own stupid bloody ideas every month that I am going to be miraculously pregnant when really my small and tiny brain knows that it is so not going to happen and why do I flippin set myself up for blinkin disappointment.
Every bloody month....grrrrrrrrrr I hate myself for it!!!!!

And luckily none of you can say awww it will be alright coz not allowed in this forum right!]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 00:41:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644289&title=dont-tell-me-day#644289 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : We didnt really tell anyone we...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644287&title=dont-tell-me-day#644287 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 18943
Posted: 25 March 2009 at 12:14am

We didnt really tell anyone we were TTC so I didnt get any comments, thank goodness. But I can imagine how annoying they are, just like the ones you get while pregnant grr

But, its so hard knowing what to say to someone who is ttc, you tend to say things like what most have you have stated cos you dont know what else to say lol.]]> Wed, 25 Mar 2009 00:14:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644287&title=dont-tell-me-day#644287 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Hehe I remember this thread!!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644285&title=dont-tell-me-day#644285 Author: WestiesGirl
Subject: 18943
Posted: 24 March 2009 at 11:58pm

Hehe I remember this thread!!! Rant away I say ]]> Tue, 24 Mar 2009 23:58:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644285&title=dont-tell-me-day#644285 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Thought i might bump this thread...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644272&title=dont-tell-me-day#644272 Author: Lexidore
Subject: 18943
Posted: 24 March 2009 at 10:57pm

Thought i might bump this thread up as i can imagine there are a few of us in the TTC threads at the moment that could use it!!]]> Tue, 24 Mar 2009 22:57:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=644272&title=dont-tell-me-day#644272 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : The latest one - &#034;Your so...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=440701&title=dont-tell-me-day#440701 Author: TraceyA
Subject: 18943
Posted: 16 July 2008 at 7:59am

The latest one - "Your so busy and have so many fiddly interests, if you got pregnant you'd have to stop them all, so maybe it's a good thing." WTF!

2 pages of venting, don't you just love it!

Jezsika - yay you for standing up to him, I'm glad he said it to you, just because sometimes people need to be put in their place ]]> Wed, 16 Jul 2008 07:59:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=440701&title=dont-tell-me-day#440701 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Jezsika wrote: Freaking...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=437569&title=dont-tell-me-day#437569 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 18943
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 10:06pm

Originally posted by Jezsika Jezsika wrote:





Freaking people who get breathed on by their partners and get pregnant

OH OH OH and when i was pregnant with Max i had a complete asshat say to me "spose your just popping out kids to go on the dole, more kids you have more money you can get"






I replied with "we dont need the dole and for your information i suffer from infertility and we dont know how long it would take us to get pregnant so we did it young, i love my kids and have them actually wanting them!"

That shut him up fast and made him turn a nice shade of red!


i think im one of the "got breathed on and got pregnant " as far as Caitlyn was concerned, but i dont think that will happen this time , murphys law and all

but oh my god that people are stupid enough to say its for the dole ! for fs sake !!! ]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 22:06:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=437569&title=dont-tell-me-day#437569 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : oh but its only been 7 months...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=437356&title=dont-tell-me-day#437356 Author: monikah
Subject: 18943
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 6:44pm

oh but its only been 7 months and you look after 2 beautiful children all day ----> 7 months can seem like a long time and i love them with all my heart but they arent MY kids!!!!]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 18:44:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=437356&title=dont-tell-me-day#437356 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Oh and I&#039;m with you Mel on...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=437337&title=dont-tell-me-day#437337 Author: Emily281
Subject: 18943
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 6:21pm

Oh and I'm with you Mel on the not drinking thing. work had arranged a girls night out last week after work (well starting at 4:30 ) and when I said I wasn't going I had TWO people ask if I was knocked up. No I'm working late, I'm on anti-biotics and I have AF so I'm about to start taking some pretty cool painkillers so DO NOT ASK ME IF I'm $%%&^$&^* PREGNANT!!!

But I no longer have AF so I'm mostly down to just annoyed now ]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 18:21:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=437337&title=dont-tell-me-day#437337 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : My favourite: From someone who...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=437334&title=dont-tell-me-day#437334 Author: Emily281
Subject: 18943
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 6:18pm

My favourite:
From someone who started trying about the same time as me but got her BFP about 4 months ago ... right after she got her BFP and I'd just been told by my doctor that I had to try for another 12 months before I could see a specialist:

"Just hold on it will happen for you one day I know it will. I don't know if you're religious or not but I beleive God has a plan for us all and you will get pg when He wants you to"

Leaving out the religious part 'cause I'd hate to start a theological argument ... I just wanted to smack the smug cow around the head ]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 18:18:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=437334&title=dont-tell-me-day#437334 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : how about &#034; your lucky anyway...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=436051&title=dont-tell-me-day#436051 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 18943
Posted: 09 July 2008 at 10:54pm

how about " your lucky anyway , why anyone would want to be pregnant is beyond me , i was sick as a dog, and my back was killing me .....johnny ! dont put the cat in the fire ! ...why do you want kids anyway ?" ]]> Wed, 09 Jul 2008 22:54:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=436051&title=dont-tell-me-day#436051 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : OH and the your not drinking,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=435700&title=dont-tell-me-day#435700 Author: mummyofprinces
Subject: 18943
Posted: 09 July 2008 at 7:02pm

OH and the your not drinking, are you pregnant?

Umm no, I just dont feel like booze today....]]> Wed, 09 Jul 2008 19:02:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=435700&title=dont-tell-me-day#435700 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Say to yourself everyday &#034;...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=435536&title=dont-tell-me-day#435536 Author: tibby
Subject: 18943
Posted: 09 July 2008 at 4:46pm

Say to yourself everyday " l deserve to be happy" - WTF!!!!!!!!

Everytime, l have a headache, feel sick, sneeze, fart etc ,"are you pregnant?" NO l'm F@#$*ng NOT!!!]]> Wed, 09 Jul 2008 16:46:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=435536&title=dont-tell-me-day#435536 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Great idea Tracey! Along the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434763&title=dont-tell-me-day#434763 Author: lovingmummyhood
Subject: 18943
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 6:51pm

Great idea Tracey!
Along the same lines as someone else said - how's 'it' going? Well I'd bl**dy well tell you if it was going somewhere!
And I'm so over the 'It'll happen when its meant to happen'. Yeah, well its meant to happen now!!
It'll take longer than you expect - no freaking kidding!!!
Don't think about it and it'll happen - yeah, cause I can just do that!
and also pretty much everything everyone else said!!
Thanks Tracey ]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 18:51:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434763&title=dont-tell-me-day#434763 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : My favs: At least you know you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434749&title=dont-tell-me-day#434749 Author: mummyofprinces
Subject: 18943
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 6:38pm

My favs:

At least you know you can get pregnant

Your only 28, you've got plenty of time (to which I now reply, tell that to my mum who start going through menopause at 31!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)

Everything happens for a reason

I think you should see a Gynie

Well even if you are sad you must pretend to be happy (WTF)

ARRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Why wont you all just shut up and mind your own business!]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 18:38:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434749&title=dont-tell-me-day#434749 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Here goes; While ttc have you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434712&title=dont-tell-me-day#434712 Author: Vanillabean
Subject: 18943
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 6:04pm


Here goes;

While ttc

have you thought about taking your temperature?
My sister went on holiday to fiji and got pregnant
Maybe you should stop trying so hard
Maybe you should try harder
I really thought it would have happened by now, have you thought about seeing a specialist?

After m/c #1

At least you can get pregnant
Things could be worse, I know someone who's dying of ovarian cancer
You won't get pregnant the first month after a m/c, I didn't and I'm superfertile

After m/c #2

This is just a hiccup
You must be disappointed


F**********************************************k !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 18:04:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434712&title=dont-tell-me-day#434712 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : you know what the problem is.......]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434676&title=dont-tell-me-day#434676 Author: Two Blondinis
Subject: 18943
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 5:12pm

you know what the problem is.... MEN! Want anything done, do it yourself

If women could get pregnant all on their own (without test tubes and turkey basters lol) then the world would be bursting at the seams.

Thought I would add a light heart rant

I feel your pain ladies, been there done that and stupidly enough about to put myself through it all over again (and I can't wait!!!!!!!!! )]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 17:12:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434676&title=dont-tell-me-day#434676 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : I&#039;m starting to think that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434648&title=dont-tell-me-day#434648 Author: mummymegs
Subject: 18943
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 4:49pm

I'm starting to think that it is a myth that you need to BD to get PG. Somebody is having a laugh!!! ok...what are the pg girls not telling us. ]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 16:49:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434648&title=dont-tell-me-day#434648 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Oh what about the &#034; Hi how...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434367&title=dont-tell-me-day#434367 Author: NeoshasMummy
Subject: 18943
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 1:05pm

Oh what about the

" Hi how are you? Has it happened yet?"
No not yet
A week later....

"hey!!! Any sign of a the next one yet?"
No not quite
" Oh never mind"


A few weeks later


" Gee its taking its time isnt it, well it will happen when the time is right"
yes an I am mentally gauging your eyes out


After a M/c

"Oh well it just wasnt ment to be"
Alright SOMEBODY hold me back!!!!




Edited by NeoshasMummy]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 13:05:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434367&title=dont-tell-me-day#434367 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : oh and like Neoshas mum &#034;...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434354&title=dont-tell-me-day#434354 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 18943
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 12:57pm

oh and like Neoshas mum " at least you have one baby "

um,yeah , and i would like another, does that make me a criminal ??]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 12:57:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434354&title=dont-tell-me-day#434354 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Here here!! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434353&title=dont-tell-me-day#434353 Author: AngieBabe
Subject: 18943
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 12:57pm

Here here!!]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 12:57:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434353&title=dont-tell-me-day#434353 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : Why dont you wait a bit longer...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434352&title=dont-tell-me-day#434352 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 18943
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 12:56pm

Why dont you wait a bit longer ? if it doesnt happen right away , its ok .....

wait longer ???? ive been waiting for 6years !!!

why dont people , with their well meaning advice, walk in other peoples shoes?or just shutup ?]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 12:56:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434352&title=dont-tell-me-day#434352 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : AAARRRRGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434342&title=dont-tell-me-day#434342 Author: Emmecat
Subject: 18943
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 12:48pm

AAARRRRGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

I don't care if it'll happen when I 'least expect it'!!! I want it to happen NOW!!!!!

and

HOW F*&%^$ HARD IS IT???? THERE'S ONLY ONE BLOODY WAY FOR THE LITTLE GUYS TO GO!!!!!

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 12:48:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434342&title=dont-tell-me-day#434342 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : -It will happen when you least...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434216&title=dont-tell-me-day#434216 Author: NeoshasMummy
Subject: 18943
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 10:36am

-It will happen when you least expect it
-At least you have one baby

WTF??!!!!!!


ARRRGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH


I feel better now]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 10:36:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434216&title=dont-tell-me-day#434216 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : UUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434159&title=dont-tell-me-day#434159 Author: Konagirl
Subject: 18943
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 9:24am

UUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Don't tell me it'll happen when it's meant to happen. I will poke out your eyes.]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 09:24:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434159&title=dont-tell-me-day#434159 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : AAAAAAAAAAAAARGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH! Just...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434134&title=dont-tell-me-day#434134 Author: AngieBabe
Subject: 18943
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 9:01am

AAAAAAAAAAAAARGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!

Just wanted to add a general scream as all I want to say comes out all at once a garbled mess!

Edited by AngieBabe]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 09:01:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434134&title=dont-tell-me-day#434134 <![CDATA[Don’t Tell Me Day : I just want to yell a few things...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434115&title=dont-tell-me-day#434115 Author: TraceyA
Subject: 18943
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 8:39am

I just want to yell a few things at the world right now:

DON'T TELL ME:
- it will happen
- when it's the right time
- when your ready
- when your in the right place
- to concentrate on other things
- to JUST RELAX
- to think about other things
- to stop obsessing
- that when you did XYZ it happened
- women get pregnant all the time
- about another pregnant person you/I know
- it takes time

DON'T GET MY HOPES UP
- I'm allowed to feed my obsession but your not allowed to
- or tell me "you told me so"
- or tell me that I got yours up this time

If you would like to add your own scream please do, please DO NOT reply with hugs and encouragement and words of wisdom, this is a screaming space, sometimes we all just need to vent without words of wisdom from others. And please, if you read this don't take it personally, this is aimed at the general cosmos and not at wonderful individuals.]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 08:39:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18943&PID=434115&title=dont-tell-me-day#434115