https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 18 Apr 2026 04:19:34 +0000 Mon, 30 Jun 2008 18:50:58 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 11.10 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=18682 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427978&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427978 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 18682
Posted: 30 June 2008 at 6:50pm

Yeah I had the tight problem as well and i read in the "what we should have been told" thread in the c/s section that you can get tight downstairs for a while afterwards, which was a relief cos I was thinking i would never have sex again it was so bad the first time we tried.
So yeah just take it easy the first few times and even some extra shop bought lube might help things for bit.]]> Mon, 30 Jun 2008 18:50:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427978&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427978 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427947&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427947 Author: toniellis
Subject: 18682
Posted: 30 June 2008 at 6:26pm

Oh dear! Sorry had a wee chuckle!!
Is the burning from skin stretching or just a burning sensaion from the um,,,, friction?
I remember after Alex & Blaire I was quite "tight" down there which I put down to the fact that they wee c-section babies & the body's natural response was to tighten everything up after giving birth but because they didn't come out that way it was just supertight..... The tight burning feeling disappeared after a few goes.
Didn't have that problem this time & when we got back into "relations" (after just over a week!) it was just like normal

Edited by toniellis]]> Mon, 30 Jun 2008 18:26:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427947&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427947 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427913&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427913 Author: MissAngel
Subject: 18682
Posted: 30 June 2008 at 5:47pm

Oh Im not using shop lube :P I'm actually producing plenty of my own LOL so thats no worry at all hehe. I think perserverance is gonna be key here, i'm back to normal in every way now except for that LOL]]> Mon, 30 Jun 2008 17:47:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427913&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427913 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427703&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427703 Author: cat007
Subject: 18682
Posted: 30 June 2008 at 2:21pm

Lube definately played a big part for us. Still didnt help the burning, time only took care of that. Each time, we would wait a couple of days to a week and then try again. Gradually the burning disappeared. Found out my burning was due to abrasions (scrapes) inside of me due to baby being born. They did gradually disappear as the abrasions healed up. Just give yourself time inbetween each "relation" to continue healing.

Its bad enough trying to get your head around "relations" so soon after baby is born let alone this.
]]> Mon, 30 Jun 2008 14:21:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427703&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427703 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427562&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427562 Author: Deez
Subject: 18682
Posted: 30 June 2008 at 11:58am

Oh hugs, it could have been cos' you were a but tense about having "relations" so soon after giving birth even though you really wanted it......i was.....and we only waited 4 weeks too.... i would wait a couple more weeks before having another go, but hey there are heaps of other things you two could do to each other without actually having to have "relations" in the mean time.....if you get the opportunity to get down and dirty again......but dont give up or let it put you off for life....



Edited by Deez]]> Mon, 30 Jun 2008 11:58:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427562&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427562 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427555&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427555 Author: WRXnKids
Subject: 18682
Posted: 30 June 2008 at 11:51am

All ican say is man your game!!! After josh exited from that er region DP wasnt allowed in a 1m radius of my vajayjay for probably the first 3 months then for his sake we gave it go then that was it for another couple of weeks before we did it again. He could probably count on 1 hand (and tell you exact times and date) of the few times i have let him go there. It still hurts a little but its getting better i think in part its just in my head now.]]> Mon, 30 Jun 2008 11:51:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427555&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427555 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427511&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427511 Author: emz
Subject: 18682
Posted: 30 June 2008 at 11:13am

I would wait another couple of weeks. Most people recommend 6 weeks for your body to get into a new sense of normal. It still hurt for me for about another month after that, but I just kept persevering ]]> Mon, 30 Jun 2008 11:13:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427511&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427511 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427420&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427420 Author: LittleBug
Subject: 18682
Posted: 30 June 2008 at 9:36am

I can't really help, as "relations" *giggle* are still painful for me I have to go see a specialist because it's still inflamed and stuff down there. But I just wanted to give you a hug I totally know how you feel. Especially after feeling totally gross throughout my whole pregnancy, I really love being able to have special cuddles again, but it totally puts a damper on things when you can't really enjoy it properly It sucks!!

Hope that you manage to sort it out, maybe you could try a different lube?]]> Mon, 30 Jun 2008 09:36:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427420&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427420 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427381&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427381 Author: J&Ls mum
Subject: 18682
Posted: 30 June 2008 at 8:48am

Was it a lube you normally use?? We don't normally use any and i find KY burns but KY silk is ok.]]> Mon, 30 Jun 2008 08:48:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427381&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427381 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427168&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427168 Author: Bobbie
Subject: 18682
Posted: 29 June 2008 at 8:04pm

It took me until about 10 weeks before I was lubricated enough for it to feel like it wasn't the 'first time' again. (and Rowan didn't even exit that way!). It's definitely hormones to blame and it will come right. Just take it slow - don't get too down on yourself. ]]> Sun, 29 Jun 2008 20:04:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427168&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427168 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427138&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427138 Author: busymum
Subject: 18682
Posted: 29 June 2008 at 7:47pm

I had issues with this too, more from the stretching outside than the inside bit if that makes sense lol. Give it another week or two and try again, gently, see how you go. I takes a little while to remember how it all works again ]]> Sun, 29 Jun 2008 19:47:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=427138&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#427138 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=426870&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#426870 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 18682
Posted: 29 June 2008 at 11:50am

If you are still having probs mention it to your MW. It is often a bit uncomfy but it shouldnt be so sore that it stops you doing it.]]> Sun, 29 Jun 2008 11:50:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=426870&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#426870 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=426847&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#426847 Author: bookwyrm
Subject: 18682
Posted: 29 June 2008 at 11:07am

It can make you feel a lil depressed. Wait a couple of days and try again, if it does work out... leave it a bit longer (ie. couple of weeks).

Good luck hun xx]]> Sun, 29 Jun 2008 11:07:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=426847&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#426847 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=426845&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#426845 Author: MissAngel
Subject: 18682
Posted: 29 June 2008 at 11:03am

lol there was plenty of lube :P I know what you mean Tara, sucks when you get that burst of crazy hormones and your body isnt quite ready for it yet!]]> Sun, 29 Jun 2008 11:03:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=426845&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#426845 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=426838&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#426838 Author: bookwyrm
Subject: 18682
Posted: 29 June 2008 at 10:54am

I second that. Good luck hun. I remember crying when I first had "relations" with DF a month after PJ was born. I felt randy, but my body wasn't right. I ended up waiting another month until I felt comfortable. But I know what you mean, it is quite upsetting. ]]> Sun, 29 Jun 2008 10:54:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=426838&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#426838 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=426828&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#426828 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 18682
Posted: 29 June 2008 at 10:46am

lack of lube?   I wouldnt let it put you off but maybe try again with HEAPS and HEAPS of lube!!!  ]]> Sun, 29 Jun 2008 10:46:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=426828&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#426828 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=426814&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#426814 Author: MissAngel
Subject: 18682
Posted: 29 June 2008 at 10:29am

Okay I need to ask this cuz you've all been thru it all before etc.
So last night me and Matt actually got some 'time to ourselves' shall we say. First time in many many months and my god it BURNED. I dont have thrush or anything nasty, I expected it to be a bit sore but burning? Its enough to put one off for life! Has anyone else been thru this? It totally put a whole damper on the situation and I got quite upset about it :( ]]> Sun, 29 Jun 2008 10:29:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18682&PID=426814&title=err-relations-totally-tmi#426814